Gif! Gif!

Second Kevin's request. I didn't see the Hugos; I was busy at the Loser's party (I was the scantily-clad waiter).

The whole thing is just too cool.

Interesting! And do you know if ebay's a good resource for handmade cheongsams as well?

It means you can buy semi-directly from Third World suppliers

What's the 'semi-' for? (I mean the question literally, no pun intended. This time.) How does it get more direct than ebay?

I love the way the webernet encourages connections between people who would never otherwise come in contact. If we're gonna learn to love our global neighbors, buying stuff from them is as good a start as any.

(...kameezes?)

G'Bless you.

We demand photos!

That is so cool. I have a salwar that I bought on a trip to a local Indian clothing store (we had gone to get a petticoat for the sari a kind Indian friend had given me for Christmas - I couldn't resist the salwar). It is incredibly comfortable as well as being elegant. However, finding salwars that fit my -er- strapping arms without squeezing was not an easy task. Made-to-order would be a dream.

I do, however, need to get John to take another picture of it complete with the gorgeous MJ Layman Original necklace and earrings specially made to match!

Silly Kevin. Something like this demands a jpeg. (Or three.)

I would like to buy an Indian men's suit - is this also possible to do this way? I should have bought a few when I was there but didn't... Any ideas?

I find myself wondering if you could work this sort of deal out with traditional tailors in places like Shanghai who make western clothing. Thinking about it, a small realspace storefront, a tape measure, a webcam, and some reliable international shipping could mean you could buy and sell custom garments from anywhere.

Andy Perrin wrote:
I love the way the webernet encourages connections...

I saw webernet, and immeadiately thought of a network of grills.

Time to go marinate something, and light some charcoal. I'm hungry.

(n+1)'d on the request for a JPEG! This sounds lovely. I wonder if I could drop broad hints to my husband...:-)

Some dark-ish pictures of the Hugo ceremony:

one

two and three

Having never tried on traditional Indian garments, I have no idea whether they'd suit me or what I'd like in them, but the idea is intriguing.

(I thought about this summer, when I spent a weekend in San Francisco and drove past a street of shops; my best friend from high school was getting married in a Hindu ceremony (and did get married, lest the tenses make you think otherwise) and formal dress was requested. I had no time, though, and was given to understand that they were very expensive.)

Oh, I would love one - half the mothers in the schoolyard in the morning wear them, and they're so graceful and elegant and comfortable looking.

Also, indian shot silk is a treat to look at.

Along those lines, there's a table outside of Our Lady of Pompeii on Carmine Street on the weekends selling scarves made of this - it's yarn made in Nepal by a woman's collective out of scraps of silk sari fabric from India and it's incredibly beautiful.

Photo? That's easy. People always post pictures of the Hugo Ceremony. Here I am with Patrick. I'm wearing a loose black gauze jacket over the salwar kameez, and in this light you can only see the red ends of my dupatta, not its intensely blue center; but this should be enough to give you some idea of the thing.

Popsciolist, I'm afraid you'll have to undertake your own research project.

Andy, I said "semi-directly" because it goes through eBay: a slight degree of intermediation.

Moe, if you'll click on the Bollywood link, you'll find that men's suits are their core business.

Josh, I've heard there are entrepreneurs who'll set up in a hotel room in NYC, spread the word that they're in business, and show fabric samples and take measurements, then go back to Singapore and have suits made up there for a fraction of their price if made in London or New York.

Kate, salwar kameez and saris look good on everyone, or at least everyone I've ever seen wearing one.

Julia, you'd look gorgeous.

Teresa: they very well might look fine to an onlooker, but I am a weirdly picky Kate about some aspects of my clothes. Perhaps sometime when I visit my just-married friend, I'll ask her to take me shopping.

They certainly look *comfortable*, which is all too rare in dress-up clothes (the outfit I bought a week before the wedding was spiffy, but the length-waist ratio was apparently designed for mutants. Spindly ones.).

But do they have pockets?

I detest carrying a bag.

I don't own any full salwar kamizes, but I sometimes wear just the top over dress pants or jeans. (The ones I have are from Maharashtra, which I think is sometimes shorter than some other regional styles-- mine come to the halfway point between my waist and knees, not below the knees.) Anyway, they're very comfortable and casual-looking when worn that way.

I especially like the Jaipur-influence ones with tiny mirrors embroidered into the fabric.

I remember seeing you at the Hugos and it really was a fabulous outfit. It's even better knowing how you got it -- as if it arrived via a science fiction story from not too long ago. Also, it's nice to be reminded that globalization doesn't have to be all bad. It's the details of how the system works that determines whose values are globalized. The difference here is that eBay and the shipper charge a fee for being middlemen, but they don't set the price of the goods or control the supply.

Amidst all the discussion of the garments (which are quite nice, btw) I find myself wondering about the etymology of salwar kameez, or in particular, the kameez part.

The French word chemise springs to mind, and I can't help but wonder if they come from the same Indo-European stem, or if it's a European word that's gone to India and taken root. Linguists?

No idea. I can tell it's the same word, but I don't know where it's been or what it's done.

You can also get custom-made Vietnamese ao dai (pronounced sort of like "ow yai" in the Southern dialect, "ow zai" in the Northern) on Ebay. Some of the patterns are cheesy, but many are quite beautiful. I wore one in a friend's wedding and can vouch that they really do need to be made to measure, because the upper part of the dress (long tunic) is very close-fitting.

When I moved back to Bangladesh from Canada at the age of five, I was introduced to the concept of shemizes. I always assumed that that was a Indo-Persian word - until one day, when I was flipping through the dictionary (I used to be a major dictionary geek) and I came upon the word chemise. Oh, and another name for the garment is kurta.
Me, I get my kameezes (you're right, in South Asian languages there's no -es to signify the plural) mailed to me from my doting mother for free. Still, it's nice to know of alternatives, which of course won't be as good.
Teresa, be prepared for purists muttering 'cultural appropriation'. These will generally be the same sort of people who complain that rock 'n roll (as distinguished from Vanilla Ice) is a rip-off of black culture.
Oh dear, I may have just begun a flame war.

and if i recall correctly, "kurta" is related to "shirt".

I'll have a look when I get home to my dictionaries. It sounds plausible, but a lot of things in language that sound plausible Just Ain't So.

Cultural appropriation? When we're buying and they're selling? That's like saying the rest of the planet is culturally appropriating Coca-Cola.

Oh, wow--this is almost as bad as my discovery of "real" yarn stores. I've spent the last hour just looking at all the beautiful colors. I just might need to make up a special occasion so I can buy one.

Another code word besides "any size" that shows up on these seems to be "custom stitching".

From OED online

kameez(e

[Cf. CAMISE.]

In S. Asian countries, a long shirt or blouse.

1955 [see SHALWAR]. 1966 J. & R. GODDEN Two under Indian Sun iii. 73 A coat and trousers instead of dhoti and kameeze. 1971 Femina (Bombay) 2 Apr. 51/2 An off-shoot of the same idea is a two-piece unit, basically a kameez and gharara, but the kameez-sleeves being of the same material as the gharara, extra colourful, while the body of the kameez itself is a plain dark self-colour. 1972 ‘E. PETERS’ Death to Landlords! i. 21 She had taken to the shalwar and kameez of the Punjabi women.

camise, camiss
[Arab. qamç under-tunic, shirt; occurring in the Koran, but generally thought to be ad. L. camisia, camisa: see CAMIS, CHEMISE; Mahn suggests Skr. kshauma linen stuff.]

1812 BYRON Ch. Har. II. Tambourgi ii, Oh! who is more brave than a dark Suliote, In his snowy camese and his shaggy capote? c1850 Nat. Encycl. I. 237 The national costume of the lower orders [in Afghanistan] is..a large shirt, ‘camiss’, worn over the trowsers, reaching down to the knees. 1859 SALA Tw. round Clock (1861) 143 The Suliote of the fruitship, in his camise and capote. 1865 S. EVANS Bro. Fabian's MS. 105 Snow-white the camise.

The shirt worn by Arabs and other Muslims.

chemise
[Two types of this word appear in Eng., both ultimately derived from late L.: (1) OE. cmes (? fem.), early ME. kemes, kemse:prehistoric OE. type *camisja-, from the late L. word; (2) chemise, a. O. and mod.F. chemise (ONF. camise, quemise, kemise, Pr. and Sp. camisa, Pg. camiza, It. camiscia, camicia):late L. camisia, camsa shirt, surplice (see Du Cange).
L. camisia appears first in Jerome c 400 (Ep. Vest. Mul. 64 n. 11 ‘volo pro legentis facilitate abuti sermone vulgato; solent militantes habere lineas, quas camisias vocant’). It is also in Salic Law (lviii. 4 camisia, and camisa), Isidore (XIX. xxi. 1, xxii. 29 ‘Camisias (v.r. camisas) vocari, quod in his dormimus in camis, id est stratis nostris’). Beside it is found the deriv. camisle, -is, campsle, OF. cainsil, chainsil fine linen, alb, etc. (see CHAISEL); also an uncertainly related camix, It. camice, OF. cainse, chainse, ‘alb’.
The ulterior history and origin of camisia are uncertain. German etymologists incline to consider it adopted from Teutonic, and related to OE. ham shirt, and Ger. hemd, OHG. hemidi, Gothic type *hamii, f. root ham to cover, clothe. Kluge supposes a derivative *hamisjâ-, which, if it existed, might perh. give a Romanic camisia, as German h gave c in OFrench, through Frankish ch. But besides other difficulties, no traces of the required word are actually found in any Teutonic lang., the nearest thing being ON. hams masc. (:hamiso-z) snake's slough. The Irish caimmse, Cornish cams, Bret. kamps an alb, and MCorn. camse an article of female clothing, are all adopted from L. or French.]

1. A garment: the name has been variously applied at different times; perh. originally (as still in French and other Romanic languages) the under-garment, usually of linen, both of men and women, a shirt; but now restricted to that worn by females, formerly called ‘smock’ and ‘shift’. Formerly also applied to some under garment distinct from the ‘smock’, as well as to a priest's alb or surplice (so med.L. camisa), the robe of a herald, etc. In recent use: a dress hanging straight from the shoulders. Also chemise dress.

c1050 Gloss. in Wr.-Wülcker 362 Camisa, ham, cemes. c1325 Metr. Hom. 124 His moder dremid..Al the mikel water of Temis Rin in the bosem of hir kemes. c1330 R. BRUNNE Chron. (1810) 122 In e snowe for syght scho [Matilda] ede out in hir smok, Ouere e water of Temse, at frosen was iys, Withouten kirtelle or kemse, saue kouerchef all bare vis.

c1200 Trin. Coll. Hom. 163 Hire chemise smal and hwit..and hire smoc hwit. 1562 LEIGH Armorie (1597) 133b, The Herehaught..in a chemise blanke, powdred and spotted with mullets sable. 1788 E. SHERIDAN Jrnl. 22 Dec. (1960) 138 Gowns all kindsChemisesRound gowns with flounce or not. 1789 Bath Jrnl. 29 June, A chemise of very clean gauze, put over a dress of rose taffety. 1808 R. PORTER Trav. Sk. Russ. & Swed. (1813) II. xl. 167 A standard made of a shift that belonged to one of the ancient queens..She would hardly make a present of so rough a chemise to her lover Broderson. 1835 URE Philos. Manuf. 392 Each [girl] is provided with fine flannel chemises by the proprietors. a1845 BARHAM Ingol. Leg., Witches' Frolic, He or She seizes what He or She pleases, Trunk-hosen or kirtles, and shirts or chemises. 1850 L. HUNT Autobiog. III. xxiv. 218 That harmless expression [shift]..has been set aside in favour of the French word ‘chemise’. 1922 Ladies' Home Jrnl. Feb. 77 Making the Popular Chemise Dress. 1958 Punch 17 Sept. 384/1 The summer chemise was the prettiest, most impudent, provocative fashion that we have seen for many a day.

¶Vulgarly corrupted to SHIMMY: chemise being mistaken for a plural; cf. chay, shay.

2. In various senses from mod.Fr. a. Mil. fire chemise (F. chemise à feu): (see quot.). Obs.

1751 CHAMBERS Cycl. s.v., Fire chemise is a piece of linen cloth, steeped in a composition of..combustible matters; used at sea, to set fire to an enemy's vessel.

b. in Fortification. (See quots.)

1704 J. HARRIS Lex. Techn., Chemise, in Fortification, is a Wall with which a Bastion, or any other Bulwark of Earth is lined for its greater Support and Strength; or it is the Solidity of the Wall from the Talus to the Stone row. 1853 STOCQUELER Mil. Encycl. 57 Chemise, in mediæval fortification, an additional escarp or counter-guard wall, covering the lower part of the escarp.

c. The lower part of a furnace.

1800 tr. Lagrange's Chem. II. 34 The anterior part of the furnace..in French la Chemise..A stone, called the Zinc-plate, placed at the bottom of the chemise in the furnace.

d. The iron lining or core on which a gun barrel is welded.

1881 GREENER Gun 231 All the better quality Damascus barrels are welded upon a ‘chemise’, or plain iron lining, which is bored out after the barrels are welded.

e. A loose covering for a book.

1893 Quaritch Catal. No. 138 1 In wooden boards..wrapped in a modern morocco chemise. 1928 E. G. MILLAR Eng. Illum. MSS. i. 3 It still retains its binding of this period with a sheepskin ‘chemise’. 1960 GLAISTER Gloss. of Book 65/2 Chemise, a cover of silk or chevrotain sometimes used in the 15th century as a protection for embellished leather-bound books.

Teresa, in the latter case then it's cultural imperialism.
(Damn, where's the italicize icon on this browser so I can emphasize certain words with ironic intent?)

This is the wave of the future... as an Indian growing up in India, I never bought a "ready-made" garment till I was about 18. Everything thus far had been tailored. The tailor I used to patronise had been in the business for 100+ years: his grandfather used to tailor my grandfather's clothes.

I hope this thing catches on even more. It's a win-win situation: you get tailored clothes for 1/10 the price, and they get 2x the money they would otherwise charge :)

Too bad two of the three vendors aren't currently listing any auctions for women's saris.

And you looked divine at the Hugos.

Now I want one. *sigh*

Kate, I have summer outfits in cotton gauze that are essentially the same thing and they're *very* comfortable.

Josh, there are ads in the WashPost constantly about this overseas tailor and another who are in a hotel suite for a period of time. The WashPost had an article on it recently:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A14310-2004Oct31.html

I am wondering when are we going to see bespoke suits for men using the same system. I would definitely pay for something that can be had for a 20% of what I would pay in the US.

On the other hand, taylors of the world are not known for their ebay abilities.

I have gotten suits and shirts made by a guy from Hong Kong who comes to a few hotels on the west coast about 3 times a year. The results have always been great--they made my Brooks Bros. suit look cheap--and it costs about $450-550/suit depending on the fabric (it was $350 when I started using him 15 years ago).

The problem with doing a men's suit via Ebay is that a skilled person has to take a lot of measurements in order to make one fit right the first time.

Dawn - While I haven't ordered from here, a number of my friends have had satisfactory experiences.

Teresa, did you answer the pockets question? The garments look utterly gorgeous, but I really-o truly-o need my pockets.

Aquila:

Thank you.
I especially like the quotation from Byron [1812 BYRON Ch. Har. II. Tambourgi ii]:

Oh! who is more brave than a wiley coyote,
In his snowy camese and his truman capote?

I've seen the question of "Is it culturally appropriate for women of other backgrounds to wear salwar kameez?" come up in various places online a few times over the years, and the answer, from various sources, has always been "Sure, go for it."

Madeleine is really interested in pockets:

Teresa, did you answer the pockets question? The garments look utterly gorgeous, but I really-o truly-o need my pockets.

Some of them have pockets, usually built into the side seam, around hip height. It's much, much more common in the male version than the female. Ideosyncratically there's often one, rather than two as well. Since they're bespoke, you could probably ask them to put them in.

I saw webernet, and immeadiately thought of a network of grills.

If looks could grill, you'd be fed right now.

Andy Perrin:

If you had Interstellar Reply Coupons, you'd be home by now.

Remember that sequence of graffiti:

"I love grils!"

"You mean girls."

"What about us grils?"

Which reminds me of the note I saw on a perfume vending machine in Union Station:

"Out of Odor."

Have you visited www.eastwesteducation.org? Its a charity that sells prepleated saris, salwar kameezes as well as kurta pyjamas for men. Only one size however.

Oh dear. Indiashop1 doesn't appear to have any items posted.

Indiashop1 does have items for sale; after following Teresa's link and clicking "view items for sale," click on "ebay worldwide" when the screen comes up without any items for sale. You should see a page with ten items listed.

See if this page works.

thanks :)

So after looking at a ton of interesting and pretty pages of shalwar kameez, I'm left with one question -- this is basically a big T-tunic over loose pants, made of interestingly exotic fabric, right?

They're gorgeous outfits, but I need an excuse to learn to use my sewing machine anyway, and it looks like the fabric is available in nifty colors that they won't sell actual clothes in.

Yes! Another way to find these vendors, especially if you're looking for an outfit associated with a particular ethnic group, is to type in the name of the type of outfit you are looking for into the eBay search engine. That's how I found a company on Vietnam that makes ao dai to order. The price is below rock bottom of what I was quoted by tailors in my area (Southern California). Shipping can be a bit hefty, but ordering more than one helps balance that out.

Aiglet, try here: http://www.folkwear.com/asian.html
Pattern #135, "Jewels of India."

No pockets, Mad, but you might be able to dicker for their inclusion.

Dawn--

If you follow Teresa's links to the vendors and then click on "eBay worldwide" the listings show up.

(I bought a salwar six years ago, not custom-made, but then was too self-conscious to wear it. Didn't know they'd become fashionable. Thank you, Teresa, for posting about this!)

Teresa, I infer by this that you've already tried and rejected the shopping here on my home turf (74th Street/Jackson Heights). We have at least ten, and probably closer to twenty shops within two blocks or so that sell saris and salwars. If not, I invite you to check it out; if so, I wonder how you found it to compare. (My better half informs me that her experience was generally good, but that large-busted women can expect to find a much more limited supply than otherwise.)

And I was delighted to see that OED included an Ellis Peters reference from "Death to Landlords!" in the cameez definition. Ellis Peters/Elizabeth Pargeter wrote a lot more than just the Brother Cadfael novels.

Folkwear is a wonderful source of patterns, but Aiglet, if you are just learning to sew, they are not always the easiest patterns to use! They often have unusual construction methods or need fitting adjustments. You might find it easier to start with a similar pattern like Butterick 5944, which offers several sleeve and length variations for the top (http://www.butterick.com/indexflash.html, just type the pattern number in the search bar). The pants don't have pockets and are a bit wide in the legs to be traditional for the salwar kameez, but they would be easy to sew for a beginner. And you can always do a really old-fashioned pocket -- the type a woman used to wear under her skirt -- basically a flat purse on a belt that can be worn with multiple outfits (http://www.costumes.org/history/100pages/18THBAGS.HTM).

Gen, Janet --

Thanks for the suggestions, I'll have to go take a look at both places.

I keep thinking about remaking and replacing my entire wardrobe with things that aren't jeans-and-t-shirts but aren't formal, either -- now must be a good time to start.

Bruce, I'm less shy dealing with tailors in India and Pakistan. Also, if those shops are paying NYC rents and NYC wages, how cheap can they be?

Janet, Aiglet, I recognize the construction of that Folkwear kameez. You could hardly find a simpler shirt pattern. That one has been in use for millennia. It could probably be made up by someone using a flint-edged cutter and a bone needle.

Teresa -- the top does look simple, but I've sewn a number of Folkwear patterns with mixed results. Even the really simple-looking ones. The ankle closures on the trousers look rather fiddly from the illustration. You can see reviews of some Folkwear patterns at http://www.gbacg.org/Patterns/folkwear.htm; alas, not #135 "Jewels of India," but you can get an idea of the variation in how well their patterns work for even very experienced seamstresses, and how much alteration they had to do to get the look or fit they wanted. Butterick and the other "big four" pattern companies may be a bit more user-friendly and reliable for the first-timer, though not as authentic, but then I have not actually used that particular Folkwear pattern and it might be one of the easier ones. But hey -- if you're motivated, by a design or a fabric, even the most advanced pattern can be overcome!

Teresa: I just spoke with M- and she tells me that her collection of salwars ranged from $15 to approximately $40, but that there are outfits ranging up to stratospheric in price, should you wish :-) They aren't tailored, and you'd have to see a few to examine the fabrics available in all the price ranges.

This is a neighborhood heavily Indian and Pakistani, so we have the expected "straight from home" shops in quantity and concentration. (Not to mention the best Indian food in the city, IMO. It converted me from not liking the genre to a true believer.) It's Queens, so not nearly as expensive as Manhattan. As for wages, if I ever hear of below-minimum I'll let you know; it's conceivable but not something I've heard of in any definitive way.

I certainly understand shyness and a preference for shopping from the comfort of one's home. Just kind of wondering about the comparison, is all.

Hmmmm. That's very interesting.

That's wonderful.

I must suggest, though, that they start using terms that are convention here in the USA, like "suit," "shirt," and "pants." Then I suspect they'll get a lot more business, so long as the stuff they make is of the conventional western style.

Another site to look at for pattern reviews has an easy to remember name: PatternReview.com

If you go to the section that is just on pattern reviews, you can select "patterns by company"; unfortunately no one there has reviewed Folkwear 135, but there are several other Folkwear reviews, so more fodder for deciding if you want to give the pattern a go.

My sewing adventure for the day has been working on a pair of jeans from a Vogue pattern. I'm pleased with how they've gone together, but I overestimated what size I needed, so they're a bit loose. Sigh.

When we were in Vancouver I spent some time in the Indian section of town looking for a salwar kameez. My experience was that most of the ones available ready made weren't intended for people as bountifully constructed as Teresa and I are. So I'm thinking this tailor made thing sounds good.

MKK

Somehow, this thread makes me thing of the SCTV ad for the musical Indira, featuring Slim Whitman.

Indira! Indira! Indira!
Don't cry for me New Delhi...

Craig suggests:

I must suggest, though, that they start using terms that are convention here in the USA, like "suit," "shirt," and "pants." Then I suspect they'll get a lot more business, so long as the stuff they make is of the conventional western style.

I think I'm confused about your suggestion. Are you suggesting that the various shops making and selling Salwar Kameez give up their rather lucrative market, and start selling western style shirts/suits/pants? That seems rather silly, given that the market for tailor-made western garments is sufficiently poor that finding a traditional western tailor these days is a non-trivial excercise in many parts of North America.

Linguistically, from what I've seen, the Salwar Kameez is referred to in english by most vendors as a 'suit'. A 'blouse' is what you wear under a sari, as is a petticoat (and sometimes skirt, but not normally).

A shop in England is selling tailor-made western suits via E-Bay, for 89 pounds sterling. No idea of the quality but feedback is universally positive.

What's their name?

The seller's name is "Tailor_Made_Suits" http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&category=3001&item=3939967790&rd=1&ssPageName=WDVW is a link to the item, which is item #3939967790.

I think I have one in my future. For holiday and formalwear. That is such a beautiful suit, and so suitable for many body types! I just saw a beautiful selection of fabric, but can't bid on it just right now.

Sigh.

If anyone who is familiar with salwar kameez can talk a little bit about fabrics, I'd love to hear it. I have (somewhat third-hand) a story of the unfortunate experience of a woman who bought a sari to wear to a friend's wedding celebratoin, where said woman was the only non-Indian present. The fabric she picked made it roughly the equivalent of showing up at a black-tie even in a gingham skirt.

mythago ponders:

If anyone who is familiar with salwar kameez can talk a little bit about fabrics, I'd love to hear it. I have (somewhat third-hand) a story of the unfortunate experience of a woman who bought a sari to wear to a friend's wedding celebratoin, where said woman was the only non-Indian present. The fabric she picked made it roughly the equivalent of showing up at a black-tie even in a gingham skirt.

I'd suspect a cultural mistake in that story. Most westerners are profoundly uncomfortable with the amount of glitz that's considered "proper" formal wear in India.

If you take a look at this picture or at some of the pictures on this page, you'll immediately notice that the more formal the wedding, the more elaborately embroidered, brocaded, and jeweled the garments (and their wearers) are.

A plain garment would be considered everyday clothing (and would also suggest that the wearer didn't have the funds to actually decorate their garments). It wouldn't be hard to make the leap to display of wealth as a part of the family alliance represented by marriage - but that's diving a bit further than fabrics.

xeger:

Is it the case that, on some parts of the Indian subcontinent, a woman brings no money nor property nor possessions with her when she marries, EXCEPT what she is wearing. Hence an incentive to maximize gold, silver, jewelry and expensive doodads sewn onto the wedding dress?

Jonathon Vos Post said:

Is it the case that, on some parts of the Indian subcontinent, a woman brings no money nor property nor possessions with her when she marries, EXCEPT what she is wearing. Hence an incentive to maximize gold, silver, jewelry and expensive doodads sewn onto the wedding dress?

As an Indian who's wedding is due soon, I've learnt more than I ever wanted to know about the subject. So, briefly, here it is.

In my part of the country (Maharashtra), its customary for the in-laws to get the wedding clothes. This includes at least 5 sarees for the bride. After the longest shopping trip of my life so far, I can confirm that the kind of sarees you would wear for a wedding range from about Rs.1000(about $22) to ... well, there is really no upper limit. Thousand-dollar sarees do exist, and are so heavy with gold lace that they don't fold, they bend.

Salwar kameez, again, the kind you would wear for a wedding, are also in the same price range. They come for men, too, and are called "kurta-pyjama" The kind I'm going to wear for the wedding is called a "sherwani". The jacket is so stiff I call it a straitjacket.

Wedding shopping is a truly unique experience, about which I'll post if anyone is interested.

Wedding shopping is a truly unique experience, about which I'll post if anyone is interested.

Oh yes please! Shopping and wedding customs from another culture all at once. Shiny!

MKK

Seconded! Do please tell us about it.

Thirded! I've seen Monsoon Wedding, but that's all I know.

My salwar kameez came yesterday, and it is devoon. Exact fit, wonderful fabrics, faster shipment than I get from a US mail order firm (8 days!), way cheaper and better than some tacky dress from Lane Bryant. Will buy another once I see a fabric I like.

Indiashop1 rocks.

Go. Try!

You might not go semi-direct to buy your salwar kameez. You can certainly buy through ebay but you can also buy directly from India if what you are interested in is custom salwar kameez

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh....

Next month, when Passover is over, I am buying one. I think I've found a new obsession for when I am done buying roses.

Two above, the one by "sam" (though it's on-topic, so I'm not sure it counts).

If comment spam contributes to the conversation, has it passed its Turing Test?

I've wanted a salwar kameeze for years, so thanks for this info. I can't pull up any of the shops you mention on ebay for some reason. Can you possibly pass on another way to contact India1shop?

"When Passover is over," Ailsa? I know I saw your name as a bidder for a salwar kameez today. (I've been looking through the indiashop1 stuff, to see if they've got something I really like, having not gotten the one I sort-of liked.)

Try Indiashop1. Yes, you can order custom made Men's suits from India, both ethnic and Western. Yes to custom made cheongsams, too. The custom made salwar kameez business is fine on eBay, but it's also booming on the internet. Try a Google search sometime. And one can also find Thai and Hong Kong tailors.

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I'm a huge fan of the salwar kameez and of buying them custom made from ebay! I have bought 4 in the past two months and am thrilled with the quality. A good way to find them on ebay is to simply type in "salwar kameez" in the search box. My favorite sellers are:

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bassantbahaar
rungday
lootsale
radhaboutique
bollywoodcollection
zelegant
poshak-e-khas

I linked to some of them below, they either do custom made salwar's or offer plus size salwar's.

http://stores.ebay.com/evening-chic_Traditional-Salwar-Kameez_W0QQcolZ4QQdirZQ2d1QQftidZ2QQtZkm

http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQfgtpZ1QQfrppZ25QQsassZbassantbahaar

http://search.ebay.com/_Womens-Clothing_W0QQcatrefZC12QQfrppZ25QQfsooZ1QQfsopZ1QQsacatZ15724QQsassZrungday

http://search.ebay.com/_Womens-Clothing_W0QQcatrefZC12QQfrppZ25QQfsooZ1QQfsopZ1QQsacatZ15724QQsassZlootsale

http://stores.ebay.com/RadhasBoutique_W0QQssPageNameZstrkQ3amefsQ3amesstQQtZkm

http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQfgtpZ1QQfrppZ25QQsassZzelegant

http://search.ebay.com/_W0QQfgtpZ1QQfrppZ25QQsassZsignatureQ5fcollection

I can personally vouch for radhaboutique,signature_collection
bassantbahaar and poshak-e-khas as I have purchased from them and was thrilled with their communication, professionalism, excellent tailoring and shipping times.

Hope this helps some of those out there looking for salwar's!

Try Uniquessentials.com

Best prices and great selection on SKs, Saris, Lenghas, Men's Suits. And plus they ship from US for a lot less, and every item starts at just $0.99!

I have found some amazing ethnic clothing on eBay especially in the last few months. I have ordered well over 100 outfits in the last year or so(im an ethnic junkie). I have tried uniquessentials many times and am content with my purchases, althought the more they expand they seem to loose their customer service and quality, I still shop somewhat.

I have had many outfits custom made, but am strongly agaist sellers who sell with 24.99 shipping fees, and combine for 2.00 less each item. This is strongly a problem because the cost of the fabric and stitching combined, still leaves the seller with a profit from what they charge for shipping alone. I have a friend who sends me outfits for holidays and special occasions, and it only costs her around 12.00 USD to do so, so I hesitate towards 24.99 shipping sellers. In addition, they offer refunds less shipping and handling. Many buyers are contesting this and eBay will be enforcing new rules for abroad sellers I hear.

I buy almost everything from poshak-e-khas, uniquessentials, and independant eBay sellers who sell their own clothing(many women wear an outfit once and never again so its good for me!) I also buy jewelry and shoes to match my outfits. If anyone is interested, Beachcombers has the best selection of Khussa shoes both ethnic and indo-western. They carry the biggest selection on eBay, period. I only buy shoes from them. Prices are around $34 for a pair, but in stores they run over $60 and she has the best satisfaction policy. As far as jewelry goes, kg_inc (KhitabGul) is my favorite. He carries casual to formal wear jewelry at great prices. They are the only eBay store with large bangle sizes, plus be specializes in bridal/formal jewelry from $27-$80 dollars. He is not just an importer, but directly buys the jewelry from his family back home I think, thats why his prices are so good.

I hope this helps. Now im off to eBay to shop! ~Saiqa

I have found amazing website for salwar kameez. They have Miss India 2002 and 2005 working as models for them. Kaneesha's Plus size tunics are worth the visit. This site has wide range of Indian Clothing.

i just got my first salwar from ebay seller rungday , i just wanted to share it is wonderful. thanks for sharing all this information with us.

Oh, well, if you're going to leave eBay for this discussion, Priyanka's has a HUGE selection of salwar kameez at Priyankas.com, maybe even a thousand to choose from. Utsavsarees.com's selection is also wonderful; Renukasilks.com is good and for the higher end outfits, try salwar.com and indianplaza.com. Then there are Reems.com and eShakti.com and many, many more. I have had some wonderful trouser + kameez + dupatta suits from eShakti. Of that group eShakti is the only one I've had real experience with.

Back at eBay, there is a seller called Alanjum4 who not only lists fabrics for auction but who also, in his auctions, lists all the TYPES of fabrics he can get (or maybe it's only SOME of the types of fabrics he can get) and he's willing to find the fabric you want in the color you want and make WHATEVER you want out of it for you for what seems to me to be a rather light fee. So if you have ever said to yourself, "I wish they would make (fill in the blank) with x sleeves and a y neckline and in my favorite color, and have it all hand embroidered and cut just the way I want it and just to my size," i.e. if you have ever wanted to design your own clothing but didn't want to have to sew it, try sending him a request through eBay. He made an outfit for me which fulfilled a dream I've had for years!

And once again off of eBay, salwarkameezindia.com will provide the same service of alanjum4. It will cost you more, but there are more than 650 different designs in their "Custom Made Catalog" of salwar kameez suits to inspire the designers out there.

I have seen those sites, but Priyankas and the other sites can be over expensive! I think the idea of shopping online is to buy items for less and at better rates then retails stores without compromising on the quality.

Custom stitched clothing has exploded on eBay, with one problem. Shipping! Sellers are charging $20 for shipping then starting off items at only .99 only. Their refund policy only covers the items cost, so automatically if something goes wrong you only get back $1 basically. As much as I want to support international sellers, I prefere to buy clothing from the USA so if there ever are problems, the situation can be handled quicker and fixed. With all the complaints against international sellers, they will be cracking down especially with the India-Pakistan custom stitch sellers. I myself have spent some $200 on a huge order few months ago and lost it because of this refund policy, so would never do it again from India or Pakistan on eBay. Will just buy when I go back home, but purchase ready made ones online from the USA.

I do purchase at least 20+ items a month from Uniquessentials and their latest news is that they are going to provide custom stitched clothing from India at only $5 USA shipping, and the items are fully guaranteed and fully refundable...even shipping. With a deal like that honestly I won't shop elsewhere on eBay.
I did come across a new seller on ebay (well I just found them after all this time) of ethnic jewelry. Their ebay Id is Kg_inc (www.khitabgul.com) and they have some of the most beautiful designer neckalces! I was refered to them especially for my Eid jewelry since they are the only seller on ebay with formal or wedding sets. I ordered 2-3 of their large sets last week, (I still dont know what to wear for Eid!) anyways, totally awesome. I will never again shop in a retail ethnic store, retails stores mark up items at least 150% of the items cost, I know the sets I got are high quality and worth the asking price. Besides, ethnic retails stores don't ofer refunds or exchanges but he does online so that is cool. I think everyone should check out his store, its just amazing plus they sells bangles and some clothing, but specialize more with jewelry........Hope anyone looking for clothes or jewelry has some great new places! THanks
~Saiqa

I just wanted to let people know they should beware of LOOTSALES. I have had nothing but trouble with them since ordering a garment on May 19, 2005.

After MANY emails from me and a couple from them with promises to look into where my order was, they still did not deliver.

In fact their scam is to put you off long enough that you cannot file a formal complaint with EBAY.

They told me my order was lost. I asked for a refund in four emails over two weeks, and was totally ignored UNTIL I left a negative feedback on their site.

They retaliated with lies on both mine and their sites (saying I did not communicate at all and then that they could not make my garment because they did not have my measurements! I have an email from them dated May 20 stating they have my measurements and had put it on my private page for future orders!

They lie and scam and cheat their way thru. I am not the only one who has been treated this way. Go to EBAY and read their feedback. They have so many negatives.

Their final scam is to say they cannot give you a refund until you take back the negative feedback! I told them to keep my money then, because I want everyone to know how dishonest they are.

I have dealt with several others and have had nothing but wonderful service.

Terase

Thank you all for the userful consumer reports.

Terase, I went and looked at Lootsale's user feedback records on eBay. I see what you mean. They've been doing a little better of late, but I'd still be wary of doing business with them.

I'm sorry to say I've now had my own bad experience, in my case with Indianexotica. Unfortunately, I messed up my feedback so it doesn't show.

The trousers I received were nowhere near the right size. Since they were plain black cotton, I'm assuming that they were shipped from a common stock rather than being made to measure, and that the common stock didn't have the appropriate size.

That wasn't the worst problem, however. The fabric of the tunic and dupatta, in both cases a lightweight red cotton, was so heavily coated with fabric sizing that it was almost rigid, and scraped my skin raw. I hand-washed the garments in cold water, diligently trying to get the sizing out, and watched as my wash water turned a murky light gray.

Even after a good washing and several rounds of rinsing in clean water, the dupatta was so stiff when it dried that I could hold a two-foot length of it parallel to the floor without having it droop or bend. It took four or five launderings (gentle soap, cold water) to get the sizing out.

And then, when the sizing was out, the fabric puckered like crazy. It had thin intermittent stripes of metallic gold thread woven into it, and every one of those stripes humped up like large-gauge seersucker.

I've seen this kind of thing before with badly made clothing. The manufacturer uses heavily-sized fabric, which looks more substantial than it really is. The effect doesn't last. As soon as the garment is washed, the sizing dissolves, and the fabric melts down into thin cheap loosely-woven cotton. And since the cutting and seaming was done when the fabric was still rigid with sizing, the seams and other construction details sag, twist, and pucker, and generally just look sad.

(That's one of the indignities John Scalzi left out of his entry about what it means to be poor: living in a neighborhood where the merchants sell you clothing that goes from "new" to "tired-looking old rag" in one laundry cycle.)

I was seriously unimpressed. India is the motherlode of hand-loomed cotton. There's no shortage of attractive, reasonably priced, good-quality fabric. You have to be pretty mingy to shave costs by using material that shoddy. Those perfunctory black cotton trousers were equally slipshod and cheap. I won't be buying from Indianexotica again.

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I have very good quality shalwar kameez,saree,trouser suit ,men's and ladies kurta..these all you can see onmy website ..i am in london you can chat with me by
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U can also call on Perveen Dang to get your salwar kameez custom made at very nominal prices. I've been buying from her past 4 years or so and shes given me international class designs at almost cost price--shes too passionate abt her work to care for profits. U can call her on 011-91-9831121675 or email at asheeshdang@hotmail.com. Try her work out if u want to adventure!!!

I think you all look very beautiful in them.

Hmmmm.........When did this turn into an advertisement and people sending me links and info for wholesale salwar kameez? Please take your business elsewhere, were just ethnic lovers not sellers, stop buggin me!

the prices and quality of this store from ebay india , that i had experience with just cannot be beaten .. i had all my saris with customstitched blouses and 3 salwar kameez's stitched to perfection ... all this in 11 days from payment made ! and shipping for each item worked out only USD4 . They have 3-4 stores on ebay india and offered me combined shipping across the sites , i guess the id is runalaila_in1 & 1hi2k and one more i do not remember ... however the common keyword is hypnosis & sa

Or else just a lot of enthusiastic recommenders.

Just to clarify, indian salwar kameez is the same as pakistani shalwar kameez. There are only subtle differences.

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I totally thank everyone for the recommended sellers on E-bay. I LOVE sari's and salwar kameez and have been thinking about buying some online (like a few other women have commented us "North American" sized women tend to have problems with ready made salwar kameez and even cholis). I am definately going to have to try the custom made salwar kameez. I might as well spend $39 for a salwar made in my size then $35 in the Gerrard St Bazaar in Toronto for something that fits more or less and has been stiched four times already. However that doesn't beat the salwar kameez I bought (after hours of trying them on) for over $60.00 that has had to be restitched in places. Thank you again!!! Namsate

hi everyone...
this was just for your information, because it looked to me that you are all very interested in indian clothes... as somebody mentioned, the indian salwar kameez and pakistani version are the same... with a few minor differences owing to the climate differences, or to help ppl adapt to the terrain...
there are several options... those of you with nice long legs (like moi... hehehe) could go in for churidar pants... which are basically fitted pants. These look very good if worn with long kameezes (tops) or kurta tops...
then there's the patiala salwar... i guess it's just a local variation of the basic salwar... the difference lies in the fact that the patiala version has a lot more pleats and looks great with fitted tops...
there's also bell bottom pants... some people call them parallels...
and the present trend is based on the clothes worn by Rani Mukherjee in the film Bunty aur Babli... it has mainly got to do with bright contrasting colours... and kameezes with collars etc...
kurta tops with block prints are quite popular too, as are big borders and cap sleeves...
i hope this helps...

this is for all the ppl who are wondering about the origin of the name "salwar kameez"...
well i don't think it was inspired by the french chemise... though there is a resemblance... i'm not too sure, but if i'm wrong, do correct me, the salwar kameez first started out as an islamic dress... and "kameez" is an urdu/hindi word for shirt (roughly, garment for the upper body)... this term is also applied to some garments worn by men...
so, in short (roughly), "kameez" refers to "shirt"...

Well I am back and I've started sewing so I've got some news for anyone looking to make their own salwar kameez. I am waiting on the pattern from dansingnspirit.us/ in the mean time I kept my eyes out in the mainstream pattern books and I've come across a couple patterns that might be of some help. First one (that I have sewn already) is from McCall's pattern number 4002. I will warn you that this pattern is more then generously sized and I ended up having to resize the kameez. The downside is that since the "tunic and pants" go together the amount of fabric for both peices are added together. Best way to find out how much fabric you need for each peice is to cut them out and measure :( wish I could be more help there. I did the XXL pants and the XL shirt (and cut the shirt down more) and used around 4 metres of fabric. This turned out to be a wonderful Salwar Kameez, it doesn't have the pleats of the salwar pants but I can't tell the difference between by ready-to-wear salwar kameez or the one I made myself. You'll love this pattern's great results and it's SO EASY (the instructions for putting the pants/salwar part together is abit messed up but easy to figure out)!! Also the price is discounted if you buy it at Wal-mart. Don't forget to look at the $1.97 a metre fabric at Wal-Mart either that's where I got mine. Total for this salwar kameez (pattern and fabric) came in under $20 Canadian. The next pattern is from Simplicity and is only in the plus size (18W-32W) the pattern number is 4377. It's listed as pajama's but anyone that knows a salwar kameez will reconize the kameez top with the parallel-ish pants. I haven't tried this pattern yet but I am hoping to get to it next week. I will come back and let you know how it goes. Mind you both these patterns call for elastic waists but I've changed them to a drawstring. Thank you once again for your time and letting me post. Namsate.

I found this thread while doing a google search for salwar kameez.

Thanks for the many suggestions and links; I've ordered 3 sets (as did Teresa above). Two from eBay tailors (IndiaShop and Radha's Boutique), and one from a direct online source (eShakti). I'm wondering if any of you have any experience with eShakti?

All prices, even shipping, seemed quite reasonable considering. I'm looking forward to seeing the finished products.

I am a short, very round woman who has a hard time finding comfortable ready-made clothing, and my sojourn in Jakarta in '95 convinced me that Western dress was not meant for everyone. A good friend from India introduced me to Salwar Kameez, and I had several made while in Jakarta. Unfortunately, clothing wears out. And I also changed sizes since then. I never even thought of eBay, d'oh!

Anyway, thanks to everyone who posted on this thread.

I buy many many indian items online and you can not beat radha's boutique for the price and quality.

Bought identical pure silk saree from radha

So I

and also try angelshoppe I got saree and paid in us dollars for saree from australian seller who direct ships from india, the result (since both rupee and aus dollars are both less than us dollar) is a wonderful deal!

I got saree from angelsshoppe for 4$ us. and shipping VERY cheap (since it was in aus $)

Behold...the power of Ebay!!

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Looks like a commercial post to me.

Well here I am with more great news to share. I was at Walmart again tonight and took a look in the "simplicity" pattern book under the costume section and found a real gem it is pattern 4249 and comes in sizes up to a 20. It's a pattern of all the hot Bollywood clothes, there is two choli patterns, two lehnga patterns and a salwar kameez pattern with churidar pants. I haven't sewn it as of yet but it looks great and should be fairly simple to do. I have also discovered a great seller on E-bay I just have to share with everyone. This company dealt with all my silly questions (having never had a salwar kameez made for me) and they had my salwar kameez sent from Chennai to Ontario, Canada in just over a week. The sellers name is evergreenen and their store is Evergreen Enterprises. My salwar was exactly the right size and the work was excellent. I would definately suggest Evergreen to anyone looking for a beautiful made to measure salwar kameez for a great price. $13 USD for shipping and only $6 USD to have your fabric stitched. Can't beat that.

A note about a past post of mine about "simplicity" pattern 4377 that was only available in plus sizes, it turned out to be a pain in the neck and I ended up having to tear it a part and try to salvage the material using a different pattern. So I wouldn't really recommend this pattern after trying it. I wish everyone well, and again thank you for this site, I love reading all the comments and suggestions you've all helped me alot. Namate.

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I have been in the US since the last few years and have come to realize that buying directly from suppliers back home is much more economical. Most of the major boutiques have their own online store which makes life much more easier. I have been buying most of my desi clothing requirements from one such online store www.msytiqueasia.net

They not only have a very wearable collection, but are very proffessional in their work. The best part is that they also customize my clothes to my requirements.

I too had a similar BAD EXPERIENCE with INDIANEXOTICA on ebay. I sent exact measurements and received a garment big enought for two of me.. with the same sizing in the fabric that made it stand out like a tent. They also drew the whole thing out until I could not make a claim thru Ebay or put in a negative feedback. I eventually returned the article but did NOT RECEIVE a REFUND. so, out over a hundred bucks, extra postage for a fast reply and no garment. I could not believe what I received. They offered to alter it, but then after the garment had be shipped and I had emailed them to this effect, they said we wont' alter or refund.. don't return the garment. ??

And Peter and Sue give you all kinds of excuses about their isp problems and being sick and such and tell you they didn't receive your emails.

True blue aussies my a**. Con artists taking advantage of being in another country where you can't hold them to Australian standards is what I say they are.

I have seen so many lovely salwar kameez in Sydney.. I think I will just try getting made locally. It will be worth it. I will know who I am dealing with.

so BEWARE - DO NOT SHOP On EBAY with IndianExotica. Cheap fabric, tons of sizing.. and you don't get what you are paying for.

You are better of paying more and getting a good quality garment.

Cheers.

task at hand- choose a birthday present for my wife

due date- a week from 04/06/06 (04/13/06)

a lot of- confusssionnnn...

what do i do- started searching for salwar kameez online (my wife's new wardrobe addiction) and came across this post...went down to ebay checked out a couple of stores, loved the stuff everyone had to offer...

a lot more of- confusssionnnn...

what do i do next- shortlisted 4 sellers and contacted them individually for adivice on what I should order for my wife...all of them replied with the most expensive alternatives, except for indianartcart...they asked my budget and suggested a neat summer outfit which would cost just $44.99.

i asked them if they could deliver it on time for Tina's birthday and the guy there- Akash said that it wouldn't be a problem...so i went ahead and used the buy it now option, paid for it and gave the measurements from an old SK of my wife's...

he said that "it wouldn't be a problem" but i had my doubts...

day 1 waiting... day 2 waiting... day 3 mailed ... day 4 got tracking...outfit delivered day 5... :-O ....

i was utterly astonished at their speed...they took the order...waited a day for the measurements...got it stitched...sent it from India...and i recieved it day 5...

outfit quality- akash suggested a jute outfit, which is supposed to be oober trendy this summer...i always thought that jute was used for stuff that wasn't clothing...but he proved me wrong...the fabric was super comfirtable and my wife just loved it and the best thing IT FIT PERFECT...

conclusion- i don't know how indianartcart did it...

if anybody wants to shop with them then go down to stores.ebay.com/indianartcart

my wife's told all her friends about them and i think they have a "buy 2 and get free shipping" offer going on...so check it outt...

-Chris

How astounding is it, Chris, that an article mailed from India reached you in only five days, considering that you posted your comment from India?

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Thank you very much.

Namsate,
I am just wondering a couple things that hopefully someone can answer for me :) What's the newest fashions in India for salwar kameez this season? And I've seen what looks like a popular style of pant (although I don't know the name) but it looks like the typical salwar pant however it looks like it has extra pleats and lots of fabric, if anyone knows the name and anymore info on their construction I would be so thankful.

Alright I've answered half my own question the pants I was looking for are patiyala so now I am just looking for anyone that can give me pointers on how to make them. Thank you in advance.

Hi all. This has been an interesting thread to read. I was looking for salwar kameez for myself because I always found them elegant and easy looking and they seem to look good on women of all body types. Today I went to my favorite thrift shop and this was a first for me - I cam across about a dozen or more in various sizes and types. I wound up buying a kameez by itself, quite a casual one, and a complete set, very elaborate and dressy with beadwork and embroidery, for a grand total of $11 U.S. Brought them home and they both fit like they were made for me. But it was intesting to see that McCalls and Simplicity make patterns - I love to sew and I plan to make many more of these in the near future. Thanks for all the cool information!

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Was browsing through sites, looking for potential buyers for Indian ethnic wear.

I've recently graduated from the National Institute of Fashion Technology, Delhi and have a boutique that deals in Women's Wear.

If anyone is interested in ordering a salwaar kameez, indian skirts or a sari, you can email me at sriyakejriwal@yahoo.co.in

I work with not only silks, but also south cottons, handloom materials and synthetics if required. The embroidery and stitching are all well finished and there is no compromise on quality. The tailoring is customized.

So, if anyone is interested, please mail me and I'll get back to you ASAP.

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Did any of you try www.indiagiftsend.com for salwar kameez shopping? The prices are cheaper than the other websites offering salwar suits, but looks like there is no mention of the website anywhere on the net. No recommendation, no review, nothing. There are some testimonials on their website, but those could have been easily made up by the webmaster or the people associated with the website. I am not able to decide whether I should buy the dresses from that not so popular website or not.

Hey, has anyone had any business with echarming? The URL is http://stores.echarming.net/StoreFront.bok

They seem really cheap and you can even order exactly what you want. I haven't ordered anything and I wanted to know if anyone else has so I know what to expect before I buy. Thank alot. Namsate

Let's share my experience with indiagiftsend with you guys. I was skeptical about this site before, but then I ordered two salwar suits from there because I really wanted those two suits and no other websites I visit offered them at that time, thinking that if something happens, I can always cancel the transaction later. Don't know if they are always this nice or not, but today I got the suits and absolutely loved them. May be they are new to business so don't have that much popularity yet, but the experience was better than utsavsaress who sent me a wrong dupatta and I am still waiting (it's been over a month) for them to send me the right dupatta. Anyway, the best strategy is to buy from India when you are there, and I am going to visit India next year, so I guess, I'll buy some salwar kameezes while I'm there.

Hello,

I'm responding to the question about charming girl. For the last couple of years I have been buying my suits from various Ebay dealers. Some are better than others, many go out of business and new ones crop up.

I just got my first suits from charming girl and was not disappointed. The fabrics are ok and the tailoring is good. I cannot imagine how they can produce these suits for the price they charge. Just remember it is about 6 weeks for deliveryso plan ahead. Worth the wait.

I have had the best results when I send the garment measurements rather than my body measurements. Since I'm not a small woman (any longer) I don't want suits that are fitted. They look wonderful on young women with great figures but not so hot on me. Evey tailor has a different idea as to how much "ease" to leave so if you send garment measurements the suits fit the same every time. Other favorite vendors are India Shop 1 and Namaste for custom work. Both deliver quickly.

Just wanted to update my last post...UtsavSarees sent me full refund as they didn't have the matching dupatta.

I have gone to IndiaShop1 and found them to be okay. You get what you pay for. The BEST one which is my favorite is NamasteIndia. Sonia is a remarkable and extremely caring and professional individual there who will take care of all your clothing needs. I have even designed my own clothes and sent it to her and she has made some awesome Shalwar Kameez for me. They have expert tailors and all my 7 suits I have purchased from them have been perfect. I highly recommend NamasteIndia on Ebay!

I have loved the clothing of India and Pakistan since I was a student in high school and saw the wife of my science teacher, who is Indian, in a sari.

I have wanted a salwar kameez for years now, and I have determined to buy one. I have a problem. A rather large problem. It is my size, which is--well, huge.

I've lost nearly 40 pounds in the last year, and I'm still losing; but I've a very long way to go to reach my ultimate goal weight. I'm concerned about how to find someone who will sell to me, or create for me, a salwar kameez in, for example, a size 2-3X. It needs to be something that will still look good, even if I drop a few sizes before I stop wearing it. And my budget is limited, so it needs to be affordable.

I've seen a ton of good information in this place, and I'm sure I'll be referring to it again; but anything in addition that will be specifically helpful based on the information I've given will be greatly appreciated. Thanks bunches!

Namsate Alabaster,
I know how you feel about both your love for Indian/Pakistani clothing and worrying about size and budget. Most sites that I have come across have no problem making their salwar kameez larger. I just ordered a suit from eshakti.com and it fits perfectly. Alot of other sites will do custom size instead of the 2-3x thing which makes your suits fit alot better. I have come across one seller on e-bay who seems to only sell plus size salwar kameez, I don't have any personal experance with this seller but I thought it you didn't want to go by measurements this might be a good option for you and the suits seem fairly cheap. The sellers ID is lornabrabant. I hope this helps you.

Hi everyone, I now have a question for anyone that has the answer. Has anyone had any business with "S2 fashions"? I just found them and they seem to have almost rediculous prices and cheap shipping to boot. After some of the horror stories here I have to be suspicious. Thanks alot guys, I am so happy this thread is still going.

Maggie, I saw S2 and their outrageously low prices myself. I didn't order from them because I didn't see any good feedback about them anywhere yet. Of course, they seem to be new, which would explain it. I just didn't feel comfortable ordering from them yet. I did order from eshakti a few days ago -- they have that $15 off gift certificate if you register with them, and I'd seen good reports about them, so it seemed like a good place to try. I'm crossing my fingers that the suit is nice and fits well.

Teresa, I just made a post about salwar kameez on my blog that links to your post here. Consider this a manual trackback. :-)

Hey litlnemo,
I ordered a suit from eshakti in September for a wedding, it turned out great. I had just left my house for the wedding and a neighbour that never talks to me yelled out a compliment to me, so in my opinion they make great clothes. Since then I've been getting their newsletter and although their new salwar kameez are beautiful I find them kinda pricey. I am sure you'll love your suit. I used the $15.00 thingy too on a $30.00 suit how cheap am I? LOL I still haven't ordered from S2 I am actually about to touch base with echarming again. I was looking on their updated site and they have suits for 99 cents!!! Even with shipping that's cheap. I guess we'll have to keep each other informed if either of us gets enough nerve to order from S2. Odd thing, a day or so after my post about them they put up their shipping price LOL. Namsate.

Ha, I got the $30 suit as well. :) I guess it will still be a couple of weeks before it shows up.

I have been reading the aforementioned comments and the problems which u people are facing at the time of ordering clothes, I myself am a dress designer from Pakistan and have satisfied my customers orders.

I have launched my new collection of formal wear comprising sarees, lehangas and suits in my characteristic Pakistani style. my emphasis is on the right combination of resplendent colors, floral embroidery and stunning styles. In my new ensemble, I have used a wide variety of fabrics, including silks, nets, cotton, tissues, organza, georgette and chiffon.
my collection and other designs from magazines are available on request.

I make each and every dress according to your size and specifications. I can also make dresses according to your budget. I have maintained database of my regular clients with their measurement profile. Once you become regular client then you don't have to give me your measurements again and again.

My prices are mouth watering (very competative price)my main object is to satisfy my customers.

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Might want to leave Shazia Khan there.

Namsate,
Happy belated Diwali & Eid everyone!

Well I've just put in a large order with eCharming.com (charming girl) for four suits. eCharming has done alot of work on their site as of late and they have a great deal with a 99 cent section. With any luck it'll be here before Xmas, I used body measurements but I added an extra inch or two just to make sure the suits are comfortable. I'll let everyone know how the suits I've ordered turn out, I am just hoping it's as good as Enid's experance.

litlnemo any sign of your suit yet? I just got an e-mail from e-shakti today about their new "From the drawing board" line for the fall. Nice stuff but there isn't much from e-shakti that isn't.

(eCharming.net is the site you mean, I think -- the .com is just a domain squatter's page.)

My eShakti suit arrived today. I did get one of the "From the Drawing Board" suits, with the recommended under slip. (I expected the liner to be just a normal white slip or something, but it is maroon to match the suit. ) The construction seems good enough and the size is right. The dupatta is a different color than the site advertised, though (it says maroon and black, but it's just black with colored pinstripes -- not maroon ones, but several different colors). It's a nice enough looking dupatta though I wish it was the color I expected.

The fabric is a bit stiff so I think it needs to be washed once before it will look right. The dupatta is extra stiff and a bit itchy, so I think it has too much sizing. I hope this doesn't mean I'll have the same experience Teresa had above.

You can see photos here and here. Though the fit is right I don't think the suit looks good yet -- it makes me look bigger than my other kameez do. but I think that is because the fabric isn't draping properly because of the sizing. So I will see how it looks after the wash.

I ordered on the 12th so it arrived exactly 15 days after the order.

Hey litlnemo,
That's a beautiful suit and I think it looks great on you. I had the same problem with the sizing too, and I might suggest a good dose of fabric softener too. I didn't find that my suit shrunk at all which was really good and kinda surprising. With my suit however, I learnt the hard way that girls with bigger hips shouldn't wear hip length kurtas with a regular salwar pant. The wedding I went to in it, I had one picture taken of me standing and I don't even want to keep that picture. Gosh you know it was so great to see your picture though, they are the first ones that I've taken a look at and now I don't feel as "weird" knowing I am not the only white girl in Indian clothes LOL.

Yeah it's echarming.com that I ordered from, I am just keeping my fingers crossed, I don't need to suits to come in and be any less then well, I'd settle for good. Two of the four suits are presents. But for the cost I paid for four suits made to order and shipped from India I could have only gotten one of the new suits at eshakti. No one can convince me that eshakti isn't over priced. But with the free $15 off I couldn't resist even if it turns out to be the only suit I ever get from there. Oh one other thing about your dupatta, I think that's terrible that it that they didn't even describe it right, but did you find it kinda big and bulky? When I ironed mine the metallic stripes went all wavy too, I was just wondering if I was the only one.

There are lots of other "white girls in Indian clothes" on Flickr if you browse around. Searching for "salwar kameez" will bring up quite a few. :)

Yes, the dupatta seemed kind of bulky compared to the others I have, which are of thinner material. But it might be better now that I've washed it. I washed the suit and I think it might have helped with the sizing thing, but it wrinkled like crazy so I have to do some serious ironing before I can wear it again. Even my linen clothes don't wrinkle as much as this suit did! :) I wonder if the metallic part melts a bit under a hot iron. I'll probably be careful ironing that part.

Follow-up: I washed and ironed the suit and the sizing is gone, but it doesn't flatter me much. The kameez fabric is so thin and lightweight that it doesn't hang well -- tends to stick to the cotton underslip, which then (being even thinner and lighter) sticks to the cotton salwar, making it bulge in odd places. It's as if it needs weights sewn into the hem.

This does sound rather like Teresa's experience above, and also with red cotton... anyway, the construction of the garment is good, it's just that the fabric is too flimsy. And my god, the wrinkles...

Hey litlnemo,
I totally hear what you're saying, I've pretty much taken to wearing the kameez by it's self. I didn't get the slip with mine maybe that's why mine hangs abit better. Although I have to say one thing I got one of the cross dyed suits great colour but it has an odd imperfection at the wrong spot on my chest...as if I needed more attention drawn there LOL. I just don't know if I could force myself to wear the salwar with that kameez again. I got the pictures of the wedding we went to off my camera and believe me that picture is never being posted or printed. I found with my suit that it was the salwar that was a huge problem as you said it pokes out in strange places. Certianly doesn't look as nice on me as it did in the picture. And yes the wrinkles are HORRIBLE. I don't even think my artifical silk sari's wrinkle as much as that salwar kameez.

I am still waiting on my order from echarming, it takes 15 business days to deliver and we're holding Christmas on the 21st. I am starting to get abit worried but I'll give him another week or so before I start e-mailing him to find out what's going on.

Hello, all:

I am so glad this thread is here because I too have issues with the abundant use of sizing, and too-thin fabric.

I bought two salwar kameez suits this summer; the first one had a top that was entirely too big (the fabric was cotton but fairly good quality, I wonder if it was of some sort of cotton blend); the second was made of cotton so thin that you could see all of my undergarments. Unfortunately, I didn't order a lining.

The second one seemed extremely cheap in fabric and construction, and it too had so much sizing that it fits all "puckery" after I FINALLY got all of the sizing washed out. It's so thin and flimsy that I feel like I'm wearing a pair of really cheap handkerchiefs.

Why the stiff sizing? My second suit felt exactly like cardboard when I removed it from the package. What purpose does that serve? Would I have better luck with other fabrics instead of cotton?

I bid on a suit from "bunthun" on eBay, but I lost that auction. I did notice that all this seller's items are having fierce bidding on them. I have also bid on a custom suit from a seller called "shriindianboutique". This one is made of georgette. Can anyone vouch for the tailoring and fabric quality of these sellers?

I have dutifully written down the other sellers that posters recommend. I hope "shriiindianboutique" will be a good experience. Too bad I didn't come here first before bidding.

I found this forum on google. I would strongly recommend Zarmina.com for designer women's clothing, particularly Pakistani and Indian salwar kameez.

Namsate everyone,
Alright I've e-mailed echarming twice this week and haven't heard anything back. I put the order in on Oct 25th and it hasn't even been sent yet. When I was e-mailing questions to him he would answer within a day and now nothing? From my experance I have to put this up as a warning for anyone thinking of going to echarming for salwar kameez. If I hear nothing in the next week or so I think I might just call my credit card company and stop payment. Anyone have any other ideas as to what to do?

Namsate everyone,
Just an update finally heard from echarming apparently my suits are ready, now I just hope they get here before Xmas but I am not holding my breath. I'll let you know what the suits are like when they get here. Have a Merry HoHo, Yule or the holiday of your choice.

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Just had to figure when it comes to giving something for Christmas you buy online anything and everything will go wrong. Heard from echarming a few days ago saying that he sent my order of four suits last week. The website says different. So who am I supposed to believe? This has turned into the order from he**. Without the website saying my order has been shipped I can't track it therefore I am can't be sure that he's telling the truth. Unless these suits are of utmost quality I don't think I'll be ordering from echarming again. I'll keep you updated...

Ach, Maggie, it's like a soap opera! So sorry to hear you're being messed about.

I've bought a few salwar kameez online:

~Pardesi Fashions was excellent! The company is in the U.S., but the suits are made in India. The owner is super helpful and the suit arrived in under 2 weeks. It fits so well, it's almost like I went to see a tailor instead of just taking my own measurements and e-mailing them. To the person who asked about getting a men's Indian suit,they also sell those. (www.pardesifashions.com)

~Real Value Shop (sells on eBay) was okay. Nice sewing job, very cheap prices, and it arrived in around a week from India. However, even though I gave them garment measurements, my kameez was so huge that it looked like a maternity top and the churidar was too short. If you're not tall and you don't mind loose-fit salwar kameez, they'd probably be fine.

~Paridhanlok (sells on eBay) is a definite no. Their stuff is heavily dirt stained and dyed so poorly, it comes off on your hands. Prices are high compared to what you get. Owner is a scammer who says you'll get a refund if your not satisfied, but basically will play games until you can no longer file a dispute with PayPal or your credit card.

I love to sew, so I think at this point, I'm going to try making my own using the patterns that have been mentioned here. :)

I agree that there are many sites out there selling South Asian clothing that are unreliable. Things to look out for are bad web design, based solely abroad, and poor explanation of the order process. What I like about Kaneesha and Zarmina.com are that they are based in America with production abroad, they have professional sites, and they are easily available by phone. They also keep you posted and deliver in a timely manner. The cost is a bit more, but the customization and service are worth it.

Saima at 154 praises a particular web site; and if you mouse over her name, it gives that as her site. But she doesn't note any relationship with the site in her post. This carries to me the whiff of the sock puppet.

Not the first or only sockpuppet/borderline spammer in this thread. #113 is particularly egregious.

I suppose everyone is out to promote their product, and websites are helpful. It's alot more appreciated if it comes from someone that has actually dealt with the site rather then someone who works for the company. And a rebuttal to the "based solely abroad" comment I like dealing with people abroad, usually they are cheaper and are better at making the suits. My experance with eshakti proved that to me. It was the second suit I bought online, and I described what it was like further up. My first suit was from someone on e-bay.in completely in India and it was made perfectly. But personally I am just happy this thread is still open spam and all.

P.s
Still no suits.

I recently bought two outfits from Zarmina. I had heard from friends that they were very good trendy sort of garments. I got really BAD customer service and in the end a totally shoddy product. The company is pakistani, not that it matters, but this was my second exerience with a pakistani firm and it was same as the first - unreliable people with an attitude, and the product they deliver falls way below standard. The embroidery seemed really like the picture at first, but on closer inspection you can see the threads were coming out on the dress, and the tunic top was just badly stitched as if in a hurry. My left arm had to go all the way back over my head in order to get into the left sleeve. I called Zarmina cusomer service, the peorson was like well that's the way its stitched is there anything wrong with the PRODUCT? I mean, isn't stictching PART of the product? The embroidery was loose in places, and the silk was touted as 100% pure silk, well it was cheap Jo-Ann fabric discount silk. I have bought some really nice sarees from Indian shops here in NJ, and I feel I know a bit about silk just from those buying processes. The silk on both my outfits - the kameez and the tunic, was so thin it felt like I was wearing paper with a heavy layer of outdoor paint with weathershield on it. My wedding is in a few months and believe me, I will not be buying from Zarmina again. I had thought of doing an indian-style wedding, but after my fiancee saw my outfits he said we'd stick with a regular All-American wedding. Zarmina is a rip-off. I had such bad customer service, I really don't recommend it to anyone. And they refused to take the dresses back!! They said I had to contact them within 24 hours???? They delivered within 4 weeks as they had said (3 plus the holidays), but I would recommend anyone wanting to buy Indian dresses to either go in a local shop or really check up on the retailer, see if they ever had a real shop and even call up a few of their customers to see what they say. I paid nearly $600 for those dresses, it was a waste!

You paid $600.00 for those suits Samina? That should have clued you in right there. That is terribly over priced unless they were made out of gold. But I wouldn't let your experance with a couple retailers online make you change your mind about having an Indian wedding. I went with the regular white dress and I still wish I hadn't (although in my defense I didn't know anything about Indian clothes, culture etc). You'd probably do better going to a little India in the closed big city to you. That's where I am going to get my clothes for our mangalsutra ceremony. It tends to be cheaper too. Last time I was in Toronto I got a 100% silk sari (and it was real silk) for $39.00 no tax.

Just wanted to update everyone as to the echarming situation, my order has finally been sent. So I am expecting it to arrive one day after the three month mark (from the time I ordered and paid for them).

Maggie,

Not the most impressive, then. Keep us posted about how they look when they arrive.

Well Maggie paying $600 for a Salwar Suit is really big. I have bought some Indian dresses (Salwar Suit and Saree ) from ebay, but recently I had come across a new seller at ebay , " nimishan " who designs her dresses her self. They are really beautiful and reasonably priced. In fact she is very courteous and even got color of the duppata changed on my request . I would definitely suggest her to all.
This is her collection
Chenni
http://search.ebay.in/_W0QQsassZnimishanQQhtZ-1QQfrppZ25QQfsopZ1QQfsooZ1QQrdZ0?

Samina ,
I would suggest you to keep up your plan of Indian wedding and try out this seller called nimishan who is new at ebay but really good . Her work is fantastic.
Chenni

I dunno. I didn't find Nimishan's offerings all that attractive in terms of color and design; and while the photos didn't get close enough for me to make definitive judgements about the quality of the embroidery, what I could see looked pretty ordinary.

I have come to this forum for the first time. Iwant to recommend a designer boutiwue named"silkaffair"from Lahore Pakistan.I have been ordering them for thelast three years and having a nice experience.they have very beautiful designs and they deliverthe outfit timely.stitching is very good.they are so perfect in qualitythat I am having no complain.I have ordered designs from different websites to them and they made for me inhalf of the price.the prices are so affordable . I will try to post up some designs here if I could,otherwise you can contact them at
silkaffair@gmail.com

Yeah I'd say $600.00 for a suit is really big, actually I'd say you got ripped off if you paid that much. That's just crazy, I can just see the people laughing their asses off that someone would pay that amount. Like I said unless it was a bridal salwar kameez, lengha or sari that was a complete rip off. I couldn't show my face around my temple if I told anyone I spent that much on a suit or even four suits . Lately I've been having more luck going to Toronto to the Gerrard India bazaar buying the fabric myself and sewing it myself. You can get suits with all the beading etc you want and just stitch it yourself, it's alot cheaper and you don't have to wait on shipping.

This whole situation with echarming has shown me to either stick with a site I know or make it myself. For all those wondering about that whole mess let me fill you all in. First of all I believe I mentioned I had to write and write and write to find out anything about my order and was told that "Oh I have been writting you back maybe you're not getting my e-mails" or "I haven't got a mail from you maybe I am not getting them" I put up with that and got a message Dec 25th that my suits had been sent then I got a message saying he needed my phone number for shipping (never heard of that one before but whatever) I was told it was shipped but the site wasn't showing that it had been shipped. So back to writting and bugging to find out what was going on, and get this now I am being told he had back surgery so he wasn't able to write me. Perhaps he did have surgery if so, he should have informed his customers of that fact before the surgery but I can't help but feel that this was just another excuse for the lack of info on my order or lack of an order completely. Anyways the site started showing it was shipped the begining of this month, last week I got another e-mail requesting my phone number again for shipping reasons...still fishy but I sent it and he told me the site would be down because he was going to fix it up...so I checked tonight now the site doesn't even exsist!! I don't know what to do, before the site disappeared it showed a shipping number but no way to actually track the shipping. Anyone could make up some numbers to make it look good. Keep in mind I ordered these four suits Oct 25th this is now January 21st this is completely unacceptable. So even before receiving an order I have doubts I'll ever receive my verdict for e-charming is DO NOT ORDER FROM THERE EVER, even if it was the last place on Earth you could buy salwar kameez from!!

Maggie, I don't know if you meant it that way or not, but your first paragraph could be taken as rather rude, implying as it does that there's some shame to having paid a fair amount of money and been ripped off, and that the purchaser should somehow have known better.

Aconite it was not meant as rude but us as consumers must take responsibility for educating ourselves about what is a good price and what is not. Merchants aren't about to go around telling their customers that they could get the same salwar kameez in India or Pakistan for half the price they are trying to sell it to us for. We all make mistakes especially when it comes to deals=ing with a country most of us know nothing about however we have to learn from those mistakes. The best way is first find a currency converter that can convert INR or Indian rupees to your currency and secondly find some friends from India or Pakistan and ask them how much do suits like you're looking to buy cost back home. Merchants are out to make money no matter where in the world you are and they will, if they think they can get away with it take advantage of you. This is just the way things are. So no there is no shame in it however please educate yourselves before parting with your money.

Hello, I was just reading the things on this forum, well would like to tell you all about some good and bad experiences of mine as well. About samin's $600 outfit, I am not surprised. I am from Delhi, there we pay about rs 2000-6000 for really nice shalwar suits. I just shifted here to US last year, and really I was a bit shocked that people here do not know any quality or wear much quality things. In India everyone knows what is ood, and what is best quality. Anyway, I have ordered from seasons india website since I was newly married and needed dresses and could not find good things here in NY or NJ, they were too over-priced at stores and not that great quality. So, from seasons I got two dresses. I was unhappy with one because it did not look like what was pictured, and the other was ok, it was "party dress" but I thought paid too much for it ($160 for one and $75 for other that I did not like much). Anyway, they stitched it for me, the tailoring was NOT GOOD. In Delhi on roadside tailor shops they stitch better. So I told them and they replied back nicely but could not refund my money, I said ok what the hell, and left it at that. recently my sister in law got married and as I was expecting we could not go to India for the shopping, so she decided to buy from here, but we could not figure out from where, as she wanted soooo many dresses and her budget was too less. Then just surfing we came across this site http://www.glammaam.com/ and it was a wholesale website or something. My sister-in-law sent them email and asked can they get her a few dresses etc. We were just bored and tired did not expect any replies, but we both were very shocked when they replied and asked us to check out some dresses, they said they could not give us exact styles but what is our budget etc and how many dresses we want and you know what, they were very helpful. My sisterinlaw got my husband to call and talk to this company, and we made $500 paypal payment. We thought they will eat our money so let's see, anyway we had everything worked out that if they do we will give them bad rating etc. In a week, they sent us TEN pant and kameez outfits and one set of red bangles as a gift for my sisterinlaw. All the dresses were different colors, and they fit us both pretty well, and just one dress we did not really like but we gave that as gift to her sister-n-law. So not a bad deal - 10 dresses for $500 !!! After that, my husband suggested I order one dress from them for the wedding day, but they said minimum was five because they do wholesale etc, so we decided whoever in the family wanted a wedding day dress, we contacted all of them and finally we got three people who wanted a dress. So my husband got me two and three other of his cousins got one each. That company sent us for less than $300 each really good BRIDE dresses. My husband said I looked like the wedding day bride. All the dresses were different, we ladies had a small argument about who will take which one, but that's ok. At the recepton hall, everyone was asking who he bride is as all five of us were wearing bridal dress!! We had asked for heavy party dress. One of the cousins, her husband did not like his wife to look like bride, I think he is a stuid man, he was telling his wife to go change al the time but she looked so good I tell you!! So I am happy with the purchases from this site, except they don't do custom ordering and they send you their choice not yours. But well it looks like designger clothes and price is right, so why not. Next time we have wedding in the family, I will do the same, and my husband has already asked if they can send me coton clothes for summer, they have said they will check their stock and see. Let's see, I am hoping!!! Since I will not be gong to India this year, it will be the best choice. You must try it, and if someone wants to order wth me, let me know, we can split it!!

H, someone said to buy on ebay, did buy last year one shawl and two cushion covers from India, shawl was overpriced ($17 for what??? ) I have it still, it s ok, but in India I ca get for half price same. And two shalwar kameez from pakistani lady they are still NOT ARRIVED!! She said she sent them but se cannot remember what I ordered but nevermind, they were $20 each, still, money is money.

I have bad ebay exerience I will not buy from it again. Let me see, eshakti is also good designs, good quick service. But too much overpriced! They sell $10 cotton for $40, why will anyone pay that much. My friends bought from it, it is ok, I didn'tthink to pay that much is good. I think I should start my own company but baby gives me no time :-(. I want to put up pictures of ouor brdal dresses we got, how can I put them up??

I ordered my first Indian online shalwar kameez from KANEESHA.COM in November 2006. It was a nightmarish experience. Ordering was easy enough, they are quick to take the money. But after that all I got was excuses. I have now closed my account withh them, returned the dress and still not received any refund. Because of this experience, my Indian boyfriend and I am not on talking terms with our friends who recommended it.

Kaneesha customer,
That is just awful I am so sorry to hear you had an experiance like that with Kaneesha, as I am sure you read I've been having a nightmarish problem with another online shop as well. Same story easy to order, they were quick to take their money and then made up excuses. Thank you so much for letting it be known what has happened with Kaneesha. I am looking at ordering online again (although I am abit shy now) so I am very thankful for this timely info.

Dear Maggie ,
Online buying always have some risk associated ,so I like to stick with the seller who has provided me goods nicely for all my needs . I have stuck to a seller "nimishan" in ebay who designs fabulous suits, the images shown are not always as good as the suit ( it is the reverse for other sellers, who have good images but bad product). Infact I sent her a couple of images of salwar suit to her and she custom made it for me at a very reasonable cost(almost 60% the price which the other online seller was charging).The stitching was perfect on the measurement that I ordered.
http://stores.ebay.in/nimishan-collection

Namsate,
Well since my last post I got more lies from echarming (last one being that my order got caught up in the snow storms in Europe, it should have been far, far, far away from Europe by then) I called my credit card and I am challenging the charges through them. I also looked echarming up e-bay (where he no longer sells, gee I wonder why) and noticed all the negitive feedback he got. Even some of the positive feedback said that he took too long. However the last e-mail from echarming gave me a loose deadline which he of course didn't meet and that will be sent to the credit card company. I'll let you know what comes of that (have to wonder if they'll even find him). I found a great seller on e-bay "ladys_den" I believe is the name, great feedback, good prices very helpful I have two suits coming from them and I got brave and ordered a salwar kameez and long kurta from S2 fashions tonight. All of which I will post about when they arrive. Hope everyone is well and is having luck with their purchases.

OMG I know I just posted last night but you will NOT believe the e-mail I just got from echarming. Now he claims that he doesn't know my address and has mixed up my province and city and is questioning if I am in Canada!!! This guy is a complete and utter crook and liar.

Maggie,

At least you're getting some amusement value out of the entire mess.

Next week, on "Walt Disney's Wonderful World of Color" (*), abi in "Pollyanna", also starring Kurt Russell as Snake Plissken.

Amusement value, yes; but we're also compiling information about the varietites of good and bad service in the consumer market.

As most of you remember I placed an order with S2 a few days ago and I just wanted everyone to know so far they have been just wonderful. I got an e-mail checking my measurements before they started to make my suit, and tonight I got an e-mail updating me on the progress of my order. I couldn't be happier with S2 thus far. Once the suit and kurta arrive I will make my final verdict but it's looking pretty good :)

Wrote to echarming last night to make sure the shipping "problem" was cleared up and have yet to receive an answer...

Dear Tereasa Nielsen Hayden,
I am sorry to say that your assessment of suits by nimishan on ebay is way of mark. Infact , the work ,the embroidery and the communication of the seller is the best amongst all sellers on ebay. I have loved the salwar suits from her, they are not run of mill production and make you stand out in the crowd with its wonderful design and perfect stitching. Moreover the prices offered by her is much lower than that being offered by other sellers.
http://stores.ebay.in/nimishan-collection
Thanks
Chenni

Well I looked at that link, really nice suits although I have seen a few of them on other sites (so not completely orginal suits). Not too badly priced until you get to the shipping. I just hate that these sellers are going to charge you like $20 (CND)or more to send your order and when it gets here it didn't even cost them that much to send it from India. Which means they're making another profit on top of what they charge for the clothing. These are the type of sellers you really need a currency converter or calulator for. For example I am buying a custom made (not altered to fit) salwar with churidar pants and a long kurta from S2 fashions I paid $10 USD for the entire order (and that $10 doesn't change no matter how much you order from them) which is coming from India as well. So why does this particular e-bay seller have to charge $26.03 USD ($30.54 CND) for the first item and then an additional amount for every item after that? Also I have to challenge the charge of best amongest all sellers on e-bay unless you've bought from all of them. It's one thing to have a favourite seller it's another to make such claims about that seller without first being totally aware of all the facts.

Been reading this log for some time. Chenni, are you sure you aren't "nimishan" ?? I have a bad bad feeling about sellers who advertise themselves in disguise.

Boyfriend is from Nepal. He likes Indian dresses so I ordered an Indian pant suit from Kaneesha weeks ago, came in yesterday. One word: ugly. Maybe it's just me. :-(. Service could have been better. They shipped in a plastic bag. I didn't "customize" as I didn't know what it was really, but it fits ok. I don't think I will order from them again as Seban didn't like it. Material is "gorget" ..feels like a firefighter's uniform.

another thing, the pictures on kaneesha are about twenty shades lighter than what you get.. atleast that's my take on it. so when buying from images, ask them to send you a picture of the dress in normal light, or better yet, no light.

Namsate,
Well I finally got my suits from echarming, and honestly they are wonderful. The fabrics are so nice, they are lined and well made. The colour of the one is abit off but it's still so nice. One other slight problem is that the one suit I got for myself (go figure lol) the top is too small. But on the positive side he's left nice large seams so I can hopefully take it out enough for it to fit. It's still been almost 4 months since I ordered them so I am disappointed there, but if you have like 4 months before you need your suits go for it. And one last warning you may have to pay extra duty on your order I had to pay another $46.00.

I also received my order from ladiesden_india from e-bay and I just can't say enough about them. Perfectly made, amazing material and super fast shipping just wonderful. The link to their e-bay store is; http://stores.ebay.ca/Ladies-Den
They send 2-3 packs of bindis with your orders and these are by far the nicest ones I've ever received with an order. Hope everyone is having a great day!

I ordered a kameez recently from Indiagiftsend.com, but the one I wanted was not in stock. So they let me choose a similar one even though the second kameez's price was higher (I didn't have to pay the difference). I was impressed with the fabric and the stitching, and I got compliments on it.

Maggie,

So will you post some pictures?

Good question Abi hadn't even thought about it LOL. Heck I don't even know how. Anyone have any hints?

We were alerted to this website by a customer Ms Mahin Shah who had apparenty "put in a good word" for us. Unfortunately, from the comments we have perused we do not judge the largely ignorant audience from this site to be our customers. Our clients are mostly high net worth individuals or retail firms that are well-versed with couture. They recognize quality fabrics and workmanship and are knowledgeable about costs. This is wholly unlike many commentors here who are bent on propogating sweatshop facilities, especially in Asian nations. For the information of people here, most fabric manufacturers merchants in India utilize the resources of skilled unionized labor that fights for their rights when necessary. There are legal rules and regulations on pay and work facilities. Individuals that foray into fabric retailing also are humans like you and deserve to be paid their labor for 1. the fabric, 2. the workmanship, 3. the drafting, cutting, layering, basting, hemming etc that constitutes adequate tailoring, 4. running around in markets looking for inventory, 5. expenses associated with running a business, even if it is a small-scale business or even home-based, 6. their own time and labor, 7. communications costs 8. mailing charges, 10. all the costs incurred for putting up with returns, restocking fees ec from unruly customers. In the US as well as many other countries, people are normally adequately compensated for these activities and are able to live normal middle-class lives, afford basic decencies and facilities, education, housing, food, healthcare etc.. Unfortunately, when people like yourselves are bent on seeking "deals in third world nations", retailers from those developing countries are now forced to resort to unethical practices such as passing off $39 sarees as "pure silk". Any manufacturer in India can tell you that real silk cannot even be woven for US$39, let alone offer for sale. And other retailers are forced to sell their items at $.99 plus $25 shipping just to break even on a shoddy quality third-class product.

Glam Ma'am does not condone these practises, neither from the retailers/manufacturers/suppliers side or from the buyer.

Please have the website administrator remove all reference to GLAM MA'AM ENTERPRISES from this website.

Regards,

CEO, Glam Ma'am Enterprises.

CEO @188:

Do you have a name? Can I call you C?

we do not judge the largely ignorant audience from this site to be our customers
...And what a wonderful way to convince us to become your customers. Going to call us ugly while you're at it?

They recognize quality fabrics and workmanship and are knowledgeable about costs
I would suggest you read the thread. Many of the commenters here, including Teresa Nielsen Hayden herself, are experienced at both the evaluation and production of clothing.

Many of us are also interested in the economics of the transaction from the supplier's point of view as well as the customer's. One of the points that started the thread was how a buyer in the West can deal directly with a tailor in India or Pakistan, so that the tailor gets a better price for his/her work. The only one who misses out is the middleman.

Oh, wait, that would be you.

unruly customers...people like yourselves...
Go on with you. We're blushing.

I've been to your site, and while I could certainly afford your wares, I have no interest in rewarding your attitude. But thanks for giving us an insight into your manner with the public!

Maybe I should switch to decaf.

Having just checked my own blog, I retract the implicit apology above.

GLAM MA'AM, bugger off and quit comment spamming my site. I wouldn't buy your products if the alternative was to go naked, and in the climate I live in, that is not a casual matter.

^5 Abi

CEO (too cowardly to put your real name are you?) how dare you come on here and insult us. Especially since I KNOW that your two examples $39 silk saris AND the .99 + $25.00 shipping were directed at me you arrogant, poster. For your information, the fabric is priced at .99 and the shipping at $25.00 so that if the customer wanted to return the item the seller of the item will still make a cool $25.00 USD which is 1105.07 INR while only having to reimburse the 99 cents. And yes I do know exactly how much the cost of living is in India, you can live in India for about $2.00 USD A DAY!! If not less. You seem to forget all about the exchange rate. I have paid $10 for a mehandi book that on the inside cover has the cost in INR which with the exchange rate means I paid nearly 1000% mark-up. As for being paid for workmanship let me give you some more math (which I sincerely do hope you can follow along with), I buy pure georgette material in Toronto a whole suit costs $15.00 and I cut, tailor and sew it all by myself in roughly a day does that mean that I should pay someone $60.00 USD to do the same thing? NO it doesn't. And since the shop that sells me the material is still in business after more then ten years they are obviously still making a profit. Do you condone ripping people off? It appears you do.

You obviously have nothing between your ears but a lot of air. Many of us here are very well versed in the way the world works. I wouldn't want to be one of your customers you disgust me. It's apparent the only thing that talks to you is money, and with your attitude I predict you won't have much of it if you continue to treat your customers or potential customers as you have here. If you indeed have as much money as you try to imply you are a good example of money not being able to buy you class, you don't even have low class. You seem to very an extremely greedy person. We are much more intelligent then you would like to admit. We know exactly how much fabric, manufacturing and shipping costs in India and Pakistan (it's pretty easy to read the amount the seller paid to ship the package and then use a currency converter to see the real costs). And we also know that there are many a retailer that will do everything in their power to rip people off that live in the West assuming that people in the West have no idea about these things. Well guess what? WE DO. And yes my sari is 100% silk and yes it was on sale for $39.00 dollars because it was on sale for Eid and Diwali..oh am I not supposed to know about Eid and Diwali? I am so very sorry..NOT!

I suggest you take your no good self complete with your ridiculous attitude and think about going into another trade. How dare you insult people that WOULD have paid for you to have a nice holiday, WOULD have paid for your business and WOULD have paid for your children's education. You are by far the worst example of ignorance and arrogance I've ever encountered I only hope your "customers" (I doubt you have many as it is) found out exactly what kind of scum bag they are dealing with. You mention high end clientele? You're nothing but a joke. I have a lot more money then you assume that I do but I wouldn't waste it on trash like you or your products. Go back under the rock you came out from.

Oh one last thing, a message so full of hate, anger and insults leads me to believe that us "ignorant" posters here were getting just alittle too close to the truth when we made our comments about your products and your lack of work ethics. Even through all the lies you tried the truth shines right through. Good try though.

Maggie,

This is a totally minor nit-pick, but I am an awful pedant: The word that you spell consistently as "Namsate" really ought to be spelled "Namaste", or better yet, as "Namasté" (the accent over the final "e" indicating that it is pronounced rather than silent).

I apologize again. I am dweeb, hear me show off my (trivially small) knowledge of South Asian languages.

CEO #188 Please have the website administrator remove all reference to GLAM MA'AM ENTERPRISES from this website.

No.

LMAO James, well said.

Owlmirror, with respect I've spelt Namsate the same way for some time now, to many Indian/Hindu people and never once have they ever mentioned the typo you've tried to point out. Going on their info I will continue to spell it as I always have.

Am I missing something or was GLAM-MA'AM never mentioned on this site before "CEO" posted?

I keep going off to ebay and checking the custom salwar kameez, but I'm still not sure this is a good style for me, or that they could fit my figure without actually having my figure present to fit. Could Maggie or anyone else who's done this tell me exactly what measurements they request?

Their website was mentioned @ #169. Favourably, as far as I can tell. (*Shrug*)

There was a pre-CEO mention in #169 that actually gave the site a rather good review, which makes me wonder what on earth sparked the delayed backlash.

Aside from that, I have nothing to add to the salwar kameez discussion except to note that lately I've been web-browsing various sites that similarly offer custom cheongsam/qipao orders, as well as custom orders of pre-Manchu "hanfu" clothing that look like something out of a wuxia tomance epic.

can any body give me a pattern to make kameez and tunics

Maggie, "namaste" is kosher Hindi (pardon the phrase) meaning, loosely, "greetings". I don't know what "namsate" means and Google is no help, but it's possible that it means the same thing as "namaste" in another Indian language.
Alternatively, I suspect your Indian acquaintances may simply have been being politely ignoring what they took to be a typo - as a Frenchman might if I started an email to him "Bonjoru".

Susan @ 196:

I'm a fairly heavy woman with a strong hourglass figure, and the two kameez I bought fit and suit me. Both places asked for measurements for basics (hips, waist, chest, inseam, and across-the shoulders measurements) - one went rather further and into more detail (shoulder to waist, underarm to waist. Outside of leg, waist to ankle.)

I have yet to see someone on whom a well-tailored kameez didn't look good, and more people can wear off the rack than with most items, or so it seems to me. They're essentially pant-suits with long tunics, aside from colour, tailoring and decor (I've also seen skirt and kameez sets). I can't normally get anything like a tunic top that doesn't either hang like a tent from my bust down, or fails to go over my hips entirely, so there's a BIg plus for the person who sized them. I'm pretty sure the two locations were indianartcart and indiashop1, from Teresa's post; the results were very different in mood and tenor from one another, but I like them both.

CEO: "Please have the website administrator remove all reference to GLAM MA'AM ENTERPRISES from this website."

Sorry, CEO, but that one falls under the common-law doctrine of Tough Noogies.

Or, as Jim put it: No.

Want to go a few more rounds on this and work up some real googlejuice?

I don't think you read the comment thread. This is not about propagating sweatshops, or wringing the lowest possible prices out of Indian textile workers. It's about getting good clothes that fit, at a reasonable price, and disintermediating the process of manufacturing them.

None of us want to be sold fraudulent merchandise at ridiculously low prices. We want to be sold good merchandise at fair prices.

Did you miss the part about how one of the virtues of commissioning salwar kameez via eBay is that most of the purchase price goes to the people or firms that actually make the clothes? Surely that's better than having a big bite taken out of it by middlemen.

Of course workers deserve to be paid for their work. No one here ever said otherwise. I can't see a single thing about the process described that necessarily results in the work being done under sweatshop conditions. In fact, I should think it would be a great deal less likely to be produced in a sweatshop than it would be if we bought garments from some huge chain of discount stores that deals only in bulk quantities, and squeezes its suppliers until the only way they can stay in business is to pass the grief on to their employees.

Ajay, @#200:

I don't know what "namsate" means and Google is no help, but it's possible that it means the same thing as "namaste" in another Indian language.

I would tend to doubt it; the linguistic breakdown in the Wikipedia page (na/mah/te/) makes it clear what the components are and what they mean; I don't think "namsate" can be derived from them.

The only hits for various searches on "namsate" (1680 ghits) that I was able to find were obvious typos for "namaste" (3,300,000 ghits) (indeed, even Google thinks "namsate" is wrong).

But I will take the word of a Hindustani linguist if I am wrong.

I was thinking along the same lines as your guess — that Indian correspondents knew what she meant even if the word was spelled incorrectly, and were all less nit-picky than myself. Or perhaps they thought it rude to offer correction. I did apologize, though.

Amusingly, I note the Spelling reference above this page's post form box. Although since Firefox 2.0 has built-in spell-checking, I hope that at least some of those typos will occur less frequently for me. I've always had a problem with "Delany" vs "Delaney", though, so I do appreciate the name references.

Anyway: Namasté

Lenora Rose:
I can't normally get anything like a tunic top that doesn't either hang like a tent from my bust down

That's what I'm concerned about. A standard bust measurement is inadequate for proper fit at size extremes - it doesn't help with the very significant shape difference between a size 44A and a size 32H. Things either hang like a tent in front on me or are too wide across the back. Or both simultaneously.

I should probably just make my own. (In my copious spare time, sigh.)

Susan, I've seen salwar kameez sites that make some effort to accommodate those differences. I hope they do good business, and so feel motivated to further refine their approach to sizing.

abi, do I understand you to be saying that Glam Ma'am spammed your website in the wake of the dust-up here?

Teresa... Yes, they did spam abi's site.

Teresa @205
abi, do I understand you to be saying that Glam Ma'am spammed your website in the wake of the dust-up here?

In the technical sense of "unsolicited commercial messages", yes.

They left four messages on one thread where I was discussing a strong preference for natural fibres over artificial ones. The first two were "if you like natural fibres buy our stuff" ones, and the second two were about current offers.

I deleted all but one (so that I could be scathing with a reference). I have very little Googlejuice at all, so they don't profit any too much from their actions.

I did find it funny that they were nice to me on my own site, but rude here.

Teresa @ #205:
Susan, I've seen salwar kameez sites that make some effort to accommodate those differences.

If you happen to remember the names of any of them, I would be delighted to direct my potential business their way.

If I do end up making my own, I'm also debating how silly it will look to wear much wider-legged pants with the tunic-top. I haven't worn pants that skinny since sometime in the '80s.

Now I'm going to end up going fabric shopping tonight instead of doing music editing like a good girl. Sigh.

CEO@188: Our clients are mostly high net worth individuals [...]

Oooh. Hey, everybody, GLAM MA'AM says we aren't rich and sophisticated enough to buy from them and we need to know our place.

That's just freakin' brilliant, PR-wise.

Just makes you want to give 'em money on the spot.

First I would like to reply to the meaning of namaste, it is used as "greetings" or "hello" it's actualorigins lies in the Hindu faith as it means "I bow to the God within you" which is the corner stone of the Hindu faith. This belief is not present in the other two major faiths of India being Islam and Sikhism therefore it is impolite to use this greeting towards persons of either of the above mentioned faiths. The trademark Indian politeness usually dictates that if a Muslim or Sikh is greeted with this greeting but someone not "in the know" they will reply the same. But please do not confuse this word with the mundane "Hello" as it has significant religious meaning. Do note that yes indeed the spelling was off by one misplaced letter and I have fixed it. I do hope this clears up this matter as trival as it was. And there is no accent on the "e" as I have a Hindi program runing right infront of me and it doesn't show an accent.

P.s
Please don't talk about me as if I am not on the boards. I guess it's just a pet peeve.

HI Susan!! lol hope I haven't scared you away or anything, apparently just a bad time on the boards right now. You were talking about custom made salwar kameez that didn't hang like a tent. When it comes to the best talioring I have to admit at the moment I have to go with e-shakti.com. The measurements are very detailed (they even have pictures to show where to measure) some of the questions even go as far as asking what shape your bottom, tummy and hips are and give a drop down list of options (full, full and full for me lol). I just recently trimmed down my pattern for my kameez (tunic) and made a new suit that fits really nice to the body without hanging like I am expecting. I just ordered two more suits (not cotton) from e-shakti because I really do love how the top I have is shaped so I will let you know what their poly suits are like (even though perhaps abit over priced). If you have time, can sew and have access to Indian/Pakistani shops in your area I would suggest putting your money into sewing your own. It's much cheaper and you can talior your own suits, not to mention the pride you can take when someone asks where you bought it and you can say you made it lol. In earlier messages I've given patterns that when matched together give a nice salwar kameez. Currently I use the pant pattern from "dansingnspirit" and the tunic pattern I took off a nicely done custom ordered tunic. As for wide legged pants with a tunic that is perfectly fine, they would be somewhere between parallels and shara pants, some sites even offer bootcut or bell bottom pants instead of churidar pants or traditional salwar. If you do some searches for salwar kameez on your favourite search engine you'll find a vast amount of results. Looking through them you'll get to learn the different styles and their names and you'll quickly see that when it comes to salwar kameez ANYTHING goes. If you need the pattern numbers posted again just drop me a line here. Hope I've helped.

Oh I just had to talk about CEO's site (which I just visited..what a waste of five minutes of my life that I'll never get back). First of all can you say OVER PRICED, UGLY suits? I know I can because I said it over and over again after each picture loaded. What a bunch of crappy outfits I mean seriously. And as for the claim that their customers are "high net worth" what is so high net worth about a kurti for $25.00 LMFAO omg I could afford that on my poorest of days. I must be a millionaire, who knew? hahahaha But the salwar kameez, my God CEO those are not something I would advertise or make that much noise about. My first sewing job was a salwar kameez and believe me it is much better looking then anything on your pages, I wouldn't wear any of your clothing in public. Oh as for the listing named "avant garde" it is handy to know the meanings of French phrases before you use them to lessen the likelihood of you looking like more of a fool then you presently do. "Avant Garde" means before it's time, so how can a style that has been used in Asia for thousands of years be before it's time? And just for my own curiosity (though I doubt you have the guts to come back and answer) what effect were you aiming for when you used French names for your "collections" we all know they are Indian designs. The effect you got from me was a huge laugh so if that was what you're aiming for then I suppose it worked, otherwise you made yourself look so very, very silly.

I have a very dear friend of mine who lives in India, and owns his own online business and makes every piece of clothing himself and only hires someone else (adult, male..I've seen his picture) to do the embroidery. His work is amazingly beautiful, hand done, from the heart (which is something I doubt you can claim to have) and he is willing to customise any piece for a customer and his prices are half what yours are. Not to mention the fact that he would never treat someone as you did in your post.

I think I'll stick to my own sewing, or order authentic couture from at the very least noteworthy sites, yours not being one of them.

Maggie @ #211:

Thanks, eshakti is great - that's exactly what I was looking for as far as a site that takes detailed measurements. I've done a bit of sewing, so I have a good idea of what's needed to properly fit my body. I love some of their black and white "trendsetter" outfits, too!

I could certainly sew my own outfit, and I have the Folkwear pattern around somewhere. It's a matter of time (I haven't got any to spare).

Maggie,
Is there a website for your Indian friend?

It is entirely the fault of this thread that I went to the fabric store and came home with a gorgeous chocolatey-chestnut brown imitation silk fabric that would be fabulous for a salwar kameez, except that I never wear that color and it may look awful on me, and I have no shoes that match, but it was so nice I just had to get it.

Also, I now have four yards of a funny fleecy green fabric with sequinned patterns that is too heavy for the outfit, but it was weird and on sale and just sort of necessary. It can join all the other weird but sort of necessary things in my sewing room, I suppose.

If I am wandering around Lunacon looking funny-hued in brown, that will be this thread's fault too.

Susan @215Susan @215 This is why I approach my local Pakistani fabric shop with care. It used to be that I wouldn't even walk down the aisle with the remnants bin, till they moved it by the cutting table.

Drat them! Drat them and their beautiful fabrics!

(I don't currently wear salwar kameez - my usual interesting garb is linen wrap trousers and a fitted Mandarin collar jacket.)

Sure is holud it's http://www.freewebs.com/indiabazaar/main.html
I still think he's abit over priced however at least unlike CEO you know the extra money is worth it.

Oh I know Susan, eshakti is just horrible (in the good way) their outfits are just amazing I ordered
"burnt orange and teal with gold print crepe set" on the trendsetters page, I ordered another suit but oddly enough they stopped selling it the next day (talk about ordering it in the nix of time. I am sure you might have noticed a few of us mentioning that eshakti has horrible cottom so I wouldn't suggest buying any of the cotton sets unless you like to iron alot. I hear you about colours for thread. I've bought a ton of suits in the last two months in Toronto bring them back to small town London and have a horrible time finding matching thread. I went out and tried to find extra material for the yoke of the pants now that was a task and a half. Then I found out I didn't need it...$50.00 later pffft!! I am sure the brown will look great on you, for shoes heck just go with sandles they go with everything. This year I am looking at getting the traditional leather sandles, they seem to last forever and they'll match my salwar kameez and my numerous saris. Both of which are my everyday attire, lately it's been my wool salwar kameez though lol. Again if you want tradtional, none skinny legged pants dansingnspirit is where to go (mind you I still haven't forgiven her for not helping me out with patiala pants). I had looked at the Folkwear pattern but A) it's too small for me and I detest resizing patterns and B) it was when I was first learning to sew wouldn't want to deal with the bias then (or now to be honest lol).

Abi, Can you fill me in on how to post pictures here? I'd love to show some of the suits I've bought and made.

p.s
I am so happy for all the activity on this board lately (good and bad).

Susan @ 215... If I am wandering around Lunacon looking funny-hued in brown, that will be this thread's fault too.

I am very disappointed that you'd blame others for your own lack of moral... er... fiber.

Abi, Can you fill me in on how to post pictures here? I'd love to show some of the suits I've bought and made.

I am not abi, but I think I can answer the question. :)

You can't post actual pictures, just links to somewhere where you have the picture. To post a link, see the HTML tags reference above the comment-posting window.

Could someone who has a dupatta (scarfy thing that goes with the salwar kameez) tell me the dimensions or it? Do they vary much?

I've become reconciled to my brown fabric and decided that jazzing it up with turquoise and silver beads would be just the thing, but this means acquiring a suitably-colored piece of fabric, or perhaps a suitable package of dye and some white silk chiffon.

No way is this going to be done by Lunacon, but if it is, I shall wear it at my party.

Thank you Carrie :)I'll have to get some pictures and post them somewhere for everyone to see.

Susan, I am going to measure one right now 2.2 metres or about 7 feet long. I took this measurement from a dupatta that came with a set I haven't sewn yet. Although I have gone to Walmart and bought some of their larger scarves to go with my suits when I wanted something with some stitching or fringe or something. Just make sure that the fabric you use can be folded up small and when it hangs around your neck it won't feel like it's trying to strangle you LOL (I forgot to check that once myself :O )

I got an e-mail from eshakti yesterday, they are running a referal program all of March. If you are looking to order from them (for the first time) e-mail me at maggiejoh2005@aol.com and I can forward an e-mail from them that will save you $25.00 on your order (sure beats the $15.00). And yes everyone that says I refered them I get $25.00 off as well just so everyone knows. But I thought I would put the offer up there because I figure it would be a nicer way of trying eshakti without having to pay the full (sometimes over priced) price.

Namaste ;) everyone,
I just got my order from S2 fashions and I am completely amazed, it was small and simple order but I have to say everything is perfect. I thought the kurta I picked was abit longer but that was my own fault. They continue to update you throughout the order process and my order even included a hand written letter! Now how many companies pay that much attention to their clients? Not many that's for sure. I am certainly going to be ordering from them again and probably soon too!! I give them a 10 out of 10. I hope when any of you are looking to order you might take a second look at S2 because they are priced just right and it only took a few days for shipping the only delay was in Toronto because of the recent bad weather we've been having but that's Mother Nature's fault lol.

P.s
I won't comment on the traffic on here anymore, as soon as I did everyone went away :(

We have noted your refusal to remove all references to Glam Ma'am Enterprises from your website.

C'est trop dommage mais qu'est-ce qu'on fait...

Addressing (mostly Maggie) comments:

- I don't intend to offend, but the fact remains that visitors at this website are not our target consumers and hence we do not feel it necessary to market to them. It is a bitter pill to swallow for some customers but as a company we do set our standards very high in all things - including who our customers are.

- Maggie, je parle Francais courrament, et aussi Italien, Anglais, et Indienne. It may come as a surprise to you to know that very many people have lived and do live in Europe.

- The design on the kurta is decidedly Avant Garde - Empress Noor Jehan's chikan tankas used on 21st century one-piece tops is nouveau, not ancienne. Dictionary.com is not a good enough resource for looking up foreign words... you actually have to understand the meaning.

- It is enough for you to know that this response is from the CEO of a reputable company. CEOs change, company philosophies do not.

- My earlier reply may seem high-handed, but it is necessary to be so when dealing with riff raff. You may "have money' - anyone can claim that nowadays - but you obviously don't know how to spend it wisely.

Glam Ma'am customers, as I have said before, are not just high-net worth individuals with a degree of refinement but also, more importantly, well- and broadly-educated. From long habit, they buy good quality and are not averse to paying fairly for it.

High net worth individuals do occasionally buy water and other basics such as avant garde tee tops, so I am not surprised that some people feel able to afford such things, especially if they are the cheapest item we sell.

In the same vein, Glam Ma'am customers also typically don't feel the need to, say, buy a fake Prada when they can pay for, understand the value of, and realize the efforts behind the real thing.

- I feel it is important to reiterate that sellers you buy from are being unfair - primarily to themselves. By retailing at ludicrously unfeasible prices, they have naturally inherently compromised on quality, but they also delude themselves in believing that they will gain in the long run by "making a customer" in a faddy fashion industry. They pin their hopes on buyers who change loyalties with every price drop. You say you are conversant with Indian, Pakistani and other southeast Asian living standards. You also say that in India "$2 a day" is what people live on. Unfortunately, that is very true. But why is it true? Partly because of people like yourselves who will buy from resellers in India and Pakistan - good for them - but you will cheapen their services by not paying adeqately for them. The same money that you spend on your daily coffee you say you know is adequate for a just-adequate lifestyle in India - while maintaining your lifestyle in the US. Why don't you try living on $2 a day? Yes, that is nearly 100 rupees. And that is just what an impoverished Indian might say - ONE HUNDRED RUPEES.

For that pittance they either turn into scamps zipping through rubbishy cloth and two-washes workmanship for a quick efficient mailing - often with some frivolous added "personal touch" that does nothing to upgrade the quality of garment -

OR,

if they are sincere, they slog in a tiny corner somewhere sewing their dreams minutely and with extreme detail - and doubly carefully because the customer is a foreign memsahib. What they fail to grasp is that that 100 rupees cannot even secure them cooking oil today. And it is this sincere group of workers that suffers because it thinks - incorrectly - that it will gain something. This honest-to-goodness group pays heavily for the lost time, effort and compromises on its art in working for a customer who can and should compensate its efforts properly but refuses to do so, with the convenient excuse of "disparity in living standards". How many times have you exported your own work in this scrupulous way to other nations at $2 a day wages? Ever? Why would you, correct? Have you any work worth exporting that someone else cannot do much better is the first question, but that is another topic.

- The intro here stated that "if these guys sell you a salwar kameez ...and you send them the list of measurements they request, out of the kindness of their hearts they’ll throw in all the cutting, sewing, embroidery, etc., required for a complete outfit made to your measure". In the US especially, "kindness of heart" comes with a price tag, depending on degree of "kindness". That's capitalism, and it works for you, why not let it work for Southeast Asian too? Bargain-hunting and kindness-of-heart .. isn't that exploitation? Nothing new... that's what the East India Company thought too.

- Next time you see JoAnn fabric synthetic rubbish at $6.99 a yard - even their muslin is laughable quality - consider paying for quality merchandise at a reputable asian store. Do some googling, learn some terms - banares, kanjeevaram, bandhej are good starts - buy a book.

But perhaps you purchase from the clearance corner at your local fabric store, in which case, sorry to say, no amount of education will help. That sort of material rightly ought to be consigned to cheap purse linings, coarse kitchen tablecloths and practise quilting squares.

- Bear in mind while shopping that only exploiters and opportunists refuse to recognize and pay for the value of other people's work.

- I am sure your "friend" in India is a good honest seller selling good honest work. Why else would you be buying from him? Everyone should like to have such a friend.

- As for his prices being "half" what ours are - for the exact same fabric, workmanship etc. Something we - like most original designers - handweave inhouse, create from scratch, and typically have about 4 to 40 people work on, different embroideries for different specialized workers who have been handed specific arts down through generations - for example a good murree artist will refuse to do a bakia stitch, but why would you know that? - master cutters doing just the cutting, different seamstresses and tailors putting together different things- while he uses just one person for everything, correct? Save it, I've heard it all before.

- Speaking of sounding silly. Consumers of wares from nondescript sites like eshakti and similar specifically-western-market-catered resellers, ought to know that those very same outfits retail under Rs 200 ($6) on the streets on Mumbai, Kolkatta, Chennai and yes, even all-expensive Delhi where Rs300 sizing-specific (ie "tailored") outfits are not at all hard to come by. What do you presume the less fortunate working classes regularly wear here - bikinis? And that entire outfit cost includes unethical pay standards for employees and routinely passing off machine embroidery as hand embroidery to the unsuspecting buyer. Instead of mouthing off about knowing your supplier and the value of educating yourself on costs, practice what you preach is a good bit of advice that works well here.

Good luck with machinery-churned poor quality viscose or inferior grade weave passed off as cotton, silk, etc. Meant to last? That's a joke. The stitching may fit your figure, but anyone can do Bust-Waist-Hip fitting. That's what average joe tailors - and many homemakers - DO. They also additionally sew curtains and take in dry cleaning on the side. But that is garment construction, not fashion design. You pay top designers for drape, perfect cut, shoulders that don't slouch, embroidery that isn't peeling and most importantly is original while using age old techniques the way they ought to be used, and quality fabrics meant to last no matter how roughly they are abused. This is what differentiates our work from the rest.

- Some one mentioned that we were "middlemen". Sorry to dispel that notion - we are a co-op with our own production and sales facilities. So we are not just middlemen, we actually supply the market. Our profits go directly to our workers. It's called profit sharing.

Our internet presence is admittedly lackluster. Nonetheless it offers no hindrance to our select group of clients who know where to find us when they need good work done right. You see, we prefer to concentrate on our work rather than on hollow internet facades.

- As I stated before, our products are not meant for an less discerning audience, negative advertising notwithstanding. We don't compromise on our work or our prices. You are welcome to buy from us if you wish at any time, but it does require a certain type of personality and wallet to appreciate what we offer.

- Our company does not cater to any one ethnic group in particular. In fact, most of our individual buyers are Southeast Asian. But that's just understandable - they know their dress fabric basics.

- Customer care may have inadvertently posted the same message twice on abi's site for which we apologize.

Best,

for Glam Ma'am Enterprises.

CEO, as you said, we are not your target customers. If you do not feel like marketing to us, don't. We'll do all right on our own.

The comment at 223 reminds me irresistibly of the inspiration for Scalzi's Crazy Screechy Monkeys piece.

Dear CEO of Glam Ma'am:

I feel the need to assure you that, as a member of the hoi polloi, I will never besmirch your company by purchasing from it. In fact, I will make sure that all my friends understand that we untermenschen must indeed stay in our places, and if any are ever tempted to purchase from you, I will make sure they don't. After all, no matter how much money we make, we will never meet your degree of sophistication or have the je ne sais quoi that will make us acceptable customers for you!

Sincerely,
Nancy C.

When I google "Glam Ma'am" I don't get any useful hits on the first page. When I google "Glam Maam", this thread comes up as the second link. Further down the page there's a link to a "bridal trousseau" for (gasp) $650. That makes comments like this:

Glam Ma'am customers, as I have said before, are not just high-net worth individuals with a degree of refinement but also, more importantly, well- and broadly-educated. From long habit, they buy good quality and are not averse to paying fairly for it.

pretty ridiculous. I mean, the high net worth people I know who buy couture work generally think of cheap bridal gowns as the ones starting around $10,000. Clearly Glam Ma'am needs to adjust its "high net worth" scale a bit; I'd be embarrassed to recommend such cheap stuff to people like that.

(For that matter, despite being a low net worth person, the most recent trousseau I arranged, which was a beautiful custom-fitted, hand-trimmed mid-19thc set - corset, drawers, chemise, corset cover, and petticoat - ran over $650. Do I make the grade?)

Maggie @ #221: seven feet long; what's the OTHER dimension?

(This thing is not going to be done for Loonie due to the need to deal with alligators.)

Spamlady calls us "riff raff".

Alas, tragically, I feel amused, not insulted.

Quoth Glam Ma'am: I don't intend to offend, but the fact remains that visitors at this website are not our target consumers and hence we do not feel it necessary to market to them. It is a bitter pill to swallow for some customers but as a company we do set our standards very high in all things - including who our customers are.

*hysterical laughter*

Let's hear it for reading comprehension, everyone, and for whoever's running this marketing department. I particularly like the touch of informing us that we're right to be insulted because, y'know, they don't care if they're insulting us, 'cause we're not good enough for them. You just don't learn that kind of thing in business school.

I'll spell it out for you very slowly, Glam Ma'am, because apparently one needs to be very explicit with you: We're not insulted because you're above our touch. We're insulted because you're arrogant without cause. You'd take the money of anyone here who plunked it down in return for your goods; that would make us suddenly "one of your kind." Don't bother putting your nose in the air and pretending being your customer has anything to do with anything except being willing to buy from you.

You have given me an awfully good laugh today, though, and for that, I thank you.

Could this attitude be an, um, caste thing?

...je parle Francais courrament, et aussi Italien, Anglais, et Indienne.

I count seven errors in that sentence.

Eight if you add her boast that she "speaks Indian." (To clarify, Glam Ma'am CEO: the Indian subcontinent boasts hundreds of languages. You can't speak "Indian" any more than you can speak "Native American," "African," or "Asian.")

LMFAO TexAnne OMG I didn't even notice that Indian comment, or the many mistakes in Glam's "French" until you mentioned it. You've hit the nail on the head. And judging by CEO's angry reply directed at me, I must have done the exact same thing.

Wow, CEO, your newest post seem to be pretty unhappy. In my many years of living I've learnt a very handy saying; "Thou protest too much." If we "riff raff" (That gave me a good belly laugh) aren't your targeted customers, why do you continue to push your products and your "superior" company on us; people you have no wish of doing business with? For being such a wonderful company, you do seem to have a great amount of spare time to come on here and BS all of us some more. I can really tell how you "prefer to concentrate on (y)our work rather than on hollow internet facades," by the way you continue to post here. Did you not notice that you're unwanted here, and that we all think you're an arrogant pr*ck?

Believe me, CEO, I know a hell of a lot more about India, business, fabric AND shopping (not to mention currency conversion) than you might like to admit. We are all very well educated in the practices of some Indian companies. Have you not noticed Walmart's products? Most of them come from India or China, and are sold at prices so cheap one couldn't afford to buy the materials and make the products themselves. So, if Walmart is selling their products so cheap, how much are the workers being paid? THAT is who you should be should angry at.

You can live so cheaply in India for one very good reason, which you keep trying to side-step. The prices of the basic necessities aren't jacked up the way they are here in North America. Get off your high horse and educate yourself. My henna books aren't dirt cheap in India because they are selling themselves short. They are that cheap because it doesn't cost much to print out a simple henna design book. Food is cheaper, clothing is cheaper everything is cheaper in India. Do you honestly expect any one of us on this board to believe you and what you're trying to push on us? You challenge me to live on $2 a day in Canada. That is a rather ridiculous comparison when you actually do that math and pay attention to the cost of living in each country. It's the proverbial comparing apples to oranges.

I just loved when you said that bargain hunting is exploitative. You must be really out of touch with India and Indian cultural practises. It is a staple in India to bargain everywhere, and for everything. It's well known that shop-keepers jack up the prices and then bargain down. They expect it to happen. And it's not just my "white girl" knowledge that says so. It's also the many people that attend the same Mandir as I do that say the same thing and have already warned me about people just like you.

I just have to laugh and yet feel so sorry for you, CEO. You've cut off your nose to spite your face. It's shows right through your font that your company is hurting for business. That's even more obvious when one looks on your webpage. Could you not afford to pay a half decent programmer to do a simple webpage for you? E-charming had a better webpage and we all know his business practices.

Poor CEO got all angry when big, bad Maggie second-guessed and even challenged them. CEO got so angry that they had to throw a cyber temper tantrum and make themselves look even more like a fool then they had in the original post. Believe me, CEO, I've got more then enough money to buy what you claim is couture. But, I also have enough sense not to buy the trash you're selling. As I said in another post to you, your clothing is ugly and tacky. Oh, and for that lengha choli, maybe next time you should make it less noticeable that you cut apart a sari for the fabric. That "dupatta" is the pallu from what would have been a beautiful sari. Too bad you had to cut it to shreds.

Oh, CEO, which "Indian" do you speak? Hindi, Punjabi, Parsi, Tamil, English (which is an official language of India), Urdu, Telugu, Bodo, Bengali, Karbi, Assamese, Bhojpuri, Magahi, Maithili, Chhattisgarhi, Konkani, Marathi, Portuguese, Gujarati, Pahari, Dogri, Kashmiri, Kannada, Malayalam, Meitei, Khasi, Garo, Mizo, Oriya, Rajasthani, Nepali, French, Kokborok, Badaga, Sankethi, Soliga Nudi, Tulu, Kodava, Beary bashe, Are bashe, Gowda Kannada, Kuruba Kannada or Havyaka Kannada? Did I miss any? By the way a dictionary is the perfect source to find out the meaning of words or phrases as THAT IS WHAT THEY ARE FOR. Then again, you assume I looked in the dictionary. You will be surprised when you read further down. If you're so concerned, and care so much about what goes on in India and to the people of India why do you live in Europe? Oh, and just for the record CEO, as you seem highly undereducated in all subjects other then being an ass, one of Canada's (that's right I am in CANADA not the US as you wrongly assumed) official languages is French, and we start learning it in school in grade three. So, my dearest CEO, do not assume that I do not know French. Actually, don't assume anything about me, because you do not know me, or anyone else that posts on this board.

As for the "two wash garment" "personal touch" comment; it's seeming more and more that you, CEO, are becoming very jealous of all the praise I am willing to give to sellers that are worth giving giving praise. My kurta and salwar kameez from S2 are far from bring "two wash items." Your comments are coming out of anger and ignorance. You have no idea the quality of the clothing I have bought or how I grade them for my final judgements on here. As I mentioned, I sew many of my own salwar kameez. Sewing is an art that runs in my family, and I've been exposed to what quality is when it comes to workmanship and when it comes to the quality of the cloth used to make the item. Therefore, I know when something is a piece of junk, like my cotton salwar kameez from eshakti, or when the item is of high quality, like my most recent order from S2.

You continue on the $2 rant, going so far as to assume that I am only willing to pay that amount. Apparently, you've missed something in my previous posts on here. I am more than willing to pay a fair amount for clothing, and I do every time I order. The order I just put in with eshakti is around $127.00 USD for two outfits that other than the print of the fabric are nothing special. So, in fact, I am paying someone roughly 2700 INR for at most two day's worth of work, and probably 1750 INR for fabric. As is usual with most sellers, (yourself included,) the fabric won't even be worth that much.

As for the work I do when I sew my own, my suits look so nice that I've had numerous offers to from people wanting to buy my work. I've also had many people tell me to open up my own shop and sell my work. So, indeed, my work is definitely good enough to sell. (Aand it's much prettier then yours..oops I sunk to your level for a moment). If I ever do open my own shop, my clothing will be well made. They will be made with the most beautiful, quality fabric I can find, and my prices will be fair. I'd never sell anything to someone else that I wouldn't wouldn't wear myself. Have you ever really looked at your own clothing? Would you wear it? Would you allow anyone in your family to wear it, and leave the house? I didn't think so.

So, talk about the atrocities of us "riff raff," and yet you try and cover up the truth that in all your babble you are still making a profit with what you sell. And from your prices and the fabric you use you're probably making a very large profit. People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. In other words, I am calling you a hypocrite. You ask whether I have any work worth exporting, perhaps you should have asked yourself that before you went into business. Looking at your work you don't have anything special or, for that matter, mediocre.

I just can't seem to warn you enough against assuming, CEO. I for one, and many others here know the terms that are used when talking about Indian fabrics and traditional embellishments. We're not the ones that need a book. As for suggesting I shop at an Asian store for fabric, what kind of stores do you think are in "Little India" in Toronto? African? I only shop in Indian/Pakistani shops for my fabric. As for "Speaking of sounding silly. Consumers of wares from nondescript sites like eshakti and similar specifically-western-market-catered resellers, ought to know that those very same outfits retail under Rs 200 ($6) on the streets on Mumbai, Kolkatta, Chennai and yes, even all-expensive Delhi where Rs300 sizing-specific (ie "tailored") outfits are not at all hard to come by." You're somewhat confusing in your rants, first you tell me not to undersell the retailer/manufacturer and then you state right there for all to see that these outfits can be bought for 200 INR. Now pick which side of the fence you're going to stand on. It is going to be that we should all pay outrageous prices for cheap clothing? Or is it going to be that we pay the fair price of what we get? You can't have it both ways. By the way you don't seem to know India well at all, Mumbai is much more expensive then Delhi is now for everything.

In closing (and I do hope the admin. of this board will indulge me) I would like to tell you, CEO, to take your company, you're childish remarks, immature actions and UGLY clothing and stick them up your ass. Unlike someone else who posted, I do hope you will continue to keep your nose high up in the air so that I might pray for rain...I have no doubts that you are dumb enough to keep it up while you're drowning in the rain.

I don't know about anyone else, but the best part in the whole rant from CEO was this: "You are welcome to buy from us if you wish at any time..." Gee, I wonder if anyone from this board is going to buy from them? LMAO I have to wonder if CEO and his "employees" (HA like he has any. It's probably him and a half a dozen child workers) are colour blind or just plain blind. My God I would never post most of those outfits and then brag about them.

Stefan Jones @ 231 All of this has nothing to do with caste. Glam (hehe almost called them Clam) maam is just showing us the wonders of being ignorant, arrogent, greedy and just plain having bad manners. Although I've toyed with the thought that CEO is the product of bad breeding. You can find the exact same additudes in people around the world but most of them just don't post here.

Susan@ 228 hold on I'll do the other measurement (can't believe I forgot it lol@ me) ...Ok I measured my dupatta at almost 42 inches wide. But like I said it doesn't have to be that exact size it can be smaller. I have another suit that has a much smaller dupatta. They are made so big mainly so that they are convient for covering your head at the temple or mosque, covering your head when you're in front of elders, in the sun, in the rain, in the cold LOL they are pretty much handy in all weather and in most situations. If you don't figure you're going to be using your dupatta for any of these reasons then I don't see why you can't do with a smaller one.

Hee hee hee, Clam Ma'am.

Aside from the complete weirdness of "CEO" (if that is his or her real name) and his or her habit of freaking out utterly, what cracks me up most about all this is that any company calling itself "Glam Ma'am" and expecting to be patronized by really discerning really wealthy uppercrust types is most likely going to get a different sort of "patronizing" than they had hoped for.

That, and, you know, the only mention of that company before the freaking out was a positive one. Whoopsy!

To which one can only add that "glam", if short for "glamour" (pardon my British spelling; I blame my upbringing) denotes "a fantastical and false seeming; a magic that has the effect of creating a false appearance."

In the English-speaking cultures I have lived in (the US and the UK), Glam Ma'am does not sound like a high-class establishment. It's better than, say, the Bling Thing, but only just.

I know that these things do not carry across cultures, and I would not be surprised if it is sufficiently classy for its target geographical areas.

Maggie: thanks. I mostly wanted to know if I could use a 45" wide piece of fabric without having to cut it more narrowly. Using the full width means I can use selvage edges with no hemming except at the ends. I am very much in favor of Minimal Hemming.

I did a little more googling, and I think "glam ma'am" is Indian (for some definition thereof) slang - I found a couple of film reviews that used it in a way that suggests people would know what it means. ("The heroine is not just a glam ma'am.") Perhaps that explains why they're using a name that comes across as somewhat tacky to my American ears.

That doesn't explain their el cheapo line of clothing that they're trying to pitch as for people of "high net worth", though. Or their, um, interesting marketing strategy.

"We don't want *you* buying our clothes!"
"That's all right, we don't want to buy them either."
"Of course not, they're too good for the likes of you."
"Too something, anyway."

I just asked one of my Indian co-workers about "Glam Ma'am". She confirmed that it come from "glamour" and "madame", and that it has a slightly tacky connotation to it.

OK, I swear I just posted to this thread and it's not there. And there weren't any URLs, let alone more than seven. Hm. Probably my mistake.

God, and it was deathless, too.

ethan writes: God, and it was deathless, too.

Zombies on a Making Light comment thread!

Good lord, that would be a first!

if you buy salwar kameez from e bay your getting ripped off for example if you pay $30 for something it really cost about $20 at your local indian store

shamim, you're making several assumptions, among them that an e-Bay purchaser has a local Indian store. You're also assuming, I think, that the items on e-Bay have been imported, like the items in the store, and are being sold through a middleman instead of being made to order and coming directly from the manufacturer.

And also assuming that there even is a local Indian store to go to.

Re #67:

Not only do western eyes see proper Indian formal wear as over-decorated, the inexpensive garments often have prints that resemble more elaborate decoration, but which are obviously not right for formal wear. You'll see elaborate prints for casual wear, more subdued styles for business wear, and all-out glitz for formal wear.

I've ordered salwar kameez online, and it's been good for casual ones. The formal ones I have are all gifts that family friends had made for me while they were in India. Wonderful details, like embroidery clearly designed and sewn to fit the cut of the garment.

My rule of thumb is that I'll wear my Indian formal wear to non-Indian gatherings, but I'll wear western formal wear to Indian gatherings, since my selection is rather limited, and also would be very clearly several years out of style. I've never heard of an Indian equivalent to the basic black dress - something that will stay in fashion and be easily adapted to different situations.

Someone who is obviously not Indian can probably get away with wearing not-quite-right Indian garments at an Indian gathering, since you'd get points for trying. Being half-Indian, I tend to get judged by Indian standards when dressed in Indian clothes. (Wear a salwar kameez, not a sari. A sari will fall off of anyone who doesn't know what they are doing. If you're going to wear a sari, do so only if you know you'll have an experienced person around to put you back together again as needed.)

Re #105:

I'm rather late in responding... I've bought several items from eShakti without problems. The one odd thing was when I tried to take my own measurements for a custom salwar, that didn't work right. But measuring the garments, they made what I ordered, I just measured wrong. Get someone who is good with sewing to take measurements for you. That rule would go for any custom order.

Not only do western eyes see proper Indian formal wear as over-decorated, the inexpensive garments often have prints that resemble more elaborate decoration, but which are obviously not right for formal wear. You'll see elaborate prints for casual wear, more subdued styles for business wear, and all-out glitz for formal wear.

Having belatedly realized that I probably *do* have local Indian stores, despite not actually shopping for salwar kameez etc. I decided to find out where they were, and among other links found this fabric closeup gallery. Um... wow. I'm stunned by the sheer quantity of beading/embroidery on several grounds: all the (handmade?) labor that went into each piece, the weight they must add to the fabric, and just plain kinda optically... stunned.

Some more pics of glitz: Kancheepuram silk sarees:

http://www.kanchipuramsarees.com/nextcollection3.asp

http://www.rathicreations.com/wedding_sarees.htm

And a slideshow on making the saris... http://www.geocities.com/~kanchipuram/gallery/silk.html

Yow. The various silk brocades here are totally eyepopping.

...and the bodice (choli?) here makes me think of mermaid's armor.

Shamim @ #243 I would also like to interject that you are assuming that where we all live there are a lot of Indian shops. Here in London (Canada) where I live you'd be very wrong. We have two shops dealing in Indian/Pakistani clothing and by far the shops here are much more expensive for clothing then e-bay. A perfect example is a cotts wool suit I had made through e-bay it came out to just over $60.00 with shipping. I went to my local Indian shop and picked out cotts wool fabric and had to sew it myself and the fabric alone was over $60.00 with tax. So you are slightly off. Yes it's possible to be ripped off through e-bay that's a given however most of us here have enough experience to know when it's a rip off and when it's not.

Ursula L @ #246 I have to admit from your post you seem to generalise about the people on this board a lot in your comment "Not only do western eyes see proper Indian formal wear as over-decorated, the inexpensive garments often have prints that resemble more elaborate decoration, but which are obviously not right for formal wear. You'll see elaborate prints for casual wear, more subdued styles for business wear, and all-out glitz for formal wear." I think perhaps you and a few other posters should start giving some of us on this board more credit then you seem to be willing to give. I just have to wonder how you came to the conclusion that all of us see Indian formal wear the same way. You seem to think we have no interaction with Indian people that we don't have Indian and Pakistani friends and that none of us care or take an interest into the Indian culture and customs. I am very proud at the education I have about India, it's people it's customs, clothing, food, music and culture. This board began, and I was interested in India before it became the latest craze. I didn't start out with salwar kameez and I didn't start out with over the top decorated clothing actually I had no interest in that style of clothing. I started out with saris and to that end I had been wearing saris, had been listening to bhangra CDs and had "converted" (for lack of better terms) to Hinduism before I ever owned my first salwar kameez. I have a hard time believing that most of the people on this board haven't done at least a slight bit of research on this subject so I object to your assumptions and generalisations.

And to "(Wear a salwar kameez, not a sari. A sari will fall off of anyone who doesn't know what they are doing. If you're going to wear a sari, do so only if you know you'll have an experienced person around to put you back together again as needed.)" has an Indian woman never taught you how to wear a sari? 99% of Indian women use safety pins to keep their saris secure. I learnt from the Internet how to wear a sari and over time and from extra tidbits of information from kind Indian women (many of them I now call Auntie) I've been able to wrap and wear a sari and go out to Walmart for hours with my husband without a second thought to my sari. I believe that if a person learns how to wear a sari properly and remembers to pin it there is no reason why one can't wear it. I've had countless compliments on my saris by Indian men and women all very curious as to why a white girl is wearing one. Never once have I ever felt like I was being judged only appreciated. Perhaps you being half Indian has something to do with it I don't know, perhaps they expect more from you but don't judge what we should do just because you can't get your sari to stay on right.

So girls if you ever want to try out a sari DO IT! And don't leave it for Indian weddings or holidays wear one grocery shopping. In the summer you'll be hard pressed to find a day I am not in one whether I am taking the dog for a walk or I am going to my Mandir. The only time I've had a bad experience in my sari it hasn't been from Indian people, Pakistani people even African people (who are also interested in teaching you how to wear a sari the African way) it's been other white people. And my bad experiences do include rude comments being yelled from a car and having a cheeseburger thrown at me from a car (it missed). The latter could have been because of the big red bindi I was wearing. Either way be ready for anything.

Ursula: Thank you for your comments (#246) about the glitter-factor of Indian formal clothes. I have never (yet) owned a salwar kameez and all I know about "Indian" cooking is that I don't like the "curry powder" sold in American groceries - I'm a complete beginner in that area of the world, so you were very helpful. I'm not comfortable in glitz, so if I'm ever invited to a very formal event (in either culture) I'll look for a "little black dress!"

Maggie: Question about the customs duty you paid on suits from echarming. You're in Canada and I'm in US so this may not be helpful to me, but may be to others, and I'm curious. Was there any indication of how the "extra" duty was calculated? And did you also have to pay customs on the suits from S2 and Ladies' Den? (If not, I'm suspecting that the customs agent looked at the $0.99 declared value [price paid] of the echarming suits and said, "No way, that's cheating," or words to that effect.)

Re: HIgh shipping - I wonder if the high shipping fees on really inexpensive garments aren't a way to make sure that the seller can actually pay his sewing-people even if the customer changes his/her mind. After all, if your total is $30, does it matter if that's $15 for the suit and $15 for shipping, or $5 for one and $25 for the other?

To the people who've remarked on the difference in price between what one can mail-order suits for, and how much they might cost in a shop in India: Part of the reason eShakti's (and others') prices don't look out of line to me, is just that I know what good cotton cloth costs here. $10 for 6 or 7 yards of cloth in the US is usually going to get you *junk.* Very well, maybe absolutely everything in India costs less than here, but people still have to make some kind of living . . . wasn't that part of Theresa's original reason for buying from ebay? No, you don't always get what you pay for . . . but you nearly always _don't_ get what you _don't_ pay for, is my experience.

P.S. to Maggie: Somebody really needs to make sure you and 'CEO-Glam-Ma'am' are never physically in the same room together! I'd have to feel sorry for him! :)

Sorry this is so long, but you all gave me a lot to think over.

Peace

Susan James

Maggie - safety pins are not a perfect solution to saris. They'll hold, but if not used properly they can mess up the way the pleats hang, they can leave permanent holes in silk, and they are often not large enough to hold a thicker, longer sari (say, a heavy weight, 9 yd. silk.) Binder clips tend to work better for holding pleats flat, at least at the waist. The drape a the shoulder is trickier - pins will hold, but leave it in a tight layer of pleats, which obscures the patterns on the end of a fancy sari. Left loose, it takes experience to keep enough on your shoulder so it stays, and enough loose to show off the design, and to move without having things slide off.

My point about "wear a sari only if you have someone experienced to help you" is very much based on learning to wear a sari from Indian women. You can learn the basics of putting it on from the internet or a book, but there are a lot of little tricks to keeping it nice, moving easily, and staying graceful. And the first few times you wear one, even with pins, there is a fairly high probably that it will fall apart at some point, so you don't want your initial tries to be in public without someone to help you fix things up if you fall apart. (At the very least, someone to hold the fabric off the floor as you re-fasten it.) It is generally pretty easy to recognize when someone is wearing a sari but not yet used to wearing one, from the way they move and how they have to readjust the fabric. It's awkward, and not particularly compatible with relaxing and having fun at a party.

The fashions in Indian clothing change as fast as those in US clothing, and the aesthetic is different enough that it takes a deliberate mental shift to go from choosing western clothes to choosing Indian ones, at least to wear in an Indian context. Being friends with Indians in the US, or being fascinated by Indian culture while in the US, generally doesn't lead to developing the instincts for choosing Indian fashion. I generally look for advice from someone who is Indian, has spent a decent amount of time in India recently, and is generally interested in clothes and fashion. Someone who can tell me "this is what is in fashion now."

For wearing Indian clothes in a western context, such as to work, at a convention, etc. in the US, that doesn't apply - you choose outfits that are in the Indian style, but with color and pattern that suit your taste and the occasion, and fit the western sensiblity for color and glitz level. A touch of Indian decoration, but not full out.

Susan - if you want to learn Indian cooking, I suggest the cookbooks by Madhur Jaffrey. They're fairly authentic for Indian cooking in western kitchens, and with ingredients you can probably find. Look for her older books, the ones with the word "Indian" somewhere in the title. Some of her latter books are more pan-Asian, and while good, not as useful if you really want to get to know Indian food. There is a spinach and lamb curry in "Madhur Jaffery's Indian Cooking" which my family has had good luck with for introducing people to Indian food. She also describes the Indian spices in the front of her books, which is a big help to a novice.

Ursula L again I have to completely disagree with you on saris. The first time I wore a sari I left my house (without anyone more knowledgeable then myself about saris) and went downtown to the market and without having a pin in it, it never fell apart. The last 3yrs that I've been wearing saris with or without pins I have never had it fall part and I've never heard of anyone that pinned their sari ever having it fall apart either. There is a reason that it's wrapped the way it's wrapped. As for what you said about safety pins again I have to disagree, I pinned my 7 yard silk sari with no problems with either the fall or holes at either the waist or the shoulder. I've found that you're more likely to get holes when you're not careful enough to check the pin you want to use for barbs at the end. In all the times I've been wearing saris and trying the different drapes safety pins have never changed or hampered with the way the pleats lay.

As for Indian fashion I really don't think you have to go the lengths you seem to go to, to find out what's in style in India. In truth fashion in the US or Canada doesn't really change all that fast about once a season if that and the same can be said about Indian fashion. There really isn't much to change if you're sticking to Indian fashion, it's saris and salwar kameez the only differences are the fabrics the type of decoration and for salwar kameez are the different styles and cuts (although the cut of the choli changes with saris too). Then again I never was a slave to fashion when I did wear Western clothes and I am not a slave to fashion now that I wear mainly Indian clothing. The best fad in both styles of clothing is to wear what looks best on your body type and your skin/hair colour. I find Indian fashion websites to be extremely handy as well as Bollywood films. Although Bollywood won't teach you what the reality of Indian clothing is on a day to day basis it will give you a good idea as to what type of sari (net ones at the moment) or what style salwar kameez are in style (mainly churidar with a shorter kameez or patiala with a shorter kameez right now). Music videos from India are a good indicator too. Just because India is on the other side of the planet from us doesn't mean we don't have access to current fashion trends. Then again I also belong to a board which I give fashion advice on and most of the questions are about Indian fashions. Since joining late last year I've become a higher ranking board member so I guess I can't be too far off when it comes to Indian fashion and how to judge what's in style at the moment. I guess I should mention also that the people that pick who board members are, are all based in India. Oh and PS I guess I have to remind everyone (except Susan :) again that I am in Canada and not the US.

Hi again Susan :) so glad to see someone here trying to learn about all things Indian and not just here to argue. As for the duty on the suits from E-Charming I had no clue there was going to be any duty on them at all. As far as E-Charming led me to believe was that everything was paid for and it was free and clear. I am not exactly sure how they figured out the duty. Out of all my orders the one from E-Charming has been the only order I've ever had to pay any type of duty on top of. Mind you that on E-bay alot of sellers have a policy on their boards that the buyer is responsible for any duties their order may incur. Since my E-charming order I've had a 18kt gold nose pin sent to me from India and even that never had any duties it's just weird.

LOL yeah me and Clam Maam better not meet up in some dark alley because believe you, me I'd be teaching that SOB some manners.

Maggie,

Note that I differentiated between wearing Indian clothes in an Indian context (e.g., in India, at a party outside India that is hosted by/for mostly Indians) versus wearing Indian clothes in a western context. In the Indian community, you're talking about contemporary fashion, and everyday clothes, and someone who chose garments based on knowledge of Indian clothes from TV, videos or magazines is going to look as silly as someone who came to the US and tried to choose clothes based on what they saw on US TV shows. What is actually worn is noticeably different from what is shown in the media.

Just because no one was rude enough to tell you to your face that you looked odd, doesn't mean that you didn't look odd. If you don't look Indian, most Indians will give you points for trying, or otherwise discount the mistakes of the inexperienced. But if you've grown up surrounded by women who wear saris in an everyday context, you can see differences in the way that someone used to pants or regular skirts moves, the evenness of pleats not made by experienced hands, the not-quite-perfectly even hemline, etc.

I've seen enough women have problems from trying to wear a sari in public before they were ready so that I wouldn't give others advice based on your single lucky example. It may be a matter of context, if you were just carefully walking down the street alone, you aren't putting as much stress on the sari's hold as if you were, say, at a house party where you might be going up and down stairs, sitting on the floor, and have kids running around and playing hide-and seek or tag around the adults legs or pulling at skirts to get adults' attention. You probably didn't have to run, or dance, or cook and keep your sari off the flame.

Maggie @ #254, in ref. Susan James @ #252:

That's a different Susan who has never posted here before and may not have read enough of this thread to realize that using plain "Susan" when someone else is already doing so might be a little confusing. Use "view all by" to tell the difference.

Ursula L,
It's become abundantly apparent that you're only here to argue and cause trouble. You obviously can't grasp what I've written to you even though I've done my best to keep it real simple. If you want to stay in your own little world where Westerners are idiots and don't know a thing about Indian clothing in an Indian context or Western then go right ahead knock yourself out. As I said I give fashion advice to Indian women about Indian fashion so I do know what I am talking about even if you refuse to accept this. You talk about how other Indians give you a hard time, have you ever considered the thought that it may have something to do with your attitude and not with what you wear? If you're this rude to people online I can only imagine what you're like offline. Therefore I am dropping my entire conversation with you because after this post I refuse to waste my time on someone that is very ignorant. I've had many experiences with ignorant people and with those experiences I have learnt that you just can't get through to those that refuse to listen. My time is far too precious. My last note however is to quote myself since you must have missed it in your rush to try and argue with me.

"Although Bollywood won't teach you what the reality of Indian clothing is on a day to day basis it will give you a good idea..."

Maggie,

Neutral observer here.

You reacted somewhat negatively to Ursula's first post, which I read as well-meant. Then she reacted negatively back, and it's spiralled downhill since then.

I think you're right to break off the conversation, because it's clearly not going anywhere productive. It's a shame - you both come across as really nice people...when you're not in this particular discussion.

Peace.

Hey Abi,
Thank you for the compliment. I have no idea exactly how Ursula meant for her first post to come across I just didn't appreciate as I am sure many other's wouldn't appreciate the generalisation in her first post. That's the only reason I reacted the way I did. Anyways lets get back to sharing useful info and supporting each other and kicking CEO's ass ;).

Hi, "first Susan": Well, I thought I had read all the posts - over several sessions, so obviously I missed a couple - Sorry for causing confusion!

Ursula: THanks for the cookbook recommendation. I'll look her up.

SJ

Namaste,
Just got my newest order from E-shakti, I ordered two poly suits from their trendsetters collection and WOW! What a major difference. I couldn't be happier with my order. Both suits came with matching tank tops for lining. Everything fits really well and the fabric is super soft. I have to say I wish I hadn't been so cheap last year for the wedding LOL. I will definately be ordering my dress suits from them in the future. And again fast shipping.

Namaste,
I know this is abit off topic but it gets back on topic I promise. I received an order yesterday from "Multifab Online" which is an e-bay store based in India. I ordered a sari (made into automatic sari for health reasons not because I don't know how to wrap one obviously) it also came with a custom shirt (choli) and petticoat and I ordered jewelery. When I opened the package most of the jewelery was broken and my husband had to repair it and not a since peice of the outfit, fit right! I've had to alter the choli, I will have to alter the petticoat and I am going to have to figure out how to alter the automatic sari because it was all way too small. Reason why I am alerting everyone else to this problem is because they sell salwar kameez. Their lack of ability to read and stitch the correct measurements for my order makes me wonder if they are just as inept when it comes to salwar kameez. So if the high prices doesn't make you have second thoughts about their products I hope my review has.

Namaste again,
I wanted to update my last post since leaving my feedback on e-bay I've been contacted by Multifab and they have given be two options
1. partial refund
2. free automatic saris w/ ready to wear kit (choli and petticoat) on my next two purchases.

I am going with the former of the two but I will consider shopping with them again perhaps a salwar kameez next time.

P.s
Susan James, have you made your salwar kameez yet? If so, how did it turn out?

I just came across this string today, and wish I'd seen it 6 months ago. I've been wearing salwar kameez almost exclusively since last September. I wear them because they are attractive on every figure, they are sooo comfortable, and are especially suited (pun intended) to the climate here on the edge of the Mojave desert. I am partially disabled and spend a lot of time lying down- I can't think of any other clothing that looks as elegant when you're laid out on the couch. Recently I've added saris- and I find them no problem with a pin or two to hold the palu back. Just be sure the pin goes behind your shoulder so it doesn't fall forward when you are cooking or otherwise being active. This clothing has been worn so long as it is just because it is so practical, comfortable, and attractive.

I have never shopped through e-bay, and found S2 Fashions in the very beginning. I sew, and ordered from them because of the number of measurements they wanted, an indication of attention to detail, and probable good fit. I was right. Perfect fit every time, everything well made. When I ordered something with a neckline I had previously said I didn't like, I got an e-mail asking if I wanted it changed. At Christmas, I was invited to a black tie do here in California, e-mailed S2, which at the time didn't have a line of party clothes, and they custom designed -with regular consultation with me about style and color- and made a beautiful, fashionable patiala kameez, with an amazing embroidered and bejewelled dupatta, all for $120.00 and the ordinary $10 shipping. Incredible, but true. I have also bought from Utsav Sarees and shopindia, but haven't had nearly as much luck with the fit- with Utsav, it seems that each sewer interprets measurements differently- in one order I'll get things both too small and too large. Once, I got an ink stained dupatta from them-I ordered that suit in November-and just got the replacement day before yesterday. I was not impressed. S2 seems to be ultra consciencious about everything. They are regularly expanding their offerings- they now have a party collection. The green and brown patiala salwar with gold embroidery is a much simplified version of the one we designed for my party. It goes for $103 US, I think. I had a lot of input-so for them to use what is largly my design on their site says that westerners aren't totally clueless about Indian fashion. The people at S2 tell me that I often pick what eventually becomes a best seller in India. So that blows the "if you aren't Indian, you won't understand current Indian fashion" theory. Anyway, S2 has been so terrific, that I find I feel like a rat when I order from somewhere else. Their only drawback, as far as I'm concerned, is that they are very much an Indo-western fusion source, and don't have traditional styles or prints. If you are interested in that, you have to go elsewhere.

I just made a kameez pattern from one from S2, and am going to experiment with my own designs. We'll see how that comes along. But its not simple- the truly amazing thing about kameez is that they LOOK so simple, but are cut very, very carefully to drape just right on the individual. You really can't buy ready made and have it look so good. All those measurements mean something. Here's to all of us in our salwars and saris - hooray for us for having found wonderful clothes and having the courage to wear them everywhere. I get compliments all the time, and have started carrying S2 brochures, and URLs for the other places for when I'm asked. I hope this is the beginning of something big.

Welcome Anne Bremser,
It's so great to read another story about the very wonderful salwar kameez and the amazing sari. Like you I have some disabilities too so both of these have been a favourite pick of mine for 3yrs now (saris for the first year and a half). I got a bunch of flyers in my S2 order and I'll be most happy to hand them out to anyone interested. I have to agree the fit of the S2 clothing is top of the line the only one that comes close is eshakti. I was in Toronto yesterday and ended up having to buy a salwar kameez (long story but it involves the "automatic sari" omg they suck I'll stick to draping it myself) once I was finally able to find one that fit, which was a trick in itself the readymades just don't fit the same as the custom suits. From my own experance when it comes to saris and cholis buy them straight out or make your own and for salwar kameez get them custom done or sew your own, yesterday really brought that point home to me. I am just so happy for you Anne and I can really understand where you're coming from. I am thinking of using my partial refund from the "automatic sari" drama to buy more from S2 hehehe. Anyways welcome to the board Anne I look forward to reading more from you, we can even swap fashion tips.

Thanks for the warm welcome and heads up on the automatic sari; I've been wondering if they were a good idea, and leaning toward skepticism. Why fix something that isn't broken?

S2 posted a new casual collection about a week or so ago- there are lots of new designs to spend that refund on. That would be a perfect resolution. Oh- one of the more charming things about s2- when they send your order it comes with a hand written thank you note on hand made stationary. When I asked about it, they said it was made by the in-house artist. I look forward to those almost as much as the clothes!

I wish I could resolve my problem with Utsav as well as you have- my November order from them had so many mistakes I spent days sewing to make them wearable. Too big, too small...Two pieces were ink stained- one I already mentioned, the other had a big splotch on the sleeve. I was able to take the elbow sleeve off, shorten it to a half sleeve and get rid of the stain with my shears. Utsav was unresponsive, except to send the new dupatta. I contacted every address on the site to come to some real resolution, but no luck. Its frustrating because they have such a variety of designs and huge inventory compared to other sites. Too bad the customer service stinks.

Fashion tip:chudidar with above the knee or long calf length kameez or patialas with a short above the knee kameez- but you know that.

Anne, I am so happy you filled in me in on Utsav. I've looked at them and loved some of their clothes but with shipping it seemed abit pricy I am so glad I haven't ordered anything from them. If you paid using paypal you might be able to go after Utsav that way but I don't recall seeing them take paypal. If you used a credit card you could dispute the charges but it seems to be a long and difficult thing to do. I can't stand having to fix something that was ordered to fit, and ink stands aren't as easy to fix as letting out the kameez abit either. They certianly can't be making many return customers that way.

Oh I know the hand written note was such a delight to receive, with all the orders I've placed I've never seen such personal touches. To some the note might not be much but like you I find it to mean so much more, it's those little things that really do count.

I can understand why the "automatic sari" was born because saris are truely beautiful clothes that compliment ever body type but I just don't see the "automatic sari" taking over the world. I have to wonder if it was just who I ordered it from but with as expensive as they are to buy (when you do find them) it's not a mistake I am willing to make twice. I will definately stick to draping my own.

Sari fashion tip; This year large, bold almost abstract designs are the in thing. But I am sure you knew that one too lol (personally I can't stand the new designs I hope this fad goes out the window and fast).

Salwar kameez tip (sadly from personal experance); if you are blessed with hips don't wear a thigh length kameez over traditional salwar pants it's a nightmare. This is especially true of stiffer fabric like the cotton suits from eshakti (not worth the money).

With S2 do you know if they'll change the style of pant to patiala if you ask Anne? I wouldn't mind having at least one pair in my closet, I don't need anything fancy but just perhaps a simple poly patiala in black so that I can mix and match. It's so hard to find patiala even though they've been big the last half year or so.

I am curious to know if anyone has ordered from www.indian-dresses.com? If so, how was the experience?

Happy to fill you in on everything S2 will do, Maggie. They are willing to change just about anything. You can order patiala, churidar, or salwar with anything on their site. I've been ordering churdidar with almost everything lately. I already had white churidar and dupatta that went with a suit I already had. They were willing to sell me just the kameez from a complete suit, and prorated the price. If you like a design, but not the color, you can choose any color you like that they carry, as long as its the same kind of fabric as the original design-washable silk for washable silk, south cotton for south cotton... to find the colors, enter salwar kameez + south cotton in the advance search box, and every salwar suit made of south cotton will come up. For more colors, type in churidar kameez+.... I've had colors changed,necklines and sleeves redesigned...they will work with you on just about anything. In the beginning, I was ordering only salwar, and when I ordered a trouser suit, I imediately got an email asking if I wanted that changed to salwar. They notice everything. You can even order just the kameez cut short to kurti length by itself,if you just want a top. They will also custom tie dye dupattas, for an extra dollar, as long as the colors you want work together. The plain dupatta was $4.00 to begin with, $5.00 dyed in the 3 colors of the dress. They will add or subtract embroidery, change the embroidery from one color to multicolor for a small extra charge. I have ordered one design kurti with the embellishments from another, redesigned the patch work on a kameez I mostly liked, and got one of my favorites that way. I've asked for some to be cut with more of an A-line, because I am one of those people blessed with hips, and they did that for no extra charge. So I can't think of anything they won't cheerfully do for you. The people at S2 are just plain nice.

More hints for women with curves-if your legs are heavy, don't wear churidar with a short kameez! I don't care how fashionable it is- it looks terrible unless you have slim legs. And I agree with you about the big prints, Maggie. They can't go away soon enough. They are truly awful. Patiala seem to look good on just about everybody. They are so graceful.

Just to be clear-at s2 you can buy anything that is part of a set by itself, just email them instead of putting the order through the regular way. They will send you an invoice with the new price. also, they are having a 10% off sale with free shipping that ends on March 31.

Wow Anne,
It sounds like you should be going on "Project Runway". There are so many choices with salwars that sometimes my mind just goes blank and I order what I see LOL. I am SO happy to hear about everything S2 is willing to do, I've wanted patiala for a year now and just can't a site I would buy from. I got the mail about the Spring sale from them and with any luck I'll get my order in on the 30th or early the 31st. I have to agree about churidar pants if your thighs are on the big side don't wear them with a short kameez or kurti. I usually judge the length of my kameez so that it hits a couple inches below the heavest part of my hip/thigh. It's truely amazing that salwars and saris aren't more popular because they do accommodate all body types. I am definately going to start making a list for S2 and try to be abit creative this time. You know it's funny I've seen a few suits that come with white churidar pants and white duppatta that I really like but I already have the churidar and duppatta so I don't need another so the prorating is just perfect! Thanks so much for the info Anne I really appreciate it.

I'm not that creative- I just know that some colors are bad for me, and so if I see a design I like, I ask if they'll change the fabric to one that is more flattering. Same thing with necklines. High necks and round necklines are not so good, so I either ask for a V or square neck, or find an interesting one on the site, and ask for dress No. 1 with the neckline from dress No. 6, the sleeves from kurti No 9. And change the greys to the blues from dress No. 3. For that kind of change there has been no extra charge. They've only charged more if I wanted to make it more elaborate, like adding embroidery, sequins or dye work, or adding extra colors to embroidery. When I asked if we could change or remove part of the patch work, we discussed what I didn't like about it, and they redesigned it-no extra charge. So do get a little creative and order shapes you like in colors that are good for you. Get the neckline that is the most flattering. That's a big reason I wear salwar kameez. They look so good on everyone- you might as well make them look the very best on you! I don't understand why more people aren't adopting this dress- it flatters every age and figure, is far more comfortable, and very practical. And if someone had told me before how much the guys like the curves of a woman in a sari! Things have been very friendly around here since I started wearing them.

Well, heck, I'm sold. I like the designs featured at S2 so much more than the ones at eShakti, and now that I know you've had good experiences with them, I think I will try them out.

Incidentally I found another thrift store kameez + dupatta that is just beautiful -- a peacock blue cotton blend with coppery colored embroidery at the neckline. It fits me perfectly. The dupatta is chiffon. I will probably wear it with a pair of black trousers I have. I suppose, since it's in a thrift store, it's probably terribly out of style, but the shape looks about the same as many of the S2 kameez, so I think it's not too bad.

Two suits ordered! Now it's time to see how this one comes out.

I still might reorder from eShakti sometime, since the construction of the cotton suit I got from them was good. The material was just horrible, and I guess I learned that lesson. I suppose I could have returned it, but... nah.

And I had been admiring some of the block prints at eShakti after all that plain color at S2! Is the fabric that bad?

That thrift store find sounds like a real treasure. Peacock blue is a beautiful color, one of my favorites. My party dress has peacock blue patiala and dupatta with red/brown, pink, and gold embroidery. Sounds strange, but it really works. Some of the colors and combinations of colors are very new. I've spent hours looking at web sites just to understand the esthetic- the colors and shapes. Its all beginning to come together now. Where before I would see an interesting but meaningless shape, now I see the same thing and its AHA! that echoes the lines of a sari. Or I realize I'm looking at an abstraction of a paisley, which is an abstraction of a Persian Juniper. The fabrics and asymetrical designs make sense now.

I went out and bought fabric for my design project today. Some black and white cotton for the first try, and a gorgeous aqua blue silk-like poly for the the second. Wish me luck.

You know what my absolute fav colour combo is? Orange and blue and surprisingly I've received alot of compliments on it. Even stranger is that I made the suit myself and received so many comments, I wore the pants to shreds, bought a suit in almost the same colour but more design from eshakti (I love it) and wore it out last night and never heard a thing! LoL that fabric I used was just plain super soft cotton (sews and wears like a dream, soft as a cloud) and a simple poly satin with an embossed pattern. I actually saw it in a reduced bin right before leaving Little India on the streetcar in Toronto, missed my streetcar because I HAD to get this material.

I would love to order a tie dyed suit, it's really funny in the West we're used to seeing the crazy 60's neon tie dye and have very little exposure to true tie dying from India. It's really beautiful and it must take some serious talent to have it turn out perfect.

My favorite neckline is definately the sweetheart neckline, I think I will order some from S2 with that neckline. I have yet to master anything other thing a U type neckline so I need something different to add to my closet. I wish I had found S2 sooner they would have been perfect to order from for my cousin-in-law's wedding. I looked so cheap in my cotton suit from eshakti. It was abit of a drive to the wedding so as litlnemo can atest to the cotton they use wrinkles at the drop of a hat so you can imagine what I looked like when I got out of the car at the church. Add on top of that there were other Indians there one wearing a lengha with a regular shirt...cheap looking didn't even begin to discribe how I looked compared to her.

I have to agree litlnemo the construction of the suits from e-shakti are very good although what was supposed to be churidar pants ended up being so baggy in the leg they look more like skinny salwar pants (which is ok the shirt would have been too short for me to wear with churidar pants). I am sure you're going to LOVE S2 litlnemo, heck the updates on your order is worth it alone. I hate ordering something then three weeks later wondering where the heck it is or if they got my order (although most places get their money fast enough). Let us know how it turns out.

Anne best of luck on your sewing project, you'll have to let us know how it goes and maybe post some pictures. If you have any questions just post them here I am sure someone will be able to answer them for ya. I don't know if you're using a pattern and if you are which one you're using but if you're using the one from dansingnspirit I suggest you move the pattern further from the fold to add more fabric for the pleats and unlike the suggestion on the pattern put the pleats at the from and keep the back smooth (although wearing many salwars you've probably noticed the pleats are mainly always in the front). And last but not least if you're trying it on with the pleats put the pins in vertically lmao@me I know it sounds like such a obvious but I can't tell you how many times I've had to repin the pleats before it dawned on me, it also cut down on all the pokes from the pins while you're trying it on. And yes my natural colour at one point in my life was blonde...could you tell? hehehe I totally hear where you're coming from with men loving curves in saris, I had a Pakistani men tell me to leave my husband and marry him right infront of my hubby! lol My husband perfers to see me in saris or salwar kameez, he recently admitted he likes me in Indian clothing rather then what I was wearing when we met (skanky minis and tiny tight tops agh! So embrassing to admit and remember).

I found that doing mehandi has really helped me really see the patterns on the clothing and to see if it's a paisley or a stylised flower etc. Last year when Indian inspired clothing was big I had my digi cam at the mall all the time in case I came across a pattern I loved and wanted to do in henna. Worked out well but it looks like Western clothes this year are all really boring at least here at our malls it looks that way. I suspect that we'll all be popular again in about five years, it seems that's how long it takes for a fad to come back around. However we do know that we are always fashionable in India...I just love my music videos and celeb mags from India, always great for current fashions..just like "Vogue" or "Cosmo" here. Did anyone see the pics from Liz Hurley's wedding in India? You'd think with that woman marrying an Indian she'd bloody well learn how to wear a sari properly geez...Anne, you and I are going to have to teach her how to do it right :)

"And I had been admiring some of the block prints at eShakti after all that plain color at S2! Is the fabric that bad?"

The $29.00 cotton suit I got might as well be made of toilet paper. It's so lightweight it has no proper drape, and heavy ironing doesn't seem to get the wrinkles out. But, as I said, it is well-constructed compared to the others I own (other than the fabric being, well, wrong) and the service is good, which is why I'm willing to give them another try -- just not with the lightweight cottons. The cotton was sized heavily when it arrived, and too stiff -- but without the sizing it's just not very nice. It would make OK pajamas, though!

I like some of the handblock prints at eShakti. I wonder if they have the same cotton as the cheaper suits. I don't like most of the trendsetter suits, etc. Especially the ones with the flaming ray motifs right at crotch-level. There is something disturbing about that image. ;-) Maybe it's just my evil mind. Whereas the S2 designs look more elegant and modern to me. It's possibly just a personal taste thing.

I am going to try to get a pic of the peacock blue kameez posted on Flickr at some point. The same day I found that kameez & dupatta, I also found a lavender and silver trouser/kameez/dupatta set. Very beautiful, but the thighs on the trousers are slightly tight on me. I could take them out -- there is plenty of seam allowance, but I feel self-conscious wearing such an easter egg color from head to toe. :) The kameez fits well, at least. If I can't bring myself to wear that suit I'll probably eBay it along with some of the others I've picked up. There is a local thrift store that always has a bunch of Indian clothing. ;)

It is hard to believe people have been talking about salwar kameez in here for more than 2 years.

litlnemo- Suma at S2 says that they are trying to be more elegant and tasteful. Its an Indo-western fusion site, and that's about all they carry. Because they are thinking western, a lot of the colors and styles are easier on our eyes. I especially like the things made of south cotton- the final color is achieved by the warp of the cloth being one color, and the woof another-for example, a lovely green made by weaving Peacock blue and yellow together. Its a light weight cotton that's best for summer. I agree about the designs that seem to emphasize the crotch! I got a book on the ethnography of India's womens clothing that says that the bare stomach is not a sexual place, its the place where new life begins. A person coming home from a trip might kiss his mother's bare stomach out of respect. I think that there is a whole different perception of the placement of design there. It sounds a lot healthier than some of our attitudes about gender and sexuality. There is so much to learn!

Maggie- that's a good idea about the mehendi. I've never done it, but I just ordered a pair of Khussas from Beachcomber, and they came with a free mehendi set. I'm thinking about trying it out. It didn't come with any patterns. I've seen patterns before, but didn't save any. Do you know of a web site that has some?

There's not much excuse for not wrapping a sari properly. There are loads of directions available that are easy to follow. And its not like she didn't have anybody to ask!

Anne oh goodness you're going to have a blast with the henna. First and foremost I'd have to recommend hennapage.com it's full of info, designs even free henna design e-books. I found some great Indo-Arabic designs at
http://www.tafreeh.net/mehndi-designs.php

You'll have to look around there abit because there are more then two pages I printed out probably 12 or more from them. After those pages just keep searching the keywords "henna designs" "heena designs" "mehandi designs" "mehndi designs" I've seen alot of different spellings so I am trying to remember them all lol. If you look for pattern books the best ones to find are "Navneet" it was one of their books that I taught myself how to do henna from.

The "trendsetters" on E-shakti are alot of reruns from last year and I agree with you both Anne and litlnemo the suits with the blazen crotch patterns are just weird, I have no idea what they were going for with that. I don't mind the colours I enjoy wearing bright colours perhaps it's because the city I live in is very conservative so I try and look as different from everyone else as I can. I do like the suits at S2 as well; very simple but with some classy colours and I do like S2's prices better.

Litlnemo I wonder the same thing about the handblocked suits at E-shakti it would be such a waste of beautiful artwork if they are using the same cheap cotton as they use on the cheap suits we bought. They look beautiful but that's the only drawback from shopping online is you can't touch the fabric to find out for sure.

Another thing too Anne about baring the midrift with Indian clothing is that it's believed that you shouldn't cover your belly button because it's bad for your health and if I remember correctly it cuts you off from the divine energy but I could be wrong on that last point. I had never heard about kissing the belly apon returning from a long time away though very interesting. When I go to my temple I touch the elder's feet and they bless me but I think that's more of a Hindu and maybe Sikh thing rather then an Indian or cultural thing. One thing you have to remember about the additudes towards sexuality in India have been greatly rewritten by the British during their occupation in India (and present day Pakistan). You can get a good feel of the difference when you look at the Hindu faith and the Kama Sutra which was (and to some still is) a religious text, Lord Shiva is often worshipped in the shape of the linga or lingam (or phallus) and many Hindu temples are adorned with erotic scenes. Now in India since the British occupation sexual education is next to nil, Bollywood movies will rarely, if ever show a couple even kiss on screen (although they will imply it)as it's concidered vulgar as is the way Liz Hurley wears her saris (pulled between the breasts instead of covering both). I can't help but feel for India having the traditions and beliefs changed so drastically then coming into the 21st centry where everything is about sex, where they are still stuck in the 19th and early 20th centeries. Sorry that was my bit of a rant lol. Oh and Anne you are so right Liz has so many people to talk to and ask about it not to mention how many sites are online that show you how to drape a sari, there really is no excuse. It's not like you have to do anything to sari or the drape of it to look sexy it IS sexy on it's own (especially if you have her body lol).

Litlnemo it's funny you mentioned how long this thread has been going I was just talking about that with my husband last night lol great minds think alike eh?

Did I miss anything? :) And I won't even mention how much I am enjoying the activity on this board because last time I did everyone stopped posting :(.

I don't mind wearing loud colors, but some colors I have more issues with than others. (The easter egg pastels, for example. I will wear hot pink any day, but easter egg lavender on the kameez and the trousers is just too much. Perhaps it is just that it is too pale for me anyway; though I have pale Northern European skin, my hair is dark and the colors that look best on me are intense like hot pink and deep rich blue.)

The rays at crotch-level on the Trendsetter suits may look perfectly innocent in India; I don't know. But I have to wear this here in the West, so I need to avoid those patterns. ;-)

"Because they are thinking western, a lot of the colors and styles are easier on our eyes."

I wondered about that, but then again when looking at that site I am drawn toward the louder colors, so I don't know if it's Western eyes or what. It's just that I like beautiful fabric better than prints. I didn't know what the South Cotton was -- is it all two-tone like that? I have a salwar suit right now (an eBay purchase) that is exactly the colors you mentioned, blue and yellow together to make a green two-tone fabric. (You can see the full outfit here -- a little wrinkly -- and this larger close-up gives you the best view of the fabric and embroidery. (This one wasn't custom stitched, incidentally, but it fits fine. I had to sew the sleeves on myself as it arrived with them unattached.) If the South Cotton is not too lightweight, and it has that two-tone effect, I would totally buy a suit from it.

Litlnemo,your suit is south cotton. I have one the same color with a yellow and blue dupatta. I also have south cotton in green and orange(actually pretty sublte, because the stripes are so narrow; just a couple of threads), in maroon and dark orange,in black and grey, in green and black (very elegant)blue and hot pink (looks mostly blue with a pinkish purple overtone.) It is lightweight, and I always starch it, but I don't think it is too lightweight, like the things you have been describing. That sounds more like the stuff they use for lining at S2.
My favorite color combo is blue and orange, too. I just ordered an aqua blue and orange sari with gold block print. At first I was a little self concious about the bright colors, but I'm over that, now. I'm getting a green and orange diagonally striped kota doria sari with butis, which I am really looking forward to. Its supposed to be the most comfortable fabric in the heat.The thread that Mahatma Gandhi spun was for kota doria, a local handloom, rather than support British mills. It is incredibly inexpensive. I think handwork is way undervalued. The third interesting sari that is coming is a green and white ikat handloom. I have a special interest in the hand work. I spin, am learning to weave, knit, sew, make lace, and embroider. If it has something to do with fiber, I'm interested.
The fabrics I bought were all colorful. One in particular- at first glance it makes you think red bandana, but when you look again, there are all kinds of traditional block print designs on it. I'm going to embellish it with white and black patch work and wear it with either white or black churidar. Its the ultimate in fusion. How American can you get than a bandana print, and how Indian can you get with paisleys and line prints? I'll let you know if I end up with a treasure or a rag.

Hello, girls,
I am desperately looking for salwar-suits in silk or cotton or silk/cotton (no synthetik fabrics)for personal use, but still need a lot of at least 8 sets. - Has anybody a recommendation? - I live in Germany and can be contacted by ibericacat(at)gmail.com.
Would be wonderful to get some help.
Thanks.
Annina

Hi, Annina! For cotton; 100% cotton broadcloth and south cotton, I would go to S2 Fashions at
www.s2fashions.com. For silk, all they have is a light weight washable silk. Its nice for casual clothes but for some reason, I don't think that's what you're after. So for silk thats heavier weight, I'm not as sure. I've had mixed results at Utsav Sarees at utsavsarees.com; some of the things I've gotten there have been great, others have had sizing and other problems mentioned previously. The quality of the cloth is good, its the uneven stitching quality that's not. If you can sew, or can take things in to be altered, you can get some great things there. The shipping is a bit expensive, though. The price of shipping per item usually goes down when you order more items; its done by weight.
I just ordered some cottons and a cotton-silk from a new place, Chennaibazaar.com. Its supposed to arrive April 5. I can let you the quality when it comes. The only other place I have ordered from is shopindia.com. They don't do custom work, so I don't recommend them unless you are a standard size. They also are marketing to plus sizes, and have very little in regular sizes. Good luck!

I posted a picture of my peacock blue kameez on flickr: here it is. Terrible pic, but you get the idea.

As I walked into the library today there was a woman nearby wearing a salwar kameez. She looked at me and smiled. I hope it was the "nice clothes" smile not the "you look dorky" smile! :)

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Wow litlnemo I LOVE that kameez it's exactly something I'd wear the work on it is just beautiful. I don't think you have to worry about the smile I've found that most Indian/Pakistani people if they like that you're wearing a salwar kameez or appreciate it they will smile if they don't they will either not look at you or will give you a dirty look (which I've had a couple times...oh well) it doesn't seem to be in them to be that fake about things at least in my experances thus far. However when it comes to someone trying to sell you something that's another story LOL. There is one guy that is at all of the festivals in my city during the summer and everytime he sees me he tries to tell me the sari I am wearing is from his part of India blah blah blah trying to get me to buy his over priced shawls LMAO it's even more funny when all I am wearing is an artifical fabric, mass produced sari that could have come from anywhere because there is nothing specific about it. But I mean I know everyone is trying to make money so it's really no big deal.

LoL Yeah litlnemo I couldn't agree more about having to wear the flaming crotch in N. America it would just not work. Maybe some people could handle it but I don't think I am one of them. I get harassed enough in this lily white city as it is I don't need to add anything more fuel to the fire.

Would the south cotton be the same as hmm I think they called it "cross woven" that e-shakti had? It has the same affect as shot taffeta is that about the same? I just love the affect just didn't love how thin and easy to wrinkle the stuff from e-shakti is. Wouldn't mind having a sari out of it though. I don't have many cotton saris I would love more but I can't always iron them so artifical fabrics work for me. I do have one pure silk, hoping to get another one..not only do you have to lightly iron them but you have to keep refolding them or the fibers start to break down (yeah I know most of you already knew that lol).

Anne let me know what the kota doria is like it sounds and always looks so beautiful. I wouldn't mind getting some things out of it myself, our summers up here seem to be getting hotter and hotter. I also didn't know that Mahatma Gandhi was a weaver, Anne you're full of some really interesting info.

I can't think of any place that sells good silk salwar kameez, I am sure they are out there but I haven't tried to find them personally. Sorry I can't help.

I think I am going to join flickr when I get some good pics so that I can show some of my finds and some of the suits I've made.

litlnemo- I agree with Maggie- your peacock blue kameez is beautiful. Unfortunately on my monitor it looks cadet blue! oh well. Why do we do this to ourselves? Wonder at every frown or negative expression and think that we are being judged for our clothing? When you are wearing Western clothes, you don't even pay attention to people's expressions except to think maybe they are having a bad day (Or life). At least that's true of me. I think that the smile was one of approval, just like Maggie.

Gandhi didn't weave, he hand spun thread on a very simple flat spinning wheel. The thread was for weaving kota doria. He encouraged everyone in the resistance movement against the British to take up spinning as a nonviolent protest. The mills in England were taking business from the fabric industry in India. He was trying to encourage local production.

Yesterday my daughter got her kurti from S2. Ten of them. All of them were perfect. Living in the Mojave, I like the lightweight clothes; the whole reason I started looking at salwar was that I wanted something light and loose. It is made light weight on purpose- when the temp is over 40 degrees C, you don't want anything much on. Its that way all summer here. They are making clothing for a similar climate. You will notice that the lining is an absorbant cotton. Same reason. Heat and humidity. If you want extra warmth or for the kameez to be less see through, ask for lining. Personally, the ultra lightweight cottons are a favorite, except in winter, when I wear a warmer poly blend. Those will be put away in mid spring. I've spent lots of summers in Canada-it is so cool and pleasant- I can see why you aren't interested in the thinner cottons. Kota doria is supposed to be the coolest of all in a hot summer. I'm expecting a very thin fabric. Most south cotton is pretty thin and see through in the light, so you might want to order lining with it.

My first home made kameez came out great. I used a kameez I have that fit well for a pattern. The bandana-like fabric turned out to be a perfect choice for a very casual set. Its red, white and black- I trimmed the U neck and short sleeves in black, and put a black, white then black patched stripe down from the right shoulder seam to the hem. I wore it with black churidar and dupatta yesterday. It doesn't look like a bandana in its kameez form. The motifs are arranged in vertical stripes down the length of the dress. I like it so much I'm encouraged to make more.

Maggie- ironing is a problem for me, too. I'm planning on having my cotton saris professionally cleaned and ironed. I can't stand that long. Even the thought of a tablecloth is too much. The cleaners don't cost that much. Its easy to iron a flat piece of cloth with a press.

Maggie, you should totally put some photos on Flickr... I would love to see some of your suits! And I would love to see Anne's home made kameez, too! :) I'm planning to make one myself one of these days. There is a fabric store in Renton, WA which sells some of the 3 part salwar kameez fabric sets, and when I find the perfect one I will buy it and make one of my own. (They actually had a gorgeous set in pink and orange last time I was there -- I would have bought it, but I've been going overboard on pink and orange lately, so I think I need something else. The ones I ordered from S2 are purple/grey and green/maroon. And I will post photos on my Flickr account when they get here.)

litlnemo-is the purple/grey suit from S2 a purple kameez with a grey embroidered vertical band, with grey salwar and dupatta? If it is, I have it too. Only its not purple. Its dark blue and grey. The colors on my monitor tend to make the colors from S2 look more warm - it adds reds. Be sure you read the color description in the text or ask in the notes section for a more pricise color definition. I love mine, I hope you like blue! This is the one I wear when I want to look more sophisticated. Is the green maroon the one with Maroon kameez, green churidar, long bell sleeves and mandarin collar? I have that too. The colors on that one were more true.

My fabric store sells sets, too. I just bought an aqua blue and gold set for fancy days. Other places to look in the fabric store and fool everyone into thinking you bought Indian- some of the embroidered linen/rayon blends have appropriate patterns and a matching solid or two. Look in the bridal section for a matching chiffon, silk, or poly silk for the dupatta. Also look in the quilting section for cottons. I found two great ones there yesterday. One was a shades of blue tie-dye that goes from dark to light peacock blue. The other was a black and white print- black background with delicate white flowers that looked like a kalamkari print. I'm keeping that one simple, just white piping around the sweetheart neck and edges of sleeves. I'm deciding if I want to put white borders along the side slits. I'll wear it with white churidar and dupatta. There were several other very good choices, but you can't have everything!:) I'll see if I can get someone to take my picture with the red one on, and then you can see it.

"litlnemo-is the purple/grey suit from S2 a purple kameez with a grey embroidered vertical band, with grey salwar and dupatta? If it is, I have it too. Only its not purple. Its dark blue and grey. "

Heh, yes, it is that one (S2-C4-SK25). I saw before ordering that the color description actually said blue, so I decided either color would be fine -- either the purplish tone it has on the website, or a blue. So I will be happy either way it turns out.

The green one is actually the shorter olive green with pale yellow chudidar and dupatta, with the unusual neckline. S2-C5-CK29. But I asked for a substitution of a darker color instead of the yellow. She suggested maroon, and I think that will be lovely.

My current order status is "artwork in progress". I've got my fingers crossed! :)

When it comes to stares and smiles in clothing for me when I (very infrequently) wear Western clothing I get dirt looks and laughed at etc anyways so I figure I might as well get all of the above (from my own race) while being who I am instead of trying to be something I feel that I am not. I forget the website but I found a website that makes clothes for desis (Indians) and they each have a different logo etc and the one I want to get has instead of "Intel inside" has "Desi inside" I thought it was the best one to describe who I am. I am sure alot of people don't or can't understand me and who I am but I refuse to be who I am not. I've received flack from my own family about my choice of clothing and my mother even asked me if I could be "less ethnic" when I was going to meet a family member for the first time. I think for myself at least the love and support I've gotten from mostly the Indian but also the Pakistani community here is partly why I gravitate closer to them. I guess alot of us Westerners are used to being laughed at for our clothing from public and high school and even after you leave school that we expect that we'll receive the same from another cultural group. I remember the first salwar kameez I owned I was probably 11yrs old, my mother had taken me to Little Indian in Toronto for the first time (although I guess she didn't actually want me to take up wearing the clothes full time) it was the most beautiful sky blue pure silk with a cotton lining and alot of mirror and bead work it was cheap because it had some discolouration on the shoulders so my mother bought it for me. I put it on to wear on the train going home and I clearly remember two Indian men walking past me and smiling and putting their hands together for "Namaste". That was my very first time ever receiving any kind of feedback on me wearing Indian clothing so I suppose it shouldn't come as any surprise now that I am for the majority accepted. Sorry guys I just thought I'd share abit more about myself.

What part of Canada were you in Anne? I am in Southwestern Ontario the summers here are getting very hot in the 30s oC I know cooler then you but you can imagine for us Canadians it feels very hot. And lucky us we have to contend with alot of humidity too. This is another reason that I love Indian clothing it made for the very hot humid weather that has as of late become the typical Canadian summer. A couple years ago with the humidex we were well over 40oC. Anne what type of fabric are your petticoats made out of? I seem to only be able to find a broadcloth like petticoat around here and they don't breathe well at all. I've been thinking of taking a pattern off the panels on the petticoat(s) I have and get pure cotton and just dye it to the colours I need.

For the winter I've started finding cotts wool salwar kameez they work pretty well, a couple days this past winter I still had to put tights on underneath. It's so confusing to live in this part of Canada anymore we'll get -24oC in the winter and over 30oC in the summer.

I hear ya about standing Anne, I have severe Fibromyalgia so some days I am well better and other days I can't do anything. I've also developed back problems. I have a ton of suits to be sewn (I have two bins full) and I've been unable to get to it for one reason...Cutting. Cutting the fabric is hell for my back it puts me out for at least one day if not more. It really sucks too because I refuse to take my suits to be sewn by someone else at like $50 each. I'll only take parts of the sets to be done by someone else since I have yet to really get the hang of churidar pants. Anne do you buy your cholis premade or do you have a pattern to make your own with? LOL sorry for all the questions just not very often I find someone else that wears saris that I can have a conversation with.

I haven't put my order in with S2 yet so hard to choose what I want LOL. There are a few kurtis I want too, mostly the ones with the Hindu gods/goddess' or at least their symbols on them. I am looking at the salwar kameez with the "Om" on it though I just love the colour. With my first order I got the kurti with the stylized Ganeshji on it, it's really pretty. I actually got a t-shirt back many years ago with Ma Durga on it that I wear with a sari now the shirt is in mostly oranges and reds and I just got a sari that is a mix artifical fabric but the design is very northern, actually looks like some hand blocking designs I've seen. Very Rajasthani.

Litlnemo, don't you just love the updates from S2? It makes me much more comfortable to order from them I know what's going on with my order. Oh did I mention on here that I got my partial refund from Multifab? From a $150.00 order I got back...$25.00. Oh well that's still one suit from S2 LOL.

maggie, you are full of questions! I summered in British Columbia and Alberta when I was a kid- starting at around age 6. Vancouver, Vancouver Island, camping on the north end, Powell River and the Sunshine Coast, Frazier Park...Usually camping, but my dad, who was a teacher, took some units at Frazier University one year,and we actually got an apartment in Quitselano (sp?) Beach. I learned to swim at Lions Gate Park.

As long as we are explaining how we got here, Dad was an Asian Studies and comparative religions teacher. We were often at the Sikh Gurdwara for one thing or another; we lived near the largest Sikh community outside Punjab. I very nearly chose to become Sikh myself. My friends and I would go there when we were in high school and talk to the folks there. We learned a lot about India from them. I also took two semesters of Asian History, taught by a local Punjabi Sikh. He definately emphasized India. I always admired the beautiful clothing the women wore, and as a child asked my mom if I could have a salwar or sari, too, to wear to one of these events. She said no, that they were special clothes for people from India, and that Americans could never learn how to wear them gracefully. I believed that for a while. She still thinks I dress too ethnicly, and is afraid I might offend someone.

I decided that because I am almost old enough to wear purple and a red hat that doesn't match, I'm old enough not to care what other people think, as long as I'm not offensive. I'm just a bit eccentric, is what I say. And what looks better when you are lying on the couch? I was so ill this year I'm lucky to be alive. I'll live wearing what I want to wear.

There are lots of things that aren't important anymore that were b.i. (before illness) and things that suddenly are essensial now. Like call up everyone that was ever important to you and tell them so, and why. I never had a set of dishes that I picked out myself. When I was released from the hospital one time, I went right out and bought some I liked. It was lying on the couch in a pair of uncomfortable, unattractive shorts and a T-shirt that made me think of salwar kameez. There is another choice! And now we have the internet for wish fulfilment.

I don't feel Indian inside any more than I feel German for having married an ethnic German. But Indian smells and sights bring back my childhood, and make me a little homesick. Especially the smell of the masala that was used in huge quantities where I grew up. I've never found that mix anywhere else. I came close to reproducing it, but not quite. I've been to Punjabi and Pakistani stores that have something similar, and found some recipes on the web, but still not quite the same as in my hometown, where you can buy it from a bin in the major supermarkets today, as well as at the Punjab Bazaar. So now you know I cook Desi Khana as well as wear the clothes.

I have a choli pattern, but I've never used it. Its one that's backless with ties. I also have directions for making churidar that turned out OK, but don't have the yoke; they are simply gathered at the waist. The pattern could be easily altered. My petticoats are either cotton batiste or lizi-bizi, which is a cotton poly blend. Suma says to make your own- they are easy, cheaper, and you get just what you want. I have back problems, too. I find that cutting fabric on all fours on the floor is the most pain-free method. I still get tired, but I'll be darned if I stop sewing as long as its physically possible to do it. I couldn't all last year, and am grateful to be back at my machine. I finished my second kameez today. Black with flower print in white on 100% cotton, sweetheart neckline outlined with white piping, with piping on the sleeves as well. I like this one too. Simple.

Oh- Maggie- I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia at first, but it turns out I have multiple autoimmune diseases, including lupus and myasthenia gravis, and renal tubular acidosis, a kidney disease on the same gene. This was all revealed when I came down with Hepatitis A; the health dept. says from contaminated lettuce. There are several more, but these are the most bothersome. Some days I am so tired I can't do anything but lie about and kill time. Too tire to hold a book and pay attention to it, too tired to hold my knitting needles or pay attn to the pattern...but on those days I can look at websites featuring Indian clothing for hours, just deconstructing the patterns. Or looking at all the ways a sari can be worn. Your imagination is the limit.

I got a piece of Salwar Kameez spam this morning! Someone is mining this thread for addresses.

But do they have pockets?

No, but I sometimes wear one of my kameez over cargo pants--the churidar with the kameez are black anyway, so I toss it over my black cargo pants. Since they're black, it's not immediately obvious that they're cargos, and the slits on the kameez provide easy access. (also they're cut more full than the churidar--can't say I like churidar; I much prefer salwar)

as an Indian growing up in India, I never bought a "ready-made" garment till I was about 18. Everything thus far had been tailored.

From what I learned from a girl i went to college with who was from India, many things that are considered "luxuries" in the U.S. and many European countries are relatively mainstream in India, because prices are much cheaper--she was saying her family had a driver, just about everyone had a driver, because it cost like $50 a week, you were giving someone a job, etc. In the U.S., tell someone you have custom-made clothing and a personal driver and they assume you're rolling in money!

I've always wondered, though--if I went to India and bought a salwar kameez from a shop, how much would it cost, roughly? I mean, could one get a basic, relatively-plain-Jane salwar kameez for $20? (to me, in the U.S. or otherwise, $30+ *is* a lot of money for clothing...)

They're gorgeous outfits, but I need an excuse to learn to use my sewing machine anyway, and it looks like the fabric is available in nifty colors that they won't sell actual clothes in.

I have such a difficult time finding (at least on ebay) salwar kameez that I don't deem as either too expensive or godawful-ugly that this was something I considered too. I figured I could take apart one of the kameez and the salwar I have to make a pattern from (then reconstruct of course), make salwar in a few basic colors--black and brown to start--and matching dupattas, and then get some nifty fabric and start making various kameez like mad. Sure, such fancy fabric is hard to find in the U.S. unless you go somewhere specialized and pay a lot, but I'm sure many tailors/seamstresses/alterations folk have those sewing machines that can do machine embroidery (I myself know one who does) and one could always make up the outfit oneself and then have one of those folks do embroidery on it.

And if stuck for a pattern, find something cheap on ebay--even if you think it's butt-ugly, not like you're going to wear it--and take it apart to make a pattern from. I notice the kameez seem to be a very simple garment that would lend themselves easily to this. Other than a pattern on eBay long ago that I kept meaning to buy and never did, I have never found a pattern for them.

If anyone who is familiar with salwar kameez can talk a little bit about fabrics, I'd love to hear it. I have (somewhat third-hand) a story of the unfortunate experience of a woman who bought a sari to wear to a friend's wedding celebratoin, where said woman was the only non-Indian present. The fabric she picked made it roughly the equivalent of showing up at a black-tie even in a gingham skirt.
Cotton is to be avoided; I'm pretty sure that's considered pretty "country." One can never go wrong with highly-embroidered silk...if one has moral objections to silk, as I do (I'm vegetarian and don't consume or wear products that required a living creature's death to produce), I've seen some pretty nice stuff in synthetic fabrics on eBay as well (though I couldn't speak to whether they'd be formally-acceptable).

They are the only eBay store with large bangle sizes, plus be specializes in bridal/formal jewelry from $27-$80 dollars.
Anyone know of a good source for SMALL bangle sizes? I wear a 2.4 and that size is often hard to find...

Oh, well, if you're going to leave eBay for this discussion, Priyanka's has a HUGE selection of salwar kameez at Priyankas.com, maybe even a thousand to choose from.
I've heard from several people though that Priyanka's is a tad lacking in customer service...though apparently among their many websites, there is a U.S.-based one that is easier to deal with. I just can't remember which one that is (it has been a couple years since I've heard this, so maybe their service has improved in that time as well).

And yes I do know exactly how much the cost of living is in India, you can live in India for about $2.00 USD A DAY!!
My Indian friend from college once told me that if I ever went to India, taking a hundred bucks (U.S.$) would last me for a long time, even if I did a good amount of spending.

Here also are a couple salwar patterns I've found on the 'net; I've never tried them, mostly because I can't sew! but they might be good:
http://www.shira.net/arabella/quicksalwar.htm
http://www.shira.net/arabella/narrowsalwar.htm

Out of curiosity, what sort of shoes does everyone wear with salwar kameez and sari anyway? I mean, I've seen Indian ladies in salwar kameez or sari and tennis shoes, but I have a feeling I couldn't pull off that look. :) The traditional shoes don't look very substantial--i.e., nothing I'd wear outside--plus they're made of leather. I tend to wear my oxfords or monk straps with my salwar kameez currently. My sari, I hardly ever wear because there's no occasion to do so!

Kat, there is silk available from silkworms that have not been killed, called peace silk or ahimsa silk.

Kat, for shoes, I wear everything from slip on flats to sandals. This year interpretations of Khussas have been in the stores. You can get them as mules, wedges, espadrilles, and slipons. I found a pair with flip-flop soles at my local drug store for $3.00. In India, they are being shown with pumps and platforms. I think you can wear whatever you like.

Thanks for the salwar pattern. It came just in time. I'm making several suits, and was planning on taking a pair apart to make a pattern. The wide version is a perfect learning to sew pattern. That was a hint. I found some perfect fabric in the deep discount section of my fabric store for $2.00 a yard. That's $3.00 for a pair of narrow salwar. How can you beat it? It's also worth learning to do simple embroidery. Resham work is not so different than our crewel work. You only have to learn a few stiches to make something look pretty good- satin stitch, outline stitch, chain stitch, detatched chain, and buttonhole or blanket stitch.

For embelllishment, you can use applique instead of embroidery. I once used the drawstring from my salwar to make binding and inch wide appliques for the neckline of a terminally boring kameez, and got something that looks pretty darn good, and was perfectly matched to the salwar and dupatta.

Cotton can be formal wear, if it is good quality and properly embellished. See the high end cottons at Utsav Sarees for examples. There is also a synthetic silk called "art silk" that can look very nice. Cruise through websites to look for other examples. There is a lot out there not on E-Bay.

I couldn't agree more about "art silk" I have a few sari's made out of "art silk" that are just beautiful and other then the weight of the sari you'd never be able to tell it's not real. The one that I have is royal purple with gold buttis, heavily worked pallu with tassles very formal. I am not so sure I agree about cotton being "country" either. It all depends on what's been done with the fabric I've seen many bandhni saris with extra work done on it that I would concider very high end. And then you have kota doria saris, these saris maybe very plain but are very beautiful.

As for shoes with my salwar kameez and saris in the Summer it's always sandles whether they are dollar store flip flops or more traditional style sandles, in the Spring and Fall I wear just regular flat shoes and in the Winter I have a pair of short Winter boots that I can pull the bottoms of the salwar over. I've got a pair of fluffy pink Winter boots too but I just don't think they look right. I've seen Indian women in saris and salwar kameez wearing running shoes too and I don't believe that there is any reason that any of us couldn't "pull it off". Just because we're mainly Westerners on here wearing Eastern clothing doesn't mean we have to treat the clothing like some holy relic it's just clothing. It's not like we go up to someone from the East wearing Western clothing and if they're wearing khussa with jeans we tell them they can't "pull it off". I think it would be advisable for some people to really stop and think about wearing Indian/Pakistani clothing a sari unless it's bridal or highly worked isn't supposed to sit in your closet in hopes that one day there will be an occasion special enough for you to wear it. Sari's are worn every day by women doing their daily chores, taking care of their kids or going out to milk the cow. I am proud to have 40 saris and unless they are heavily worked or made of silk I wear them all the time even if it's just to run up and buy bread and milk. In no way am I trying to offend anyone but it seems like there is a sort of cultural gap going on here. Here in the West we tend to see anything with colour or sparkle as something you can only wear during special occasions in India everyday is a special occasion. Of course not to mention that to Hindus when we dress we are dressing the Goddess (who resides in us)and nothing is too good for a Goddess therefore dressing oneself is abit more ritualistic and important then it is here in the West.

Wow Anne, I can definately see why you're drawn to Indian clothing. I wasn't as luck as you to grow up somewhere that you were able to be around it all the time. That's too bad that your Mum was so against you wearing a sari or salwar kameez. I am glad you've come to the mindset of not caring what other people think, I think that's when a person becomes really free. I still haven't caught on to Indian cooking, during holidays I usually go to one of the Indian resturants here in town and I go to the shop to buy sweets. I can make galab jamun from scratch but I've found it premixed LOL. I have a real hard time cooking, it's difficult for me to stand that long or to keep getting up and checking on things. I have to say I envy how alot of Indian women cook in India they can pretty much sit right next to what they're cooking and not have to worry about anything. Then again the richer Indians can also afford people to cook for them another example of how something thought of a luxury here is something fairly common in India and Pakistan.

Anne it sounds like you've had it rough, in your case I suppose having fibromyalgia would actually be easier then having everything you do have. Was everything just tipped off by the Hep A or did it stem from it? Sorry if that's too personal. Yes I am full of questions lol. I love to learn about other's especially if they are in similar situations as myself. I've found being down on the floor to cut fabric is pretty hard too because I can't get back up lol, my cats love it though. When I am too sore to do anything I am usually here (unless it's a back problem) or on the couch. I'd do henna while I am unable to do anything else but it's getting harder on the eyes each time I do it.

Speaking of saris has anyone bought the "Illistrated guide on sari drapes" or whatever title is? I am thinking of getting it but I was just wondering if A) the show and describe it so one could actually do it and B) if there are any drapes that one could wear on the street without looking like you should be working in a field. I've found that the couple of times I've worn my sari in the Bengali style (pallu brought forward over the right shoulder) I've received more compliments and questions from desis. I am wondering if it isn't that the nivi style is so well known, easy and can be done with an automatic sari now. Perhaps it shows that we really do respect the culture and clothing and that we drape it ourselves. Just a thought.

Oh and was everyone else's spam from "a silk affair"? I got it too.

My order from cbazaar.com came today, and everything is very nice. It came on time, the saris were nicely packaged in their own storage bags, everything fit and was well made of good materials. Maggie, the petticoats are made of light weight crepe. The price was right for everything I got. Not as inexpensive as S2, but fancier, and S2 doesn't sell saris yet. I also got three free packages of very nice bindi. I will probably shop here again, but S2 is still my favorite.

Maggie- you can cook with fibromyalgia. It just takes more planning and a few extra tools, like a tall stool for the kitchen for you to sit on while you work. I know the exhaution you are talking about. Do things spread out through the day. Cut up the vegetables in the morning. Make dough for Roti just before lunch, use a food processor instead of hand kneading it. Letting it rest all afternoon just makes it easier to roll out when you want to eat it. Only roll and cook as many as you are going to eat right now. The dough keeps in the fridge. Keep your work space small, ideally a counter next to the stove or fridge. Always sit on your stool, especially if you are making something that requires watching and stirring. If your recipe has a spice mix for tempering, put that together sometime during the day in a small bowl or cup, and at dinner time, you just have to throw things together. Remember that the food you get in Indian resteraunts isn't home cooking. Its party food, and its court food from the Moghul Court. Home cooking is a lot simpler and lower fat. For more tips on Indian cooking, email me. I'm finally putting together my own blog-maybe I'll add Indian cooking to it, and you can go there. I'm just just beginning it, so there isn't much there yet, but there is an article on pain that I wrote a year ago last January, just as I was beginning to get sick. I am planning on writing about a number of topics including dealing with serious illness, spirituality, and anything else that strikes my fancy.

Kat, there is silk available from silkworms that have not been killed, called peace silk or ahimsa silk.

I'd heard of that, but I wasn't sure if it was actually true or not. How does it work, then? Isn't the thread interrupted when the silk worm comes out?

Anne, let me know how that salwar pattern turns out and maybe I'll give it a go.

As far as draping a sari oneself...I've never found it difficult, even my first time, to tell you the truth. I'm sure it didn't look perfect at first, but by about the third time I was making some pretty good pleats.

My mom personally loves my salwar kameezes. I wish I could make her one, I know she'd just love it (she's rather plus-size so a bit of working of the pattern would be required--she doesn't think she'd fit even the regular-size salwar--but I don't think it should be too hard). She keeps encouraging me to wear them more (unfortunately both of mine are short-sleeved so we haven't yet hit weather in Michigan that allows me to wear them yet and while I've worn them with a long-sleeved t-shirt underneath before or with a long sweater coat over the top, I don't much like the t-shirt layering look and my sweater coat needs washing). She's even asked me if I could get away with wearing one to work. I'm not so sure about that--I work at a bank with a somewhat-strict dress code and even if I made a very plain one, the style itself might be against code--but it'd be nifty if I could!

I have to say, the salwar kameez style I like best is traditional salwar and a long kameez--below-knee to mid-calf length. And relatively plain in color and embellishment (I've seen a lot of more modern necklines and fabrics that I can't say I like). I tend to like my clothing more simple, period...makes it a bit difficult to find salwar kameez sometimes! I'd love to go to India just to go clothes shopping and have a bunch of stuff made just the way I want it (hence why I want to learn to sew my own). Gotta find a good source for fabric...I've seen some nice ones at fabric stores but am a bit hard-pressed to find ones that are matching for the salwar, kameez, and dupatta...

I hear what you're saying Anne, the only problem with me is that sleeping is one of the biggest problems my FM has presented, I sleep most times 12hrs straight and wake up only to pass out on the couch again it really makes planning anything hard. I do my best when I am up to it but since probably Oct it's been a real rough patch so hubby is doing alot of the cooking. I got a cook book at Xmas for some Indian cooking very simple recipes but I haven't been able to try them out. They seem more like your typical Indian meal rather then a resturant meal. Once I try them and see how they are I'll pass on the recipe for you Anne. As for roti etc I usually go with the frozen ones you bake or put on the stove top I try to keep a stash of them just incase I want it but just can't bring myself to make it. It's such a pain in the butt. I've had FM since I was 11 and I just turned 24 so you'd think I would be used to the ups and downs but it seems like while you're on an "up" you forget just how low the "downs" are. I'd be really interested in reading what you've written on pain, actually I think I'd enjoy whatever you write :). I write as well, been paid and published but it's got nothing to do with salwar kameez (well one peice was on racism I've experanced) I usually write about social issues the poor, homeless etc.

Kat, I am sorry to hear about the dress code where you work. I can definately see why when women are immagrating to the West from India, Pakistani, Bangladesh etc they abandon their own traditional clothing. A friend of mine married in India and he had to work two years to get his wife here to Canada, she had to ask him what to buy and what to bring here and his advice was always the same, "Bring western clothes, or buy them here". I believe his wife came with two maybe three saris but most of them she left back in India. You'd think with Canada and the U.S supposedly being multicultural countries offices and business' would make their dress code abit more friendly to all cultures. I wouldn't have a problem going into a place of business (bank, lawyer etc) and seeing a woman wearing the traditional sari style native to Sudan, or a woman wearing something from Mongolia. I think the world has such beautiful cultures and people that we should all be luck enough to be exposed to it all. But I guess that's just my own rant lol. Plus sized salwar kameez are pretty simple, I am by far not a size 2 and I haven't seen a difference in the construction of a salwar kameez for a small woman or a larger woman. It is however much easier to buy ready made salwar kameez for smaller women. It's great that your mother is so open to your choice of clothing, as I mentioned mine isn't exactly of the same mind. I know where you're coming from with the short sleeves, the weather here and where you are Kat are mainly the same three days ago it was perfect weather for short sleeves and now argh! I find it extra difficult to wear a sari with a sweater or coat because we you walk the peice that comes across the front tends to ride over to one side and show your belly off to the world LOL.

Just had to share with everyone, I was out today and was talking to a girl about my salwar kameez and I was telling her about making my own etc and she's invited me to show my work at a fashion show in the fall..how cool is that? If only CEO would show their rat face in here HA! ;)

Kat I was going to say if it was easy for you to get to Toronto you should check out little India sometime for fabric, is there not some type of South Asian community set up in Michigan? You may even have more luck if you look for Islamic clothing stores, I know the shops here in my city that sell salwar kameez fabric (although much more expensive then in Toronto)are run by Muslims and are marketed as such. However it is possible you'll just find shops that sell hijabs etc.

Maggie-I just ordered Saris: An Illustrated Guide to the Indian Art of Draping. Thanks for the tip. At the same time I saw another book, The Sari:Styles, Patterns, History, Technique and ordered that as well. I'll write a review when I get them. From what I can tell, they are both very good resources, but not easy to find at anything near list price. The first starts at $68.00 US for a used edition. The second is more reasonable, but sounds more like a good companion book.

Hey Anne, I heard that the draping book is good however I heard they were good from sites wanting to sell the book LOL not the most reliable source. I'll be very interested in hearing what it's like I would definately like to wear my saris in different ways just for a change. The second book you mentioned sounds very interesting as well I've never come across it keep me updated :). I am now surfing looking at saris to buy talking about kota doria and bandhej saris have made me want them more hehe I found a tussar silk one but that'll probably be for Ganesh Chaturathi. I just love all the holidays always a reason to buy a new sari hehe :)

Maggie @301
I used to work at a bank which supplied uniforms for its branch staff (I wasn't branch staff). The uniforms included trousers, long skirts, short skirts, jackets of different styles...and a salwar kameez outfit.

I thought that was cool.

Abi- That is remarkable. What a forward thinking company. What city was the bank from? I'm curious to know where that sensitivity came from; if it had locations that included large numbers of South Asians. My bank has everyone in a man-tailored oxford shirt, whether the shape fits or not. Most people end up looking like they are wearing someone else's clothes.

Anne @305
It was the Royal Bank of Scotland Group, with locations throughout the United Kingdom, both in its own right and through the National Westminster Bank.

So yes, a lot of South Asians.

When I was a teller for the Royal Bank of Scotland Group, in their Eastern US guise as Citizens Bank, they kept the damn buidling so frickin' hot that mostly what I wore was sweaty short sleeves. But they kept telling me to wear long sleeved button-downs with ties, and I was like, hell, no. And then I quit, and all was well with the universe.

LMAO Ethan @ "And then I quit, and all was well with the universe."

Wow Abi that is very cool indeed, it's nice to see acceptance in large companies I get so tired of seeing companies enforce dress codes that try and make everyone look like a perfect clone of their coworkers. Not only that but some places their dress code would be completely against some religions. I think many Western (UK and Europe included) companies let alone countries are at a cross road right now we all claim to be multicultural and accepting but many places are now questioning just how far they are willing to go to accept other cultures and religions. I know Canada or at least Quebec had that during the election that just passed a week or so ago (you can tell how much I keep up with Quebec politics lol). I think it shows alot about a company willing to not only accept but provide for people from other backgrounds.

Anne my dear, does Suma take pictures of outfits that you'd like her to copy? I was watching one of the Punjab shows here tonight and saw a salwar kameez I would love to have so I took a few shots. I am hoping Suma can make something close to it, above the knee kameez with patiala pants in a pretty blue and red. The one on TV was silk but I was thinking cotton or even south cotton would be nice.

Maggie- That's how we started out designing the party dress in November. They didn't have a line of party clothes at all then, and I mentioned I needed a party dress and had a picture. She said she'd be happy to make me a party dress, and did. Its not like the one in the picture, though. She doesn't do direct copies. There are similarities; the picture I gave her was an above the knee kurta with a very deep V embroidered neckline and underlap, churidar, and a dupatta with a heavily embroidered edge. It was cream and maroon. By the time we were done discussing pros and cons of various designs, I had the deep V neckline with underlap, the heavily embroidered dupatta, patialas, embroidery on the yoke instead of along the neckline, in peacock blue and a red/brown that was almost maroon. Part of the reason for the differences was availability of fabrics, some was lack of time to do hand embroidery, but a lot was her design sense, she has a picture of me, so she knows what I look best in, colors and shapes, and she isn't afraid to tell me what she thinks. I don't know if she's just like that with me or with everybody. I was happy with what I got, but it really morphed from that picture.

By the way, before I spent all that on the book, I checked out other impartial reviews. It looks like it really is the best on the subject out there.

Kat- I started making the salwar from the pattern for "narrow salwar" (LOL) on Arabella's site. They are very easy, and authentic. She assumes you really know how to sew, though. She leaves a lot of steps out that an intermediate sewer would be able to figure out, but not a beginner. If you want to make them as a learning project (I still think they are good for that, they really are simple if you have all the directions), I'll send you more detailed sewing instructions. My only problem with the pattern is that it must assume everyone is the same height: short. If I'd followed her directions exactly I'd have a pair of cropped salwar. Again, altering the pattern is easy too. If you make them with her measurements they come out about 38" long from the waist. The yoke is 44" around, so for plus sizes you need to use 60" wide fabric or buy a longer length and piece it. Taller people need to buy a longer length. I can give directions for that as well. Fortunately, I'd bought extra fabric because I wasn't sure how much I would need, and overestimated.

Kat at 300,

The worm comes out of the silk cocoon, damaging one end of the cocoon, so the fibers are shorter than the silk that is wound off the cocoon after the worm is killed. The worm-killed silk is wound off the cocoons in a single length; the peace silk cannot be.

My info is from a book called No Sheep for You, so it's not a manufacturer trying to sell you a line.

I finished making the salwar from Arabella's pattern. They are acceptable, but they have a diagonal seam from piecing the fabric that runs at an angle from the outside of your thigh across the front of the leg to the inside of your ankle. I'm not so thrilled with that. I pleated mine and made them a little full, so that they would be semi Patialalas, and that worked. I'm thinking of taking them apart and putting the diagonal seam in the back. I think that would be a lot more attractive. The cuffs are a little narrow, too. This pattern could be ok, but it needs some work.

Hey Anne,
Glad to hear you finished your salwar. Sorry to hear about the pattern, I had to do alot of work on the pattern from dansingnspirit the yoke was too long, the amount of fabric for the legs was too little so there was hardly enough to pleat making the pants look pretty straight (it's great now when I have to make straight pants but not good for salwars). I ended up taking a part of salwar pants that I had that fit perfectly took the measurements off of the yoke and the length of the leg and guesstimated the extra fabric for the pleats and it turns out perfect. I find traditional salwar pants to be the easiest pants I've ever sewn, they are also less wasteful with fabric. I can fit the yoke and both legs on the peice of fabric that comes with an unstitched salwar whereas if you were to try and make them with a regular Western pattern you'd need extra fabric.

I contacted Suma and we're working on the suit right now, I am glad the pictures I sent her were clear enough. Everytime it was a great shot of the salwar the host was wearing they'd go to commercial. It's basically a blue kameez, above the knee with embrodery on a see through fabric around the next, the sleeves and the bottom of the kameez, mandarin collar and red patiala. The colours are muted slightly so it's not like I am wearing part of the American flag LOL. I am so excited just thinking about it, I know I am a nerd lol.

Being a nerd is ok. Its what makes us interesting. Other folks wouldn't be fascinated by saris and salwar kameez!

Isn't Suma great? She's largely why I like S2 so much.

So we've settled on the patiala salwar, same colour and pretty much the same design. I am so happy that Suma is able to almost completely copy it. We've added silver zari dots to it but that's about it. I've also ordered black cotton churidar pants for $9!! I can't believe that price I am shocked. I asked Suma about the saris and she said they've been doing painted and embrodered sarees for the market there but they're adding the saris to the site soon. I can't wait! I definately love Suma she's one of the number one reasons I love S2 I also love the price and being able to change the entire suit.

Maggie- See what I meant? S2 is by far my favorite place to shop, too. I can get just what I want. I don't like sleeveless clothes usually, so they put sleeves on everything without being asked. I have to tell them to make it like the picture, or it will be made according to my preferences. I just got a big order today. It feels like Christmas. I was more courageous and ordered a lot more color. I love everything! I'm wearing a pista (pistachio) green salwar kameez right now. Its a great color that I've never seen here. I went shopping with my mother this afternoon, and couldn't find anything in the western shops that I like nearly as well. Even my mother agreed. Finally.

Few of my friends bought from Zarmina and they were very disappointed. There service sucks..clothes are expensive and fitting is terrible and then you have to wait another one month to get new outfit as they are mailing it from Pak.
Please Samina & Saima...I think you guys are promotting your own website so please DON'T WRITE WHAT YOU DON'T DO

I found sila.com the best to buy outfits. Good about Sila is she is the model...she runs the website and she is the designer so me and my friend never ever had any problem with her in fact she makes outfit that fits like a dream. She is the first Pakistani designer from Houston and running her business more then 10 years.

Suma at S2 heard about my adventures making salwar, and wrote me with instructions. Here they are:
I guess you are talking about kali salwar . In that there is an extra seam to give the salwar a fuller look. It is not needed. Simply lay the fabric on 4 fold. That is both legs are folded into 2 from the center (crease line). Take the length you need. That is the salwar length minus the belt for drawstring plus the seam allowance. Use the whole width of fabric if needed give an extra joint on the end where you join it to the belt. That is what is kali salwar. If the joint is bigger like for a pattiala then it is seen on the shins. Else it is a small joint which gets hidden under the top. I will try to give you a better explanation later.

I think I understand this; joint must mean piecing, and kali salwar must be the narrow form. I'm going to ask her to give more step by step instructions. Really nice of her to try to explain all this to me.

That is so nice of Suma, Anne. I wrote to dansingnspirit where I got my pattern and asked her about patiala salwar when I first fell in love with them (and on the site it says she's more then happy to help) and never heard back from her! I tried one attempt at making them myself but omg I didn't even finish them lol maybe I can figure out how to fix them when my order comes in. I am so impressed you know pista, I just learnt kaju the other night it's cashew. I am trying to learn different Hindi words and get used to using them because it'll make it easier in India when I know what I am eating. I may end up living on sweets because that's what I know the best LOL.

I know where you're coming from too Anne about Western shops and not finding much you like. I still go to the mall and I still go into shops but I rarely buy anything that won't go with my saris or salwar kameez or at least looks like either. This winter the long sweater over tights was a pretty cool look because it reminded me of a kameez over churidar pants and it was warm enough for our winters but that's as Western as I've been in years. Most of them I am attracted to jewelery when I am out or tea cups LOL.

Oh another fashion tip; Remember to match your gold. If you have real or imitation jewelery from India/Pakistan or the Middle East you'll notice it's a much darker yellow then most of the jewelery (real or fake) sold here. That's because (as most know) here we're most likely to buy 10kt-18kt gold which is much paler in colour then the 22kt-24kt gold sold in India/Pakistan or the Middle East. I am starting to suggest to alot of people that if they are looking to buy real jewelery to find an Indian/Pakistani or Middle Eastern jewlery store if they possible can because you're getting much more for your money then you would at say "Peoples" "Mappins" "Kay" etc. At the Western shops they'll just give you a price, at the Indian/Pakistani or Middle Eastern shops they will weigh the jewelery and give you a price based on the price of gold and a little extra for workmanship. You're getting more gold for your dollar by far. So there's my tip :).

Maggie- Last week I found some great earrings in the bargain bin at a local close-out store. They were by a major American designer, but look like they were made in India. The right color gold, aqua blue cabuchons that look like blue topaz. They match my tissue sari perfectly. I think a lot of Americans think that yellow color is fake looking. They don't realize that it is the color of 22-24 Karat gold.

Another jewelry tip. Someone, I think somewhere in this string, but I can't find it, was looking for bangles for a small wrist. I just got an email from Beachcombers saying they now carry glass bangles in sizes 2.6 through 2.12. That's happy news for people with large hands, too. I like the look of glass bangles with my salwar and saris.

I got one of the books: The Sari:Styles Patterns History Technique. It is a beautiful book with both black and white and color pictures, and describes traditional saris by region. It only has one page on draping, but is an interesting read. It is really just a nice coffee table book. I have always appreciated handloom saris, now that I know a little more about them, I will apreciate them more.

I'm feeling like its Christmas in April. I ordered some things a while ago from S2, then imediately ordered a whole bunch of kurti for my daughter. I had a ridiculously big order when you put the 2 together, and my daughter's had a time element, so mine was put on the back burner. Then they came out with their new collection and sale, and I ordered more. All of it came yesterday. It is beautiful work, every piece. Now I'm almost like you with saris, Maggie. I have 26 salwar kameez. I never counted before today. Everything from casual bum around the house to serious party wear. I have western clothes, too, but they generally just take up space in my closet.

My husband and I are planning on going to India in August if my health permits. We are going to Pune, where S2 is, and are planning on visiting there. Suma and the design team say they are looking forward to showing us around, and that finally she can show me the answers to my questions instead of trying to explain something totally unfamiliar to me in an email. Cross your fingers that I'm not too tired and weak to go. Isn't that exciting?

India in August? You are brave Anne! It's funny you bring up going to see Suma I had a great conversation with Suma last night via e-mail and I mentioned my husband and I are hoping to go to India in the next couple years and I made sure to find out (again) where S2 was based and Suma invited us to come and visit LOL. Talk about weird timing. Anne I have all my fingers and toes crossed that you'll be able to make the trip you'll certianly have to fill us all in on the trip when you get back. I finished up my order with Suma last night and sent the payment so now I am just trying to stay calm until the package arrives LOL I am SO excited to finally get my patiala salwar I just can't tell ya how excited.

26 salwar kameez? WOW I don't think I have that many but I am sure working on it lol I still have probably 5 to sew I ordered 3 from S2 plus my churidar pants and I found one on Amazon that I am very interested in. Problem is the seller is a new seller and has no feedback to go on and they charge a "minimal charge" for sewing it. It's just beautiful though it's a printed cotton salwar kameez in mainly blue but with purple and orange highlights it seems to have a bandhani design to it definately an eye catcher. The seller is Kharidari for anyone that wants to take a peek. I have a long way yet before I have as many salwar kameez as saris but I am sure to have fun getting there LOL.

I've decided to go through my Western clothes (especially the ones that don't fit) and just get rid of them if I can't incorperate them into my wardrobe. Small shirts if they are nice enough can be worn under a sari like the Maa Durga one I have but there's really no point in holding on to clothes that I have no intentions of wearing whether they fit or not. Now if I could just get my mum to stop buying me Western clothing for presents.

Yeah I agree Anne I think most Westerners think that the darker yellow gold is imitation gold. It's amazing what you can find at dollar stores too Anne, there is one right by Little India in Toronto and they always have beautiful jewelery in there from India all for a buck gotta love it. I love glass bangles too the sound is different then that of the metal ones I just have a harder time finding glass bangles here. I haven't ever sent for some because I figure they'll probably get broken before they reach me.

That book sounds really nice Anne, I've gotten more into the traditional and handloomed saris too. I'll be so proud to wear kota doria or bandhani saris and be able to say that I do know where they are from etc.

I have an estimated shipping date for my s2 order -- next week! I'm excited. :)

Regarding western clothes that look like salwar kameez, I had a sort of interesting experience with that. A couple of years ago I had to go to Hawaii for a beachfront wedding. Dress code was "island-style." I had no idea what to wear. I'm not a dress wearer, but I figured jeans were too informal.

So I was looking at beachwear at Fred Meyer while thinking about this. I saw a pretty blue sarong and a really pretty blue a-line dress (about knee-length) that was meant to be a beach cover-up sort of thing. I went into the dressing room and tied the sarong around my waist as a long skirt, and then put the dress on over that.

I was shocked to see in the mirror that the combination actually worked, and it looked rather like a salwar kameez in shape. (At the time I didn't own any salwar suits, but I'd been lusting after them since reading Teresa's post here.) It looked really pretty good! So I wore that to the wedding.

Then, last year, I got a deep blue silk salwar kameez at a thrift store. I brought it home and noticed it matched my Hawaiian outfit perfectly. I put the dress on with the silk salwar and it's perfect! The dress is the same shape as the a-line sleeveless kameez style, and the proportions are perfect. And the sarong serves as a dupatta! If I'd only had the salwar when I went to the Hawaiian wedding, I would have worn the whole outfit like this. :) (Though I do wish it had some sleeves...)

The only strange thing is that the "kameez" is in a Hawaiian print. But it looks really cool.

Yes, India in August. It is hottest now, says Suma. In late July the monsoons begin, and it cools down. I won't get as tired with less heat. And don't forget I live in the Mojave Desert; thats why I started wearing salwar kameez in the first place. It is desert clothing. It often tops 118 degrees F. in the shade here in August. It will actually be cooler in India. How odd that we came up with the idea of visiting Pune at about the same time, and because S2 is there? Turns out that there is a lot to see in the area; it will be a great trip.

Hey litlnemo, I am so excited for you please let us know how your order is when you get it. That's so cool about the sarong, dress, salwar thing I totally love that. It's so strange I had a salwar kameez and a really nice (oddly enough) lengha choli and never once thought of getting more up until these last three years DUH!@me lol. I still kick myself for cheaping out for my cousin in law's wedding last year I get invited to so few weddings too :( Now I just got to hope someone else I know gets hitched because I am all ready for a wedding now hehehe.

Anne what I've read about India in August and the monsoon is that it just makes it more humid. I can't remember where I read it but they were saying it starts getting real hot now, then it starts the monsoon and it gets hot and wet like a permanent sauna. We're hoping to go probably Jan or Feb because at that time of the year we're more used to those temps. I said to Suma last night I'll be living on lassis and kulfi oh and PAKOLA!! omg has anyone else tried that pop? If you find it it's a green can and it says ice cream soda it's so good it tastes more like rose water to me. Everytime we're in Toronto I have to get some to bring home but since the cans are much thicker then what we have here they're very heavy hehehe.

That is strange that we were thinking about visiting Pune at the same time, I am trying to figure out how to work it into our trip. We're trying to sort out if we're just going to book a tour for our first trip to India or what. Being Hindu I am trying to work it so that I can visit some of the holiest places while we're there. It's going to be a pilgramage/sight seeing/SHOPPING! trip hehehe. Suma is such a sweetheart though I'd love to show up at S2 wearing my patiala salwar I just ordered. Are you doing all the planning and such yourself Anne or are you going with a tour?

Maggie- we are planning the trip ourselves with the help of a friend who's a travel agent and Suma's advice about the weather. I'm never going to get well, so putting off the trip might be putting it off forever. I have hope of being stronger in August, but this is incurable. I'm not sure if I want to wear salwar or saris in India. My son who works on a high end cruise line says that his multinational friends and people he has met say not to wear local ethnic clothes while visiting. I'll have to ask Suma, who seems to know all. Or at least whom to ask.

The other book came yesterday- Saris:An Illustrated Guide to the Art of Indian Draping. It is a very thorough ethnography of sari draping. The author tried to find as many different ways of draping a sari as possible, from recreating what she saw of ancient drapes from sculpture and paintings, to asking elderly women on the street how they draped their sari. She then gives illustrated step by step instructions. There is very little on modern drapes. Two pages on the Nivi drape that we all know, and then more pages on drapes related to it, but they wouldn't be appropriate to wear out today. They are often associated with a particular caste or village or time in history. But it is fun to play with as many of them as possible with a 6 metre sari. Some take up to 11!

Anne, I will keep my fingers crossed for you hun. I am somewhat in the same situation about going as soon as possible, I am going blind so I want to make sure I can see everything while I am there. Then again I also don't know if I'll ever be able to afford the trip if I put it off now. Luckily right now I have some money so that's why we're trying to get things sorted out. That's cool you have friend's to help you out with planning the trip.

But no Indian clothes in India? That's really strange. I don't wear Western clothes here so I certianly wouldn't start over there. Besides once you get into Western clothing it's very easy to wear something that wouldn't be acceptable there such as shorts that would be fine here might be very unacceptable there. You also have to remember if you're visiting any religious sites many of them will have you wear traditional clothing or at least very modest Western clothing. So you might as well wear traditional clothing, you know you'll be covered and still be cool, because pants just wouldn't be an option in the heat. I just think that's really weird advice, I've talked to alot of people at my temple and outside of it about going to India and they've never once told me not to wear my regular attire infact they've all joked with me about all the shopping I'll be doing and how surprised people will be in India to see me wearing a sari correctly lol. I suppose each to their own, but perhaps you should ask why these people are suggesting you don't wear Indian clothing in India.

From the sounds of it I'll skip "Saris: An Illustrated Guide to the Art of Indian Draping" I was looking for different drapes that I could actually wear. I am sure the village and the caste drapes are beautiful and neat to know but whats the point if you're just going to look out of place? I'll stick with the nivi and the Gujarati style (sometimes it's also known as Bengali although I've found two different Bengali styles, one like the Gujarati and one without any pleats at all). Alot of the people from my temple are from N. India so I see the Gujarati style pretty often, it's a very nice wrap although somewhat more open then the nivi which can be nice on a summer day.

I just ordered 6 petticoats from Suma, I have to replace all of mine because I've had to add a panel on to them so they look kinda funny under sheer saris and they were shortened to wear my sari below my navel and now I wear it above. I also wanted the 100% cotton for this summer apparently it's supposed to be the hottest ever! Suma is just the sweetest doing all this work for me and I still can't get over her prices my goodness!

Maggie #320> Sorry I'm a bit late on this but I know the salwar kameez you are talking about that Kharidari is selling.

My advice is to not buy the salwar off Amazon, but buy it directly from their website - www.kharidari.com. It's cheaper there (last I checked at least).

I had also e-mailed their customer service to ask how much it would be to customize the salwar suit and was told $5 US.

Hope this helps!

Tabby you're a life saver :) I was just trying to find out how to ask how much it was through Amazon lol. Thank you so much for the help you were more help then what I got from Amazon :) Oh and before I forget anyone checking out Amazon you'll find "Sams sequins" that's the same as echarming that I had all the problems with just incase I hadn't mentioned it. Again thanks Tabby.

Maggie- We made Suma blush with all the nice things we've been saying about her here. She says that we need to remember the rest of the S2 design team, the artists, and the tailors. That nothing could be done without everyone doing their part. She's right. Her boss found this blog and read it out loud to everyone. He seems to be a very nice person, too.

Tabby- thanks for telling us about the kharidari.com site. I checked it out, and it has some very nice things. Unfortunately, no plus sizes- their salwar kameez are premade, and then altered. It has some other things of interest though. Beautiful shawls and reasonably priced jewelry among many other things. I have my eye on one of the huge embroidered pashminas. I wish I'd had it this weekend. Suddenly cold and rainy here.

Anne - Uh oh, the "premade and then altered" thing makes me nervous. I'm not plus-size, but I'm 5'11" and most premade suits are just not long enough, kameez and salwar-wise. Utsav Sarees has the same suit, but I've heard too many not-so-great things about them.

Maggie - You're welcome! I feel awkward saying this, but it's great finding another person with severe fibromyalgia. People always tell me "your cousin's mother-in-law has fibromyalgia" etc., but the people I hear about are able to work and do almost anything they want. So it's nice to feel like I'm not the only person in the world who is severely limited by fibromyalgia. :)

Tabby- it seems that there are several of us here who have chronic fatigue for one reason or another. Its one of the reasons I started wearing salwar kameez. You can lie around in them and then answer the door without looking like you are in your pajamas. They are just as comfortable as P.J.s, but so nice looking.

The suits at kharidari.com are already sewn, 40 inches across the chest with 3-6 inches in the margins for alterations. kurta lengths tend to be between 38 and 42 inches, and salwar between 40 and 44 inches. I'm 5'8, with relatively short legs, and get a 40 0r 41 inch salwar. They also have what they call "free size" with no dimensions given. I'm sure not comfortable with that. I've had some bad experiences with Utav Sarees, but at the same time gotten some nice things there. I still occasionally order things from them, but its fingernail biting time. My latest order for sarees, sat around for a couple of weeks before they got around to notifying me that one was no longer available, and the others were available "with slight changes of color and design", and if I would confirm my purchase, they would send them to me in a week. When I asked for a photo of the changes, the peach saree was red, and the kota doria was the same general colors, but less vibrant. I didn't want either of them and chose new items. That was a week and a half ago, and I haven't heard a word from them about anything. I don't think i want to go through this aggravation again.

Anne - You read my mind! I was just going to say that I'm thinking of getting more salwar suits so if the doorbell rings, I at least look dressed. In the spring/summer, I've been wearing t-shirts and men's boxers around the house and I get some interesting looks from the UPS guy and solicitors!

Ugh on your current experience with Utsav Sarees! I like a lot of their stuff, but since their measurement form only goes to 45 inches for kameez and salwar length, I don't think they're an option for me. A 46-inch kameez is right below the knee on me and I need a 46-inch salwar, minimum.

Hey Tabby,
I know what you mean about the FM, you hate to hear about others that are in the same situation but it's some what comforting because then at least you know you aren't losing your mind :). I had someone that *used* to be related (I actually disowned them) tell me that I was lazy and just wanted to collect a cheque every month because I can do so little. "There is a woman at my work, that's right SHE works!! and she has fibromyalgia" I even had problems with another women with FM mildly, she couldn't believe that I was in a wheelchair at the time because of the FM because her's was never that bad. We'll have to e-mail about our experances I think it might do us both good.

Well some of the suits at kharidari.com are premade (of course the kota doria ones lol) but the one I was looking at is free size. I don't have a problem with free size because pretty much all the ones on e-bay are sold as free size. Those premade altered ones worry me, they give the measurements at the chest but they don't tell you the hip measurement and that's where I really have to worry. I think I'll probably get a kota doria saree from them and that suit but then again I misscounted how many suits I've got to sew so I might just go with the saree for now who knows lol.

Anne I know what it's like to order something then get told it's not available order something different and then not hear from them, that's what happened with me and my last eshakti order. I find it kinda rude personally, you never know if they get your order or if the new choices are acceptable etc.

I am still trying to remember to open a flikr account and get some pictures of me in my salwar kameez ones I've ordered and ones I've made. I have such a bad memory grrr.

Hi Maggie - You are so right about the judgment calls people make. I recently had a friend tell me that she works with a woman who has fibromyalgia and her symptoms are completely under control because doesn't eat any processed food and she exercises. I know her intent wasn't to be mean, but it came off like I just lay in bed all day and eat McDonald's and ice cream all day long, which is not the case. My own doctor thinks I should see this quack doctor who thinks CFIDS and Fibro sufferers cause their own diseases! But yes, e-mail would be great!

The thing that really struck me with Anne's order from Utsav Sarees was that they didn't even provide photos of the slightly different sarees. You'd think a clothing merchant would know that no woman buys clothing without knowing exactly what it looks like.

I just got an email from Beachcombers saying they now carry glass bangles in sizes 2.6 through 2.12.

I actually wear a 2.4 in bangles...I wear a 2.6 in glass bangles though. I have tiny wrists, extremely so, but my hands are closer to normal size (still small, but closer to normal), so my wrists/hands are actually not in proportion. My wrists could definitely take smaller bangles if I could get them on! I have to wear the larger in glass though or I break them just trying to put them on/take them off--and boy are those cuts on one's knuckles nasty! Because of the breakage factor (both for putting on/off, and because I just tend to break them--managed to break a few once when my ex, not realizing I had them on, grabbed my wrist to get my attention. Luckily I didn't get cut...unluckily it was the first time I'd ever worn them!)

Tabby and Maggie, my mom also has fibromyalgia. Among a ton of other things like arthritis, asthma, type 2 diabetes (yep, like I've said before, she's overweight, but it's hard to exercise when you can't breathe and have arthritis in your knees so badly that you can barely walk, y'know? So not much that can be done about that), thyroid problems, had breast cancer several years ago, etc. etc. etc. She's on disability now (lost her job about a year and a half ago and obviously no one else was going to hire her; she says now she's not sure she would've been able to continue working much longer anyway with the way her health went downhill). Much of what you're saying sounds familiar to me!

Ha, and I just remembered. A few months ago my boyfriend was in the hospital (the trick of the amazing exploding appendix) and he got up and went to the bathroom, and as he came back I looked at him and started laughing. See, he was wearing a gown and hospital PJ pants, and he looked an awful lot like he was wearing the "kurta pajama" men's version of a salwar kameez. I tried to explain to him but he didn't get it.

He was awful cute in it, though...

LOL Kat, my hubby owns I believe four kurta pajama now. He actually wore one to his cousin's wedding I was pretty impressed. Yeah I know how your mum feels too I have thyroid problems, asthma, arthritis, bursitis (spl?)in both knees, torn rotator cuff (thanks to the transit system here) at the same time I torn the bicep, lumbago on the left side of my back and a problem with the sacroilliac joint on the right side of my back I think that's everything LOL. Yeah I know about the "well if you just get up and excersise and lose some weight and eat all organic non processed food etc etc" it's apparent that the people suggesting these things to someone with severe FM or any other medical problem hasn't ever experanced the problems themselves. As you said Kat it's hard to lose weight when you can hardly climb stairs or walk to the store because you're in so much pain. The processed food thing I have to say would probably help but I know that it just doesn't always fit into my life because my husband is going on disability because he has extremely bad knees, two surgeries in two years to fix them then one surgery to take out the screws from the previous surgeries and the only thing they fixed was keeping the knees from going out of place he's in a ton of pain all the time. So there are days that neither of us are up to cooking so processed food is the only choice unless we have the money for good delivery food (Indian or Mexican).

Tabby I've heard about alot of Dr's that think it's all in our heads too I think I saw a few of them before I was diagnosed lol. It's so hard to be diagnosed with FM as I am sure you know because there really are no hard evidence tests they can do. It's not like there is a blood test or something so some doctors seem to think if you can't prove it with a test then it's obviously not real. Makes you wonder if someone in their family ended up with FM or another "unprovable" illness' if they'd call their own family members crazy. One theory I hear about alot up here lately is that FM is causes by come kind of trama, and for the life of me I can't possibly think of something that happened when I was around 10 or 11 that would cause this. Sometimes you can't help but feel like a cancer patient with all these wack jobs out there saying one thing or another causes FM and then they try to sell you something that isn't going to help your health.

I wrote to Suma last night because I got out some of my better suit material, I want to get them sewn before it gets too hot to sew and I discovered something really weird. Two of my good suits have a line of boarder down the one side of the fabric but no where else I had no idea what I was supposed to do, I thought perhaps it was supposed to be used down side to make a kinda asymetrical strip but I thought if I did that and it was wrong I'd like like a total idiot. Turns out it's supposed to be trimmed off and then added to where ever you want it on the kameez or even at the bottom of the salwar (the salwar material on my suits match the boarder though). But Suma was telling me about the latest trend in India and I swear I had thought about doing it before but had wondered if I'd look silly. The fad is if you have salwar kameez material that has a printed material that is supposed to be for the kameez and a plain material for the salwar to switch them and use the pattern for the salwar instead. I think it's a great idea, it's something different and you can decorate the kameez more if it's plain perhaps make the sleeves out of the patterned material or take strips of it and add it on or make it the boarder or something. I have at least three suits that have the plain with the patterned material so I think I am going to try it out.

Of course I still don't have my flikr account or any pictures (you almost get the feeling I am camera shy lol) but when I do....yeah I know I've said it before.

Speaking of glass bangles I got a great deal on Tuesday I went to the local "new and nearly new used good stuff" (that's their logo I swear) store. The head office for this store is in Toronto so every so often they will get in a sari or two, bangles, bindis, jewelery etc. I even once found a peice of kameez material with an embrodered neckline. Well on Tuesday I went in no saris :( but I got two sets of glass bangles one set was .99 cents the other was $1.49, also got a Tibetian necklace with real turqiose stones for $5. I think the best find I've ever had there was an art silk sari with lots of gold buttis, heavily worked pallu and fringe for I think I paid $10.00 if that probably less. Then again I also got a Japanese sari for .99 cents and it folds up to be the size of a deck of cards. So it really pays off to look at second hand stores.
Oh yeah learnt today best thing for getting glass bangles on and off..body butter. I usually have a habit of breaking mine too but with the body butter it's so easy, I think I'll buy more glass bangles now that I've learnt the trick to them :)

Tabby and Maggie- We've all been through the "you must be crazy routine with doctors. And my collection of diseases is proveable with lab tests. Nobody thought to order the right ones until 3 years ago. Now they all take me very seriously except ER Drs, who say nobody could have all those diagnosis at one time. What really bugs me is they don't call the number on my Medic Alert bracelet, or make much effort to get in touch with a doctor who's familiar with me because they are so sure I'm nuts. Once, the guy in the ER accidentally saved my life. I'd been having severe muscle spasms, and eventually started having trouble breathing. He'd decided that I was hyperventilating because of anxiety, and gave me IV Valium. My pulmonologist said that actually the muscle spasms had spread to my diapgram, and the Valium stopped them and let me breathe normally. That convinced the ER guy that I was a mental case.

Still haven't heard anything from Utsav Sarees. I'm emailing every contact address they have and asking for a refund. This has been ridiculous. I don't care how much I like their inventory, its just too much of a pain to order from them. And Tabby, you're right about the photos. I'm not very likely to comfirm a purchase without knowing what i'm buying.

Finally figured out how to sew really nice salwar. Takes twice as much fabric as Arabella's, but they look really nice. The trick is to fold the fabric in quarters, then measure off the length of your salwar minus 5", plus 1 1/2" for the cuff facing on the fold. The width is the width of the fabric. Measure down the selvage side 7-9 inches, depending on your waist to chair measurement. I have a long torso, so I need at least 9". Then draw an angle from the bottom of the salwar on the fold to the bottom of the measurement on the selvage. Make sure that you draw the reverse angle for the cuff facing! That gives you the legs. For the yoke, cut a piece the width of your hips plus 5" and 8 1/2 inches deep. Go ahead and piece if you have to. Use heavy interfacing for the cuff, about 1" deep; when you hem them do some rows of decorative stitching through all layers of fabric. When you atatch the leg pieces to the yoke you can either gather or pleat them. Look at a pair you already own for the spacing of the gathers or pleats. I made a buttonhole where the string or elastic goes in. I hope this is understandable. I made a very nice pair today this way. There was a half off sale at my fabric store, and I got some very nice fabrics. I'm going to be sewing for a week! I was thinking of using the patterned fabric for the salwar for one suit- I had bought all that was left on the bolt, but it wasn't enough for the length of the kurta I was thinking of. If you use a plain fabric for the kurta, you not only can use scraps from the salwar for trim, but you can do some simple machine embroidery around the neckline, too. I bought a suit that has an inset in the V neck that has simple diamond shapes sewn on it, and a sequin and bead inside each diamond shape. It also has ribbon trim around the whole neckline. Very simple to do, and it looks great. I think I'm going to copy the idea on the next suit I do.

Glass bangles go on with liquid soap, too. Anything to make your hand slippery. I prefer the soap method because its easier to rinse off. The only time I've ever broken any was when I tried to put them on with soap or lotion.

I definitely turn on the faucet, use a ton of soap, and put my glass bangles on VERRRRRRY slowly! I still break them sometimes, though. They are saved only for very special occasions (a couple times I got out all my red, green, and gold ones and wore them for Christmas Eve at church)

Last summer I was in Chicago and made a trip to Devon Ave. I bought...was it three sets of bangles? All were too big! It was a hot day, so my hands were swollen up and it was hard to tell the sizes...at one store, I picked out one set and then asked the lady the size of another and she told me they were the same size. Were not! The second set were at least a 2.8 (the first seem to be a 2.6). At the second store, I think I asked outright for a 2.4 and still got some that were too big.

Anne you're a genius! I hadn't even thought of the V neck on the plain with an insert of the patterned DUH!@ me lol Haven't gotten to sewing anything yet my back for some reason has been giving me hell but I might have a go at it in awhile. Anne I so could not visualise what you were saying lmao but that's ok as long as it works out for you. The ankles sound like what I do, as does how you're going to do the gathers. I won't even try to explain how I do mine then again I cheated partly by buying the pattern and then just fixed the pattern to work for me.

I didn't mind using the body butter with the bangles just because my skin has been really dry and it smells like melons hehehe. I got a couple more pairs of bangles up at the same store tonight not glass but still really nice. I am lucky with bangles my hands are very bendy (if that is a word) so I can usually get into small bangles if need be. I usually take a 2.8 but I have a pair that I would swear is a 2.4 and I can still get them on...off is abit more work. I learnt real fast you can't be in a hurry to put on or take off glass bangles although I think there is probably a reason and lesson in it, to slow down take your time and enjoy dressing and decorating yourself (for Hindus we're literally dressing the Goddess when we get dressed).

Yeah Anne I know doctors can be such jerks sometimes. It's like they don't believe we can remember all that's wrong with us and that we could ever be as sick as we say we are. I can't stand doctors sometimes their additudes remind me of certian people from the military (and I have some in my family) they know more then us. It's just annoying, meanwhile we've probably done as much if not more research then they have in their medical schooling. Bunch of jerks!lol

SHAME ON YOU....for using the expression "THIRD WORLD"!!!!
Be progressive and considerate....use DEVELOPING NATION....
You probably voted for BUSH!!!

Ginger- the person who used the phrase "third world" is the CEO of a clothing company that makes salwar kameez. He has posted two diatribes about the people on this blog for no apparent reason- the only post referring to his company before his rants was positive. He lives in Europe, so he I don't think he voted for Bush, but his arrogant and elitist attitude makes me think he would if he could! Next time, make it clear you aren't referring to the rest of us, who have a great deal of respect for the people living in developing nations. By the way, not everybody posting on this blog is from the US!

The vibe I've gotten from a lot of doctors is that they are not interested in helping people; it's like a prestige or money thing with them. But there are some decent ones out there - hiding. :) I have major surgery scheduled for this fall and my surgeon is wonderful. Not arrogant, always willing to answer questions, doesn't assume things.

Anne - I know exactly what you're talking about with a plain kameez with print sleeves and v-neck. I'm a beginning sewer and actually have a kurta pattern exactly like that. Very cute! :)

Tabby- I talked to Suma the other day, and she said the latest in India is plain kameez and patterned salwar. I bought some beautiful green cotton- perfect for summer here. I have enough for both salwar and kameez from it. I also bought a coordinating print; I'm deciding if I want to make salwar or kameez out of it to alternate with the plain. I could also use scraps to put patch work like the v-neck option on the green kameez, or leave it plain with an interesting neckline. Decisions, decisions! I'm leaning toward making salwar out of it. It's a floral with red and grey-blue with green leaves and a cream background. If I make salwar out of it I could use my red or cream dupatta with it. Any suggestions?

As for doctors, I have 5 specialists working as a team, and they are all great. They really care, and call me at home if they are worried. They spend extra time explaining everything to me. That's why the ER guy was such a shock. I'm not used to not being believed. And you'd think that just to cover his rear, he'd want to talk to anyone familiar with my case because it is so complicated. Go figure.

I've finally had it with Utsav Sarees. Today I gave them my alternate choices or the option of a refund. I asked for a confirmation email, and said I would report them to PayPal if I didn't hear back. And I will, if I don't hear in 2 days. I really dislike this kind of thing. I'm a pretty laid back person, and threats just aren't my style. It makes me mad that I have to resort to them to get a response. We'll see if this works.

Hey Anne, sorry to hear about Utsav. I know how you feel about not usually resorting to threats and such I ended up having to do that with echarming. Last time I didn't get any response to my e-mails was from eshakti and then I got my order with no word from them. I mean I know it takes time to make things but geez to let you know where you stand with an order is the least they can do, Suma goes beyond the call of duty.

Yeah Suma is where I heard about the coloured/plain salwar thing. It's certianly not the kind of info that is easy to get so Suma definately helps in that area.

Tabby I know what you mean about them being out there, my husband's surgeon is great about answering questions and such. I've had one or two good doctors but like you Anne I've found ER docs aren't the nicest people on the planet. Before I was diagnosed with the FM my parents took me to the kids hospital and this ER doc poked around making me even more sore (tender points) then says "Well it's nothing that's going to kill you in the next 24hrs go home" he wasn't even going to give me something for the pain until my mum made the point of asking. I mean come on! It took at least 6 trips to the ER to be diagnosed with asthma and it was the same hospital as the "not gonna kill ya" thing too.

Well I got another two pair of bangles from the same shop thought they were both metal until I tried putting the one pair on in a hurry yesterday LOL. No cuts luckily and I only broke one but it was abit of a surprise. Still haven't ordered that suit or sari from Kharidari.com that'll probably be this week and probably my last order for awhile I seem to have a very good supply of clothing. Although I am sure you all can understand the "urge to splurge" when it comes to some of these salwar kameez and saris ;)

Oh and Anne I second what you said to Ginger lol pretty much exactly what I was thinking. Great minds and all.

Amazing!! I got a response and apology from Utsav Sarees in my mail this morning. They said they would process the order as soon as possible as well. Lets see! I ordered two very nice salwar kameez and a sari.

I'm wearing a suit with plain top and patterned salwar today. I have three like that. I had no idea I was so fashionable. They all have just the tiniest bit of trim from the salwar on the tops. One of them is one of my favorites.

Anne - Glad to hear Utsav Sarees finally got back to you! I had e-mailed them last week with a question, so hopefully they'll get back to me soon.

Maggie - If you do order the suit from Kharidari, let me know what you think. :)

I think I'll be ordering from S2 soon. I've been looking for some nice, casual cotton suits for awhile, so I was happy to find a site with such a good rep.

I finally got to wear my churidar salwar from S2 today. I was starting to think I was never going to get to. Only little problem was I tried breaking in shoes in the outfit (mind you it's white churidar) instead the shoes broke my feet in so the ankles are just slightly stained with blood :( it's not bad enough to notice I don't think. It is such a comfortable suit I couldn't believe it the cotton is just wonderful! I am just counting down the days until my next order arrives from S2.

That's great Anne, so glad that Utsav got back to you but it's a real shame when you have to threaten them before they'll do anything. As I said the exact same thing happened with echarming and just like you I finally got something done after threatening them. It's a real shame there are companies out there like that. :(

I'll definately let you know how it turns out Tabby. I've tried talking myself out of ordering it a couple of times worrying about buying too much etc. but that purple/blue suit is just too beautiful and being all cotton it's even better. I had one awesome cotton suit back a couple years ago even though it was ready made it was my favourite just because it was cotton and so comfortable in the summer heat but it doesn't fit anymore (damn this hips of mine lol) so I am looking forward to having another one. I have a cotton suit to sew but it has mirror work and such so it's abit dresser.

Hey Anne,
I just took a good look around utsav.ca and found some great saris and a suit or two, I was wondering would you suggest someone ordering from them since your experances with them? Their kota doria collection is the largest I've found and the most reasonably priced I've found too. Since I know you've had business with them I thought I would ask before placing an order :) Thanks alot!

Maggie- that's why I keep ordering from them even though they are a pain. They have great selection, something for everyone, and at just about any price. Just be prepared for delays, last minute "minor changes in pattern or color" and varied fit. In the same order I've gotten things that fit perfectly, too big and too small. I think every tailor there has his or her own system for interpreting measurements. I've started adding extra measurements in the further instructions box, and have gotten better results that way. Things like the armhole measurement, and around neck (the prednisone made my neck swell), and high shoulder point to waist. If you aren't perfectly to their formula, add extra measurements for your individual shape. Be very specific in your instructions if you are buying cloth and not something already styled. Otherwise, you will get something very plain. If they say there are minor changes in pattern or color, ask for a photo. I find that my definition of minor is different than theirs. I've always opted to choose something else. If you do that, email every day until you get a response. After all my griping about them, some of my favorites are from Utsav Sarees. Just be glad you know how to sew, in case you have a size problem.

Me again :) Alright I put in my order with Kharidari their measurement page is abit of a head scratcher, I've never had to measure an outfit I already own to give another company the measurements so I added in some of my body measurements just incase (thanks to Anne's idea :). Then I went to Utsav picked out a kota doria went to the checkout and they want to charge me more for shipping then the sari w/choli was going to cost so I cancelled that order for now. I just think $26.00 shipping is crazy on a $16.00 sari. I am going to do some looking around and see what I come up with if I find any good sites I'll keep you updated.

Maggie- Utsav says they charge what shipping actually costs. When you add a second item, the shipping goes down in proportion, because it is X amount for the first so many ounces, which is more than a sari weighs, and then less for the next weight unit. So if you get 2 saris, the shipping per sari is a lot less. Or if you get a sari and one of the salwar kameez you've been admiring. I often experiment with the things in my wish list- add them to my cart and go all the way to the step before checkout where they give you your final total, and decide what i'm getting according to shipping cost.

Hey Anne & Maggie-

Just got back from a doc appt. I've applied for gov't disability (I'm in the US) and the gov't decided I need to see 2 doctors. Saw the neurologist who said "I don't know if Fibromyalgia is the right word, but you've got something brewing in you". He was all concerned about my purple fingers (Reynaud's) and my flushed face (fibromyalgia).

What I've noticed about some Indian salwar kameez and saree manufacturers is they'll ask for measurements of a salwar you already own. I've heard that some times you get better results giving garment measurements rather than body measurements, but this can be difficult to do if you've gained or lost weight. Someone told me that Utsav Sarees does better with garment measurements, but still their tailoring isn't very consistent (like Anne said).

I've seen the first so many grams is X dollars and each additional amount of grams is whatever amount too. It would seem to me that they're adding a surcharge for supplies and time, even though they're saying they're charging only for costs.

I e-mailed Utsav a week ago today. Still waiting for a reply. :)

Tabby- be sure that when you get turned down for disability, you appeal. The policy is to turn everyone down the first time they apply. You are much more likely to get it on appeal. Hang in there, and good luck! I'm glad you got a doctor who seems to care and believe in fibromyalgia both. He's a treasure.

I agree that Utsav's shipping costs must be part profit. They are at least as high as the shipping on the $1.99 suits on e-bay.

Hi Anne - This guy I saw today was actually picked by social security for me to see. I thought he was going to be really difficult, you know, the type that tries to get you to admit that you're really just lazy and don't want to work. But he was really easy. :)

My actual doctor is another story. I had to see her today for a non-FM issue and she doesn't believe I can't work at all. She told me to get a job working from my home (nevermind I spend a good portion of the day lying down and the only work-at-home things I found were scams). I'm just happy I go to a clinic that specializes only in FM and are wonderful and don't have to deal with my actual doctor for FM-related care.

And yep, I've got an attorney for my disability stuff. :) So we're definitely in it for the long haul with this.

The higher shipping rates have to be something: surcharges for shipping supplies, PayPal/credit card middle man fees, etc. My one suit was only $14-something for India to US via DHL.

Hey Guys,
Tabby I wish you so much luck and send you all the extra strength I can spare. In January I finally got accepted by the government disability (I know it's Canada but your disabilty sounds alot like ours) it took me 2 & 1/2yrs to finally get it and like you I had to get a lawyer involved. It was a definately struggle and very stressful, now my husband is applying and I can just imagine what that's going to be like. At least with him and unlike us with FM there are actual tests and X-rays etc to prove his condition. However we got the papers back from the surgeon today and he says it's only going to last for a year or less...my husband hasn't been able to work in four years! Some doctors are so dippy my god makes you wonder what they are getting paid $150.00 for when they fill out those papers (luckily paid by the government). I never realised the flushed face was part of the FM I just thought I was frighteningly pale LOL.

Well I ordered with Utsav one kota doria and one that was on "today's specials" it's beautiful and I had to have it LOL. I spent more then I wanted to but I've never seen anything like the second sari it's black but the bottom two feet or so is red and the pallu is yellow and the whole thing has a printed pattern that looks like lace (the sexy kind of lace not the Grandma kind LOL). I had the blouse stitched with the second sari too it seems too fancy to wear just a plain black choli with. And I have to agree the shipping does go down the more you order but it still seems pretty high $42.00 for two saris and one choli but I couldn't have found the black sari and possibly not the kota doria in Toronto so what the heck. I decided on only one kota doria because they have to be starched and ironed and as I know you guys understand that on alot of days that can just be too much work. I'd get the iron plugged in and that would be my entire day LOL.

Oh and here's something strange remember Multifab on e-bay? The automatic sari thing? Well I just got two e-mails from them they've been kicked off of e-bay and paypal because of bad feedback (they claim it was mine that broke the camels back I read the feedback...it wasn't just me 9 in the last month alone not counting mine). So they asked me to follow up my feedback on AOL so they can get their accounts back and give me my partial refund thing is...I already got back $25.00 but I have to admit that wouldn't have been enough to get the sari, choli and petticoat altered and it's certianly wasn't enough on a $150.00 order either. With any luck I'll get abit more back I'll keep you updated...weird though eh?

Hey Maggie,
It's really unfortunate that the gov't makes it so difficult to get disability payments. I understand there are people who lie and cheat and that they're trying to screen those folks out. On the other hand, if you're truly disabled, the forms and the visits and everything else can be way too much. So it seems to me they are forcing out the truly disabled while the cheaters probably stick around (because they have the energy to jump through the hoops).

Heehee - I'm really pale too. But since I've had fibro, I flush horribly. I looks like I'm drunk or embarrassed and it takes awhile for it to calm down. When I asked at my fibro clinic, they said it's caused by an unstable central nervous system, which is basically the cause of fibromyalgia. But docs who aren't very familiar with fibro think it's lupus (nope) or rosacea (nope).

This is just my take on the Multifab thing, but something isn't right here. They get kicked off of eBay and PayPal and they want you (and probably others) to follow up on AOL so they can get their accounts back. They must be extremely naive because eBay, at least, usually won't give people their accounts back. Even if eBay screwed up and knows it, they won't re-open the accounts. I guess I would bug them to give me the money back first, then I'll follow up on feedback.

I had something like this happen last year where I filed a complaint first with PayPal, then with my credit card company (PayPal wouldn't do anything for me). When I filed with my credit card, the seller's account was temporarily suspended. He contacted me, wanted me to close the dispute and then he'd give me all my money back. I told him he needed to give me a full refund and then I'd close the dispute. He said he would, but never did. I did get my money back through my credit card company, but then had massive problems with PayPal (do not trust those folks EVER).

So, if you withhold the follow up feedback, you have quite a bit of leverage. But that's just my opinion. :)

This was a horrible week to order stuff! I just got an e-mail from Utsav just as you predicted Anne the one sari (kota doria one) is available but with a slight alteration, so as you suggested I asked for a picture and I am waiting on their reply. Then I got an e-mail from Kharidari saying that the suit I so dearly love is out of stock and that all their cotton suits are so they'll have to send me a link to their new stock in 2-3 days :( and I really wanted that suit too. I'll let you know what happens in both cases.

Yeah the multifab thing is really strange and I have to wonder how much of what they said is the truth. However the one part that makes sense is that they can't give me my money back until they get their paypal account back because I went through paypal instead of giving them my credit card info. It's funny the complaints on the other feedback for them is all about the same problem I had which was they didn't make any of my order the right size, even people who left positive feedback said they had to fix the sizes on their order. If I hear anything else from them I'll relay it to you guys, don't want anyone on here to have to go through something like this.

Hi Maggie,

That is a bad week! I can't stand internet shops that leave out-of-stock merchandise up on their sites.

I checked Multifab's feedback yesterday on eBay, just to see what had happened. It looked like the last 10 negs were from one person in the US. But you're right: I saw a lot of positives that said the suit or saree was the wrong size, but they could fix it.

I'm not so sure Multifab will ever get their PayPal account opened again. PayPal seems to love to lock accounts for as long as they can. If they've permanently lost their account, PayPal won't open it again.

As far as the suit on Kharidari, Utsav has it - if you want to deal with them again. :) Otherwise, I wonder if S2 could make it or something very similar for you?

My s2 order arrived today! I put pictures of the two suits on Flickr -- here and here. The green suit is the one that is green with pale yellow pants and dupatta on the S2 site; I told Suma I wanted a dark color (because, hey, pale yellow on my calves is not the best thing ever, although I do love that color), and she chose maroon -- it is lovely!

It's kind of weird I got two sort of muted color suits, because I love bright colors! Next time I will get a pink kameez, I think.

The service was good and the fit is just fine, so I will definitely order from S2 again sometime.

Hey Tabby,
Yeah it's pretty annoying when they leave stuff up, but from what they said they got my order and then just after found out everything was out of stock. I'll take them at their word but it's still annoying. They said they'll send me the link so I can pick something else out instead of putting in a whole new order, being kinda positive that I'll want to order from them again lol, I'll give the new stock a look and with any luck they'll have the same suit. I know that some of the suits eshakti has posted for this year are the same ones they had last year complete with the same pictures. Thank you so much for finding that suit at Utsav for me Tabby that was very nice of you *hugs* I am just finding staying at the computer too long is causing some severe eye pain so I haven't been able to track it down myself. Hopefully when I get the glasses back that I picked out today I won't have that problem anymore. I may go with Utsav for that suit but you also had a really good idea about S2 as well we'll see what the new stock brings. My luck if I ordered that suit from Utsav it would only be available with "slight alterations" LMAO. ;)

I got an e-mail from Utsav saying they couldn't send me a picture of the alteration in the kota doria sari I ordered but they stressed it was minor so I am taking a leap of faith and taking them on their word and just hope it's not going to be some hideous shade of baby diaper green LOL.

I am not too worried about Multifab I did get some money back from them perhaps not as much as I'd like but it's better then nothing. Although you'd think if they were that worried about giving people their money back they'd at least ask for people's information in an e-mail and send it that way (don't know how many would go for it but it would show and effort on their part). With all the feedback both negitive and positive complaining about things not fitting on e-bay that'd be enough for me to close their account if I were e-bay too. When you send that much money and send measurements you kind expect stuff to fit.

Hey litlnemo,
I am so happy you like your order from S2. Suma told me they are getting really busy with tons of orders coming in, I couldn't be happier for them they really deserve it. Your suits look beautiful on you. Suma is a wiz at colour and design. S2 is by far my favourite place to shop. Suma is more like a friend to me now then just someone I shop with which I think adds more comfort to the whole shopping experance. My order from S2 is supposed to be sent May 4th so once they come in I'll get some pics, I have a flickr account now just no pictures of my salwar kameez LOL I am just going to have to make it a whole day experance taking pictures of them all and getting them uploaded on there. I just had to add another petticoat to my order with S2 too to go with the black sari I bought from Utsav and they are so wonderful that they're going to have it done in time to come with the rest of my order.

Anne,
I was wondering (and I am not sure if you mentioned it before so just stick with me on this lol) how is Utsav's shipping? Has it been fairly quick for you? I need that black sari by the 24th of May so I am crossing my fingers that you say the shipping is good lmao.

Speaking of Utsav shipping, I tried something yesterday. I randomly picked a salwar kameez on their site and checked shipping for both the US and Canada. Shipping to US was $17 and some cents, but to Canada it was $30 and some cents. That's so weird, considering these are countries that border each other.

Maggie - Yeah, instead of the suit being blue, purple, and golden yellow with bandhej print, it'd be black and halloween orange with flowers. Haha - just kidding. I hope the sari you ordered truly only has a slight variation too. I'll track down the item number of the bandhej suit at Utsav for you and post it. Finding stuff on their site can be pretty difficult.

litlnemo - Thank you so much for posting your pics! I'm planning on ordering from S2 soon, so it was nice to see pics of the work they did for someone. Both suits look beautiful on you. :)

I'm already impressed with S2. I e-mailed yesterday, late afternoon, and woke up this morning to a reply from Suma. :) I've decided I want a lime green kameez and white churidar, so I just need to pick out which suit I want mine modeled after. (And then somehow corral my busy husband into doing my measurements!)

LOL Tabby,
Your poor husband is going to feel like mine ;). I always get him to do my measurements I have them written down but so many different sites want different measurements sometimes there are just ones I don't have, plus every few months you have to do them over again incase you lose or gain weight. I was shocked last time I did mine I had lost alittle bit.

Utsav's shipping is strange the prices of the clothes seem to be similar for the US and Canada but the shipping wow they must be making a fair bit there. Thank you so much for posting the item number for me I tried looking for it last night and after 43 pages I still didn't find it...OMG can you imagine if it's only available in the US LMFAO.

I sent off the picture of the sari to Suma and let them decide what colour petticoat would be best I got my answer and the invoice for it today. Suma is really good at keeping up with her mail. It's funny when I first put in the order for the petticoats I had thought about getting a black one but then I thought "na I only have one black sari and I can get away with any dark colour under it" and wouldn't you know it I would get this new one. I wouldn't have worried so much about the colour of the petticoat except that some parts of the sari the black is so light you'd definately be able to tell any colour difference. Got a shawl and new purse to go with that sari yesterday so it better be here in time lol.

Tabby-that's the spirit! I wanted a peacock blue and yellow one for spring, and got that. It is so fun to wear.

Maggie- Once Utsav gets around to finally shipping, they are pretty quick. Its the getting around to it that takes so long. They may send it tomorrow, or a month from now. I got one order in about 10 days and Ive been waiting for the current one since the first week of March. I wish i could give you better news but thats how it is.

Good night, more tomorrow -Anne Bremser

Hey Maggie - Your and my favorite salwar suit is sold out! :( There was another bandhej print that was on my wish list and that's gone too.

I'd actually have my mom do the measurements, but she's really busy. She retired about 5 years ago, but got another job working as an on-call occupational therapist. At this point, she's busier than she was working full-time. So my husband gets to figure it out. :)

Anne - I just figured out recently that I can wear more colors than I thought, including lime, some reds, and some pinks. So why be boring, right? I was also inspired by Maggie's post about her blue and orange suit. Plus, I'll now have a churidar to wear with messed up kameez (the churidar is long gone on this one).

So S2 does sarees and petticoats too? I'd love to try a saree, but I am too tall (it wouldn't go floor length on me).

Hey Tabby,
It's sold out? LMAO I must be a curse. I guess it was everyone's favourite suit. If you ask Suma about sari's and petticoats they'll do them. Suma was telling me that they will eventually be putting the saris on the site. You're too tall for a sari? Wow you must be tall, I find if I wear my sari too high then it's not long enough but I find wearing it just above my belly button seems alright. I don't usually wear mine floor length just to the tops of my feet, and then I still step on it once in awhile lol. I found that the automatic sari was pretty long so you might want to look into that as an option. I am so glad you're getting into colours, I can't say enough about colour. Even if you feel like crap, put on some colour and it fools people into thinking you're fine ;) I wore my red bandhej sari out today got attention (probably not good attention I look too "ethnic" for this city in my duller saris let alone this one. But no flying hamburgers today do that's got to be chalked up to a good day) and of course got my least favourite question "What are you?" I just hate that question it's so rude. If someone was to ask "Hey are you Indian?" or "Ethnically speaking what are you?" that would be a different story but no it had to be "What are you?" so I said "Canadian". lmao Sorry for that little rant.

Oh gosh Anne! They better have that sari to me before the end of May or I am not going to be very happy with them I mean two sari's and one sari blouse shouldn't take them that long. I'll be ragging on them if it takes too long I had to wait all that time with echarming I am not going through that again.

Still no word yet from Kharidari I am pretty close to just getting them to cancel my order and I'll give them another shot some other time.

Follow-up on my S2 order for those who are interested:

The construction of both outfits is good. Seam allowances are sewn finished or serged. The fit is perfect, including the ease at the hips which is often a bit tight on ready-made kameez. (My eShakti outfit, with the same measurements, flares a bit oddly at the hips, but that may be because of the fabric.)

The churidars don't quite look right, but the fault doesn't appear to be S2's, as they are the correct size as requested. It seems that perhaps I just don't look right in churidar-style pants, as I have big muscular calves and ankles to go with my wide feet. (I blame the figure skating.) So now that I know that style doesn't suit me, I will get something different for next time.

Some nice details: the dark blue kameez has a lovely embroidered pattern of swirls, and it is in variegated thread (which can't be seen well on the website). It looks very nice. Also, the floral pattern on the green kameez is yellow flowers and green leaves, with yellow dupatta and churidar -- on the website. Mine has maroon instead of yellow, and the flowers on mine are maroon and green to match. That was a nice detail I didn't catch at first -- that the flowers changed to match my dupatta and churidar.

Shipping from India to Seattle took only 3 days. It did take nearly a month total from the day I ordered until the suits arrived.

I might order a kurta or two next. I have one coming from eShakti as well (well, one of their cotton voile shirts, not really a kurta), and there is definitely a difference from S2 -- I got an e-mail confirmation of my order, but haven't heard a word since. I hope that shirt comes soon.

Litlnemo - the cotton voile tops on eShakti are really cute. I've been just a bit nervous to order from them because they don't ask for measurements on some things. Like, for upper arm size, the options are small, average, or large (or something along those lines). I'm worried whatever I bought wouldn't turn out well.

Maggie - It's me, it's me - that's why your suit sold out!;) I have a hard time making decisions, so once I decide I really want it, it's gone. I looked at the other bandhej print suits they have, but to me, they weren't really bandhej print.

Yep, I am tall - 5'11". I had talked to the owner, Mel, at Pardesi Fashions. She said sarees will generally fit up to a 5'10" woman and I can't remember what the plus size was. She has some women who are over 6' and they sew an extra piece of fabric on one end to make it longer (wider? taller?), but then you sort of need to camoflauge that addition. She's working on getting sarees made from wider (I think?) fabric that will fit most tall and most plus-sized women.

So you've had a lot of problems with wearing ethnic clothing in public? To be honest, I haven't had the guts to wear a salwar kameez when we go out for Indian food, but I've worn it out in public in general. I've had stares, but I usually get stares for being tall (I wear heels), for having pale skin in the middle of summer (I've had nasty remarks from both white and