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June 14, 2015

The gone, growing in number
Posted by Abi Sutherland at 03:09 PM * 40 comments

In the current Open Thread, Tom Whitmore announced:

I’m very sad to report that Bruce Durocher, sometime member of this parish, died this morning from (basically) colon cancer. His liver had not responded to recent therapy. Karen and I had visited him on Thursday: he was in good spirits then, and we had an animated discussion about films and other topics. The final turnaround was very sudden.

His wife, Margaret Organ-Kean, wrote on the Book of Face:

My husband, Bruce, died today at 7:00 am from metastatic colon cancer.

I appreciate every one’s sympathies and offers of support greatly. People will hear from me individually, but right now I have been up since 3:00 am yesterday and I am going to sleep.

My family is with me and I am being taken care of.

There will be a funeral in two or three weeks, when I’ve had the chance to make plans.

In the meantime, nothing could make me happier than if you are of an age to have an endoscopy and have not had one, please get your butt into your doctor’s office.

Bruce’s more recent (view all by) history is visible here; his older one is here (he had an email address change). It’s a long record of solid, smart, worthwhile interaction that improved the conversation around him. Even knowing him only through this medium, I’m feeling the loss.

Condolences to Margaret, to Tom and Karen, and to the entire community he gathered around himself in his life. If anyone has memories of him they’d like to share, I’d be interested to read them.

Comments on The gone, growing in number:
#1 ::: Tom Whitmore ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 04:01 PM:

Thank you, abi.

Bruce knew more about films than almost anyone. He did a lot of reviews at various points, and could connect ideas across films with fascinating facility. He was a tinkerer with various types of tech. He was also one of the most ethical people I've known.

I'm going to miss him. And it's a little difficult to talk right now.

#2 ::: P J Evans ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 04:09 PM:

Damn. (I hadn't noticed he had stopped commenting.)

#3 ::: Lila ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 04:14 PM:

Condolences to Bruce's family. I never had the pleasure of meeting him in person, but I've enjoyed his comments for years, and I am indebted to him for introducing me to Girls und Panzer.

#4 ::: Mary Aileen ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 04:22 PM:

Oh, dear. Bruce had many interesting, insightful things to say here over the years. He will be missed.

Condolences to his family.

#5 ::: Kevin Riggle ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:07 PM:

Requiescat.

#6 ::: Fragano Ledgister ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:07 PM:

Condolences to Bruce's family. He had many sensible, wise things to say over the years, and I will certainly miss him.

#7 ::: Xopher Halftongue ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:19 PM:

Oh, no. Damn.

Condolences to his family and close friends. He'll be missed in these pages.

#8 ::: dcb ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:28 PM:

I have always enjoyed and appreciated Bruce's comments in numerous conversations here. I've never met him in person, but will definitely miss him.

Sympathies and condolences to his family and close friends.

#9 ::: David Harmon ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:34 PM:

Joining the chorus: Damn. (Also, fuck cancer!) Condolences and sympathy to his family.

Just back in March he was trying to put together a custom rig for ice-drip coffee. I hope he managed to at least enjoy the brew before he went down.

#10 ::: Harry Connolly ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:40 PM:

I didn't know him well, but he was a good guy. My condolences to everyone who knew and loved him.

#11 ::: Lee ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:43 PM:

I don't think I ever met him in person, but I certainly enjoyed reading his comments here; he often had interesting and cogent things to say.

My deepest condolences to his friends and family.

#12 ::: David Goldfarb ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 05:48 PM:

May his memory be a blessing.

#13 ::: Stefan Jones ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 06:17 PM:

Ahh, damnit. Condolences.


#FuckCancer

#14 ::: Tom Whitmore ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 07:05 PM:

David Harmon @9: He had the rig fully functional at least a month before he went back into the hospital -- he showed it to us when we dropped off a birthday present last month. Not sure whether he actually used it or not, as I don't know about how he was managing with coffee recently.

#15 ::: Teresa Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 08:15 PM:

Nooooooo!

This is so wrong.

#16 ::: Margaret Organ-Kean Durocher ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 09:05 PM:

I am afraid we never had the chance to run the coffee rig - I'm afraid perfect was the enemy of the good. I have the necessary parts; some need painting and my brother plans (still I hope) to turn a lid for it.

I may try to demonstrate it at Foolscap next year. Bruce would've liked that.

Thanks to everyone for their kind words and memories.

#17 ::: Terry Karney ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 10:34 PM:

Well, shit. I wouldn't mind this getting older thing, if my friends didn't keep dying.

Makes me think I ought to be more attentive, comment more, etc.

My condolence to all.

#18 ::: Terry Karney ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 10:36 PM:

BTW, Tom, hugs. I'm so sorry.

#19 ::: David Harmon ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 10:46 PM:

Margaret Organ-Kean Durocher #16: I am afraid we never had the chance to run the coffee rig

That's too bad. But then, I got the impression he was a busy fellow -- I'm sure it was inevitable that he'd be in the middle of one project or another.

Again, my condolences for your loss.

#20 ::: nickelby ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 10:46 PM:

Well crap! The world is a poorer place now.

#21 ::: Clifton ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 11:03 PM:

I am so sorry to hear this. I have always enjoyed his voice here. Others may say it better than I can, but he was a wise, kind, and good person.

#22 ::: Clifton ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 11:04 PM:

"Such a long long time to be gone, and a short time to be there."

#23 ::: Anne Sheller ::: (view all by) ::: June 14, 2015, 11:21 PM:

My condolences to Margaret and all other family and friends.

#24 ::: Soon Lee ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 03:43 AM:

Condolences. I don't know Bruce but appreciated his comments at Making Light.

#25 ::: James Harvey ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 05:44 AM:

Condolences. Bloody cancer, again. :(

#26 ::: Pendrift ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 06:09 AM:

Condolences. I always appreciated his posts and his voice here on Making Light.

#27 ::: Teresa Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 07:45 AM:

My first-in-queue memory of Bruce Durocher is a composite one. It's that split second when I'm reading a thread and his name comes up on a comment, and I know in that moment that he's going to have said something useful, interesting, and above all responsive.

A parting glass to one of the people who's helped turn our comments into conversations.

#28 ::: Cally Soukup ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 08:34 AM:

Oh, I'm so sorry. I was just wondering the other day how the coffee project was going. My condolences to his family and friends.

#29 ::: Sandy B. ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 08:44 AM:

He was one of the good ones. I only knew him through here. My condolences to those closer to him.

#30 ::: Madeleine Robins ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 10:26 AM:

I am so sorry--his was a name I knew, but I never met him in person. Another good one gone.

My condolences to his family, and all the people who knew him and loved him.

#31 ::: Ginger ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 12:16 PM:

Damn. I always enjoyed reading his comments. Our condolences to Margaret and the rest of their family, as well as to his friends.

#32 ::: Michael I ::: (view all by) ::: June 15, 2015, 06:38 PM:

My condolences.

#33 ::: Lenora Rose ::: (view all by) ::: June 16, 2015, 12:25 PM:

Oh, no.

My first thought was that Bruce is the one who introduced us to the delightful Japanese 'Moses Supposes' video, which rather became a family staple around here, and was for a long time one of the toddler's favourite pieces. (as well as a quick picker-upper for his Mom)

Looking through the view all by to make absolutely sure I wasn't going to fall on my face saying so also reminded me how typical that was. A significant portion of Bruce's posts are sharing fannish delight in all kinds of mediums; introducing them, discussing them, mentioning the background trivia.

Condolences.

#34 ::: Annie Y ::: (view all by) ::: June 16, 2015, 12:26 PM:

Condolences :(

#35 ::: Ellen Eades ::: (view all by) ::: June 17, 2015, 12:08 PM:

Bruce was unfailingly gracious and cheery. He always had amusing and relevant things to say. And he popped up in the oddest places; when I started teaching myself to silkscreen for a big project, he volunteered his guidance and support for my early frustrations. I visited him on Wednesday night in the hospital and was able to show him some great results for the first time. I'm so glad I did.

#36 ::: Ellen Eades ::: (view all by) ::: June 17, 2015, 12:08 PM:

Bruce was unfailingly gracious and cheery. He always had amusing and relevant things to say. And he popped up in the oddest places; when I started teaching myself to silkscreen for a big project, he volunteered his guidance and support for my early frustrations. I visited him on Wednesday night in the hospital and was able to show him some great results for the first time. I'm so glad I did.

#37 ::: D. Potter ::: (view all by) ::: June 17, 2015, 05:02 PM:

My condolences.

#38 ::: Greg M. ::: (view all by) ::: June 17, 2015, 07:31 PM:

I am reproducing a comment of Bruce's that jumped out at me that I missed first time around:

"David Harmon: But if you saw Chthulu you'd go insane! Or the narrator would, or whatever....

I recommend to you "Scream for Jeeves." In one of the stories (the Cool Air parody?) Bertie sees one of the Elder Gods full on and it does nothing to his mind because he's Bertie Wooster."

As a big, big fan of Cthulhu comedy, I am tracking this down immediately. Condolences. He will be missed.

#39 ::: Nicole J. LeBoeuf-Little ::: (view all by) ::: June 18, 2015, 02:04 AM:

Dammit.

As much as I've been enjoying File770's Hugos round-ups, there's also a sense of dread every time I click the Next Post button, because so many posts there are announcements of deaths. It's like a really crappy game of Press Your Luck.

Here is Bruce's view all by, full of lovely things.

#40 ::: Phiala ::: (view all by) ::: June 24, 2015, 09:47 AM:

I wanted to wait until those who knew Bruce had time to see this thread before chiming in with my tangential comment:

WOW do I get twitchy hearing about people dying of metastatic colon cancer. At 43, chances of me making it to 45 were not good; I turn 45 next week. I spent the intervening year and a half undergoing chemo, radiation, surgery and more chemo. Gruelling, but it WORKED. So far. If I can get to 50, I might be okay.

But that's lead-in, really, for my actual point: get an endoscopy if you're over 50 or have a family history. Really. They're not that bad, especially compared to the alternative. And if you're, say, 43 or even younger, don't assume you can't have colon cancer. Pay attention to your body, and ask your doctor about odd changes. I only went to the doctor because I could feel something odd while doing certain yoga poses: it turned out to be a large tumor on my liver.

Colon cancer occurrence is increasing among younger people. If caught early, it's fairly treatable. If late, it's hard and uncertain.

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