Schadenfreude aside, it seems to me that outing is not a line-item proposition, where you get to decide who it's okay to out. (Are you going to vote on it? Or is it every gay to their own judgment?) Outing is wrong, or it isn't.
Precisely.
Furthermore, we don't know anything about Melman's private life. For all we know, he's gay, and believes it to be a horrible sin, it something he tries to ignore in his life, is something he repents for in Church, is seeking help about, has tried to be reprogrammed. For all we know, he's gay and firmly believes that it destroys the sanctity of marriage, and should get no social benefits - in other words, he believes in what he says and the politics he espouses. The idea that all people who're gay must be proud about it, and happy about it, is woefully naive.
Frankly, I'm exceedingly disappinted in the attitude being shown here, and anaea is right - talk about being ungracious winners. All I can think about is that, were the tables turned and this was a Democrat who'd been quiet about gay issues, or who'd supported Don't Ask/Don't Tell and DOMA, y'all be howling in indignation that someone was so socially rude to out someone else against their will.
You're allowing your prejudice against Republicans to blind your sense of justice and morals, and it's disappointing.
...uhm, am I the only one who thinks that if Democrats really mean that it should be no one's business what your sexual preference is, that means...not making a big deal about what anyone's sexual preference is?
I feel like, if tables were switched and a Democrat were outed by someone from the other side, people'd be crying foul and saying it's no one's business.
No one should be forcibly outed - we don't know the individuals circumstance or why they've opted to be quiet about it.
There's nothing nice, or friendly, or right, or just, about outing someone. Saying "they're being a hypocrit" doesn't make it okay.
If you still aren�t raising your hand, you�re a normal book-buying reader
Now granted, an awful lot of my book purchases at the moment are things like Sartre, Hegel and Husserl, thanks to school, but even for my "fun" purchases, I almost never buy off any list other than "store employee recommends". (And now that I don't have a relationship with any local bookstore employees, I don't even do that.)
I chase down books based on leads, browsing, recommendations, offhand comments... the latest set of books I bought "for fun" were Val McDermind's "Wire in the Blood" series, which I'd never heard of here, even though I absolutely adore fluffy forensic mysteries like that. I found 'em thru BBC America's series by the same name.
Offhand, I can't think of anyone I know, either, that buys only off the bestseller list. The only time that ever happens to me is when I buy something that's been features on The Daily Show or The Colbert Report, and shoots onto the bestselling list because of that.
I have some vague hope that John Stewart will have some ultra funny material about this that might change a few minds, but that's all.
Jon just picked up on the same "we're at war with Eurasia" bit everyone else did. It was funny, but the large majority of The Daily Show audience is already anti-Republican; I don't see it having much effect, other than the typical mindboggling that comes along with such carelessness on Fox's part.
Mike did more to help me get over my fear of talking to people I admire than anyone else, and I never got the chance to say thank you. I just always assumed I'd trip across him, again, and be able to say...
He was an amazing man, and I'm so grateful he graced the constellations of my sky, if ever so briefly years ago.
To say he will be mourned is the worst sort of understatement, where you wish there were better words to convey what you feel, but there simply aren't.
After spending 10 years in software QA, I couldn't use any software without finding a couple of bugs in it...I mean just trying to use it, the bugs would come up and stop me. Fortunately that effect seems to be fading now.
You too? Sadly, although the effect is slowly starting to fade for me, I still make computers cringe just by walking into the room. Most software programmers just refuse to be around me if they're working. (And let's not talk about household appliances, shelving, cupboard doors...)
Of course, now that I've switched fields, I'm finding my new training following me around. Frankly, I think I'd rather be chased by pesky bugs than bioethics issues...
And speaking of! If you live in New York State, please for the love of god, make my job, the job of my colleagues, and every single other medical person practicing in this state easier: go a step beyond living will, and please please please legally dictate your medical proxy. New York State will do everything in its power to keep you alive, if there's no one to legally step in on your behalf, and basically if you don't have the proxy set up, there's no one legally able. This had led to some absolute travesties of medical care being perpetrated!
These are excellent posts - thank you. As someone going into the medical field sideways (a dread bioethicist), they're great shorthands and catch-me-ups; have you thought of doing a small book of all this? (Or, I suppose, if there's a great small book already written...)
I'm working on getting all my Red Cross certifications up to speed again, but that'll take a while, since I have to do it around my class schedule.
It's also quite important for people who're taking medications to realize that they are at a much higher risk, in or above the category of young children and eldery adults. This is especially true for people taking anything that already dehydrates you or gives you a cotton mouth - since you're accustomed to feeling that dry mouth, you are at much greater risk to wave off the signs of heat stress.
"Oh, my medications always make me dizzy..."
"I always have a dry mouth/funny taste, it's no big deal..."
Many medications also thin the skin, making you much more susceptible to sun burn and the effects of the heat. Folks taking chronic medications should be especially vigilant in consuming enough water, and staying in shaded, cool places until the temperature returns to something closer to normal. They should also take it easy with the heavy labour, as again, their body ability to regulate itself is off kilter due to the medicine.
Take it from the girl who's been trying to pack, and spent all of yesterday on the couch remarking on how dumb she can be...
Xopher wrote:
This is MakingLight, so I should probably specify that yes, that was rhetorical and yes, I'm sure you can each name five curators right off the top because you memorize the curator's name(s) on every museum exhibit you go to, which runs to a lot of memory because of course you go to the museum every day on your lunch hour, and no, I wish you wouldn't. You all intimidate the HELL out of me, you know that?
Thank you for saying it. :)
Michelle K:
No book should treat a reader in such a rude and abusive manner and not expect some sort of retaliation.
Precisely!
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