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March 23, 2009

Doubling barrels for 30 years
Posted by Abi Sutherland at 06:19 AM * 98 comments

On March 23, 1979, Patrick Hayden married Teresa Nielsen.

28 days later, American political history got markedly weirder when Jimmy Carter was attacked by a vorpal bunny.

Coincidence? You be the judge.

Congratulations, Patrick and Teresa. May there be many more happy anniversaries to come.

Comments on Doubling barrels for 30 years:
#1 ::: Daniel Klein ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:36 AM:

And I just had my five year anniversary with my girlfriend yesterday and it felt like a LOT.

As for the mystery at hand, my interpretation is that one of the two was a vigilante sworn to fight vorpal bunnies, and we all know that marriage is the kryptonite of vigilantism. Mary Jane is the ACTUAL villain in Spider Man, right?

At any rate, it turned out vorpal bunnies were much less lethal than science had previously anticipated, meaning that the Nielsen Hayden's time is indeed much better spent being married than hunting long eared fell beasts. Yet still, from time to time the former vigilante may open the secret closet and look nostalgically upon the costume and the Holy Hand Grenade of Antioch (including unnecessarily long-winded User's Manual).

Congratulations!

#2 ::: Cory Doctorow ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:56 AM:

Congrats, guys -- and many, many, many returns of the day.

#3 ::: JDC ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:05 AM:

How excellent! Of course, Jimmy later gained vengence on the rabbit following the Pepsi Syndrome.

#4 ::: Bruce Baugh ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:11 AM:

Very much congratulations!

#5 ::: Fragano Ledgister ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:46 AM:

Congratulations to the Nielsen Haydens. Thirty years is a good long time to stay married. May they have at least as many more together.

#6 ::: KristianB ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:48 AM:

Congratulations :)

#7 ::: ADM ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:53 AM:

Congratulations! This is an anniversary for me, too -- or would have been. A good day, clearly :-)

#8 ::: albatross ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:34 AM:

Congratulations!

#9 ::: Mark D. ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:50 AM:

HIPY PAPY ANNTHUTHDTH THUTDHA ANNTHUTHDY

#10 ::: Paula Lieberman ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:59 AM:

First, (and note that "first"....]

Happy anniversary to Patrick and Teresa, and many more as others have been noting.

Second,

# 1 Daniel

Pedant mode

The "anni" in "anniversary explicitly translates to "year." It had the same root structure as "annual" meaning "yearly."

It's FIFTH anniversary, FIRST anniversay, SECOND anniversary, THIRD anniversay, FOURTH, FIFTH, SIXT, not that abominable offending aliterate asshole media "[number] year anniversary."

Grrrr!

What the fuck ever happened to adjectives and verbals?! (I despise the terminology "good reads" instead of "good reading," also....)

#11 ::: John Chu ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:59 AM:

Congratulations! Happy 30th anniversary.

#12 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:08 AM:

Joyeux anniversaire de mariage!
Meanwhile, at Le Lapin Agile...

#13 ::: Doug ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:17 AM:

Congratulations!

#14 ::: Magenta Griffith ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:44 AM:

Happy anniversary! You've got a winning streak going there, wow.

#15 ::: tykewriter ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:46 AM:

Congratulations indeed, and many of 'em!

Didn't an American Prez have a sign on his desk reading "The Buck Stops Here"?

D'oh!

#16 ::: Kip W ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:48 AM:

Congratulations! You can splurge on monogrammed stuff now and let your books run together.

#17 ::: Alex Cohen ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:58 AM:

Mazel tov!

#18 ::: Caroline ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:02 AM:

Happy ann-i-ver-sar-y
Happy ann-i-ver-sar-y
Happy ann-i-ver-sar-y
Hap-py anniversary! (approximately to the tune of the William Tell Overture)

(Mark D. @ 9, I make that joke at many birthdays and everyone looks at me like I'm crazy. I'm so very comforted to know that someone else gets it.)

#19 ::: KeithS ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:30 AM:

Congratulations to the two of you, and may you have many more.

#20 ::: Marilee ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:38 AM:

Congratulations! Thirty years! They're saying I'm coming home tomorrow, but we'll see. I hope your trip is going well.

I'm only posting here because I don't want to put any passwords on this computer. I'll type more when I get home.

#21 ::: The Modesto Kid ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:45 AM:

Happy Anniversary, and congratulations, Patrick and Teresa!

#22 ::: Mary Aileen ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:51 AM:

Happy Anniversary, Patrick and Teresa!

Good to see you, Marilee!

#23 ::: John Farrell ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:00 AM:

Best wishes for your 30th!

#24 ::: Zak ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:25 AM:

Wooo hoo! Happy anniversary!

#25 ::: Raphael ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:28 AM:

Merry Anniversary!

#26 ::: Madeleine Robins ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:35 AM:

Happy and joyful anniversary, and may you see the 40th, the 50th, the 60th...

#27 ::: Daniel Klein ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:53 AM:

Paula @#10:

As for the aliterate asshole media expression I used, apologies! Half of the fun of posting here is being corrected--I remember being called out on using factoid synonymously with fact before.

Not an excuse as much as an explanation: English was the third foreign language I learned (after Latin and French) due to my high school being a really odd catholic private school. I was 16 when I had my first English lesson in school, and by that time I was already fluent in a very interestingly broken way. The way I achieved this was mostly by immersing myself in as much English as I could get my hands on, and back then that meant mostly watching CNN several hours a day as it was the only English channel available to me.

So yes, that was a very good call from Paula. Both of the things I've been called out for seem to come from the same source--mindless media speak. So much for trusting professionals to treat their language with respect.

Learning is awesome, even if you feel like a moron in the process :D

/off topic

#28 ::: eric ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:53 AM:

Congratulations!!

My wife and I just past 6 years a couple of days ago. I can hardly imagine 30 years.

#29 ::: Christine ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:57 AM:

Happy anniversary!

#30 ::: Christopher Kastensmidt ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 12:07 PM:

Congrats on the big three-oh, Patrick and Teresa! That is a major achievement!

#31 ::: Harry Connolly ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 12:21 PM:

Happy Anniversary! May you enjoy many more.

#32 ::: Pendrift ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 12:52 PM:

Thirty years! Congratulations!

#33 ::: Leslie in CA ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:02 PM:

Happy anniversary! Congratulations, and many happy returns.

#34 ::: Lizzy L ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:06 PM:

Mazel tov! Happy anniversary and may there be many more such -- as time goes by.

"The fundamental things of life..." *exits, singing, not pursued by a bear*

#35 ::: dcb ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:13 PM:

Happy Anniversary and congratulations; may you many more happy years together.

An example to us all (3.5 years so far - give us time!)

#36 ::: Lois Fundis ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:19 PM:

Happy anniversary!

#37 ::: Velma ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:26 PM:

Happy anniversary!

#38 ::: ers ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 01:35 PM:

Mazel tov! You are in danger of giving marriage a good name.

#39 ::: Clifton Royston ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 02:09 PM:

Happy anniversary! About to celebrate our 9th this week. We have much to look forward to.

#41 ::: joann ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 02:51 PM:

Happy 30th indeed! We're due for our 28th in less than two weeks ...

#42 ::: Kelly McCullough ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 02:54 PM:

Happy Anniversary! May you have many more.

#43 ::: Soon Lee ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 02:59 PM:

Congratulations Patrick & Teresa!

And Marilee, it's good to read your posts again.

#44 ::: Eimear Ní Mhéalóid ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 03:08 PM:

Congratulations, and wishing you very many more years together.

#45 ::: Rob Hansen ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 03:09 PM:

Happy anniversary! We hit 25 next year so 30 doesn't seem so distant anymore.

#46 ::: Linkmeister ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 03:22 PM:

Anniversary greetings from the tropical twig on the tree!

#47 ::: Charlie Stross ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 03:48 PM:

Congratulations from Edinburgh!

#48 ::: LLA ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 04:30 PM:

A belated happy birthday to our hostess, and a hearty congratulations to both of our hosts for 30 years of committed love.

Officially, 30 years of marriage gives you the right to offer authoritative advice on the subject. Unofficially, as a (mostly) lurker here for several years, I think you (in the plural) have provided a wonderful example of the power of a committed marriage -- which is much better than mere advice!

#49 ::: Nancy C. Mittens ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 04:45 PM:

Happy anniversary, and many more!

#50 ::: Julia Jones ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 04:48 PM:

Happy anniversary. :-)

#51 ::: abi ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:06 PM:

LLA @48:
Officially, 30 years of marriage gives you the right to offer authoritative advice on the subject.

Over dinner, we were discussing how to stay married for 15 years (Martin and me) or 30 years. The distilled wisdom:

1. Get married
2. Don't get:
    a. divorced
    b. dead

#52 ::: Patrick Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:08 PM:

Jeez, you all. Thank you so much.

#53 ::: Harry Payne ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:13 PM:

Wow! Many Dancing Rodents...

#54 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:15 PM:

Abi @ 51...

3. be able to laugh at or be amused by the same things.

#55 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:16 PM:

Abi @ 51...

4. Be able to put water in your wine.

#56 ::: Auke ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 05:43 PM:

Congratulations! On to the next 30!

#57 ::: Bill Higgins-- Beam Jockey ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:05 PM:

May we all continue to be illuminated by the light you make!

#58 ::: Terry Karney ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:18 PM:

Mazel Tov: May we all have at least so many.

#59 ::: Geri Sullivan ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:29 PM:

Huzzah!

Here's to good and lasting marriages, and to vorpal bunny weirdness in politics, too.

Congratulations, P&T. May continued love and joy together be yours.

#60 ::: Michael I ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:54 PM:

Happy anniversary!

#61 ::: Melissa Mead ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 06:58 PM:

Happy Anniversary!

#62 ::: Epacris ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:17 PM:

Happy Happy Anniversary Anniversary :)

*cheers Paula's pedantry @10*

#63 ::: Bruce Cohen (SpeakerToManagers) ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:21 PM:

Happy 30th anniversary, Nielsen Haydens! Here's a spoiler: it gets even better after that (we're at 38 going on 39).

And congratulations to all for all the things worth celebrating, and especially W00T! to Marilee for getting to come home.

#64 ::: Bruce Cohen (SpeakerToManagers) ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 07:24 PM:

abi @ 51

Obzombie: Being undead is also bad for a marriage.

#65 ::: Adam Lipkin ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:06 PM:

Happy anniversary!

#66 ::: Steve Taylor ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:51 PM:

Congratulations! Now's a good time to say how pleasing it is to look at the two photos on the base page of nielsenhayden.com - they say all that needs to be said:

http://nielsenhayden.com/ptnh-on-park-bench-2.jpg
and
http://nielsenhayden.com/ptnhtohonochul2004.jpg

Also, thanks for the rabbit information Abi - it's so easy to miss the big stories sometimes.

#67 ::: Rob Rusick ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:55 PM:

Happy anniversary!

Clifton Royston @39: About to celebrate our 9th this week.

First read that as celebrating our 9th week; announcing it seemed cute.

Of course, happy anniversary to you too (and not 30/9 as awesome — fully awesome)!

#68 ::: mcz ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 08:55 PM:

Happy anniversary!

#69 ::: Jon Sobel ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 09:54 PM:

A zillion happy returns! (But not book returns... oh, you know what I mean.)

#70 ::: Laina ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:08 PM:

Happy Anniversary!

#71 ::: Ginger ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:26 PM:

Boldog évfordulót!

#72 ::: Lydy Nickerson ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:41 PM:

Happy Anniversary. Many returns of the day.

#73 ::: janetl ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 10:52 PM:

I'm amused by the anniversary gift lists. You know, 1st is paper, and 7th is desk sets. It's also a nice touch that there's the traditional list, and the modern one, with the modern one more extravagant. For the 30th, the traditional list says pearl, and the modern list says diamond.
Strangely, neither list mentions beer, cheese, or pancakes.

#74 ::: Harriet Culver ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:22 PM:

Happy Anniversary!

and belated birthday wishes to TNH (would that I could phrase them in Anglo-Saxon or Middle English)

#75 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:27 PM:

By the way, what had the wedding been like? Was it a small intimate affair, or something like this?

#76 ::: Pamela Dean ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:29 PM:

Happy anniversary, you guys, and may you have many, many more.

Pamela

#77 ::: Lee ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:34 PM:

Happy Anniversary, and may the year just past be the worst you will ever experience.

#78 ::: Wyman Cooke ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:42 PM:

Congratulations. Now don't put a -30- on the thirtieth.

#79 ::: Deborah Janssens ::: (view all by) ::: March 23, 2009, 11:59 PM:

Congrats! Here's to the next 30 years!

#80 ::: Arachne Jericho ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 12:52 AM:

Best wishes and congratulations!

#81 ::: Clifton Royston ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 02:00 AM:

The distilled wisdom:

1. Get married
2. Don't get:
    a. divorced
    b. dead

I guess that pretty much covers it; everything else is ancillary. If I were to add one additional suspicion, it is that the biggest assistance as to your point 2.a (and probably also point 1) is:

    Really like each other a lot.

It seems to me the Nielsen Haydens have that in spades.

#82 ::: heresiarch ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 02:27 AM:

Congrats!

#83 ::: ajay ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 07:18 AM:

L'chaim!

ObCook: Mawwiage. Mawwiage is what bwings us together today. Mawwiage, this bwessed awwangement; this dweam within a dweam...

64: so true. Look at the Brides of Dracula. A dysfunctional relationship if ever there were one. Not to mention the many examples of unhappy marriages, Doleful Ghosts etc linked by Mr Macdonald...
http://nielsenhayden.com/makinglight/archives/006448.html

#84 ::: Mary Dell ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 07:19 AM:

Congratulations! Wishing you much more joy to come.

#85 ::: Cindy ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 08:46 AM:

Happy Anniversary! And best wishes for many, many more to come!

#86 ::: Jo Walton ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 10:13 AM:

Happy anniversary!

#87 ::: Halloween Jack ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 10:17 AM:

Congratulations!

#88 ::: Micah ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 10:33 AM:

Much continued happiness!

#89 ::: rea ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 10:58 AM:

Congratulations, and enjoy it while you can, before us gays ruin it for everyone. :(

As for Carter and the rabbit, well, Napoleon got attacked by rabbits, too, and nobody (other than possibly Josephine) called him a wimp!

http://www.strategypage.com/cic/docs/cic104b.asp

#90 ::: spoonfork ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 11:41 AM:

Happy Anniversary!

#91 ::: Debbie ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 12:15 PM:

Happy (belated, oops) anniversary!

#92 ::: Xopher ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 12:18 PM:

Darn. Belated Happy Anniversary, and Many Happy Returns.

#93 ::: Mez ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 06:18 PM:

Jubilation! Felicitations. Congratulations.

I hope my delay in acknowledging Teresa's natal anniversary and your joint marital one is not seen as evincing any reduction in the warmth and sincerity of my good wishes for you.[/Mr Collins]

#94 ::: Paula LIeberman ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 08:28 PM:


The vorpal bunny went snickersnack
The long-eared fell beast's stew,
The vorpal bunny now skinned and cooked
And deep inside of you!

The food chain is a complex rope,
And at the top we live,
And ev'rything thing that's edible
To us themselves will give!

The vorpal bunny's a fearsome beast
With teeth and giant feet
A monstrous threatening animal
On ev'rything it feasts!

But prey and predator they can switch
And so the hare shall go
And when that damned bunny dares return
In stewpots it shall go!

The vorpal bunny's went snickersnack
And chewed up all my trees
The vorpal bunny that's in my yard,
A loathsome plant disease!
But someday soon I'll have revenge
And that beast shall be dead
On that day my friends and I
We shall be quite fed!

The vorpal bunny went snickersnack--
But dead meat it shall be!

#95 ::: glinda ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 09:17 PM:

Happy anniversary!

And Marilee, welcome back! It's so good to hear of your progress.

#96 ::: Randolph ::: (view all by) ::: March 24, 2009, 11:36 PM:

Well, congratulations!

#97 ::: eRobin ::: (view all by) ::: March 25, 2009, 01:35 PM:

Congratulations and many, many more years of health and happiness.

#98 ::: Laurie Mann ::: (view all by) ::: March 25, 2009, 10:25 PM:

Happy Anniversary!

We got married a mere three days before an important fannish event - the premiere of Star Wars. And we spent part of our honeymoon watching the movie, then watching Gardner Dozois do wookiee imitations at Disclave (when we weren't busy...on, never mind).

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