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September 15, 2008

From this day forward: a toast to the happy couple
Posted by Abi Sutherland at 03:04 PM * 55 comments

After twenty one years together, George Takei and Brad Altman have married.

The ceremony took place yesterday, at the National Center for the Preservation of Democracy in Los Angeles. Nichelle Nichols was matron of honor; Walter Koenig was best man. The grooms wore white.

I do not have the honor or either of their acquaintances. I am, however, proud to welcome yet another couple into the community of married people. Anyone who has fought as hard and as long for the right to marry as they have can only strengthen the institution.

I am sure that somewhere, someone is attributing today’s financial news, the devastation of Hurricane Ike, and the tendency of bread to land butter side down to this happy event. The Grinch we have with us always, but the traditional remedy is close at hand.

Laddies and gentlewomen, let us rise up, and raise up our glasses* to George and Brad. May the future bring them the happiness they so richly deserve.

* Or mugs, or whatever drink containers we have handy. Distributed toasts do not require matching glassware.

Comments on From this day forward: a toast to the happy couple:
#1 ::: Scott Taylor ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:29 PM:


I've gotten the chance to meet and interact with Mr. Takei a couple of times. He has always been a gentleman, a raconteur, and a genuinely nice guy (or good at faking all of the above).

All the happiness in the world to he and his husband!

#2 ::: Kelly McCullough ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:35 PM:

Oh, hooray! How very nice to get more* good news on such a bad news day.

*The other piece being Teresa's chance of getting to go home today.

#3 ::: Teresa Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:35 PM:

Now, that's science fiction.

#4 ::: Patrick Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:36 PM:

I met George and Brad at the Japanese worldcon; in fact, I interviewed George for the Tor podcast series. Both of them were the good eggs that everyone says they are.

#5 ::: Teresa Nielsen Hayden ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:37 PM:

(The wedding, I mean.)

#6 ::: Clifton Royston ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:37 PM:

Cheers! Many happy years!

#7 ::: Dan ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:39 PM:

This makes me happy on an otherwise unhappy day.

I've got a cup of licorice tea that I can hoist. After that, I'm all about the whiskey.

#8 ::: Mary Aileen ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:40 PM:

Congratulations and Best Wishes to George and Brad!

I first met George Takei at a wedding of some mutual friends. I am delighted that he was finally able to have a wedding of his own.

#9 ::: CD Covington ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:53 PM:

I saw George Takei speak at Dragon*Con this year. He gave a great, humorous talk, and I felt motivated to get his autograph - which I've never done before for anyone. (And I'm not even a big TOS fan!) He was very nice, and he shook my hand, and he thanked me for my support when I congratulated him.

He's such an awesome guy. I wish him & Brad all the best.

#10 ::: Farah ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:55 PM:


#11 ::: kouredios ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 03:55 PM:

Yay! Here in Massachusetts two female friends/colleagues of mine were married this weekend as well. I wonder if they know with whom they're nearly sharing their anniversary.

#12 ::: Fragano Ledgister ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:01 PM:

This is a good thing.

#13 ::: Summer Storms ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:10 PM:

*raises pint*


#14 ::: Iorwerth Thomas ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:18 PM:


#15 ::: edward oleander ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:28 PM:

Congrats to George and Brad! I'm glad, but not surprised, to hear they're as nice as they seem.

#16 ::: Nicole TWN ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:37 PM:

Many happy returns to the newlyweds!

#17 ::: affreca ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 04:59 PM:

Congrats to George and Brad.

Recently, I flew out to California to attend my exroommate's wedding. Taking advantage of the trip and father of the bride's ability to officiate, two couples attending as guests decided to get married.

#18 ::: Terry Karney ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:11 PM:

Many years ago he lived in Manhattan Beach (mid-late seventies). A friend, who was a fan, lived in the neighborhood. Takei saw her at a couple of cons he was guest to, and then started noticing her about the neighborhood.

The sort of thing where he'd be in a shop, at a cafe, and she'd walk by, or in. She didn't actually notice him.

One day he stepped out of a cafe and said hello.... asked her if she was stalking him. She said, "Good heavens no! I live up the block."

He treated her to lunch.

Mazel Tov.

#19 ::: Debra Doyle ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:29 PM:

May the newlywed couple have every happiness!

(And in a world that seems determined to suck so much of the time, it's heartening to see a news story offering proof that in at least one respect, it doesn't suck quite so much now as it did only a few years ago.)

#20 ::: CJT ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:29 PM:

Congratulations, George and Brad! That's wonderful news. Things that just make you go "awwwwwwwwww!"

#21 ::: JKRichard ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:32 PM:

...and we'll post this in the correct ML forum now:

"Wherever, therefore, it has been established that it is shameful to be involved in sexual relationships with men, this is due to evil on the part of the rulers, and to cowardice in the part of the governed." - Plato

Congratulations to the groom and ...groom! ;)

#22 ::: Emma ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:43 PM:

I'm happy-crying, would you believe it? Twenty-one years is longer than any of my (heterosexual) cousins have managed yet!

#23 ::: Rikibeth ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 05:56 PM:

This is a day-brightener. Mazel tov to the happy couple!

#24 ::: Leslie in CA ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 06:05 PM:

Congratulations, best wishes, and blessings on the happy couple. May they have many more years of joy together.

#25 ::: joann ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 06:18 PM:


#26 ::: Arachne Jericho ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 06:59 PM:

Oh! I totally missed this.

Yay for TWO things going right today!

#27 ::: Randolph ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 07:21 PM:


#28 ::: albatross ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 08:32 PM:

Congratulations to the newlyweds!

Ob Firefly reference:

"That's like something out of science fiction."

"You're having this discussion with people from six continents on a global computer network."


#29 ::: TomB ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 09:01 PM:

Best wishes to George and Brad for a wonderful future together.

#30 ::: 'As You Know' Bob ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 09:51 PM:

May they live long and prosper.

#31 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 10:30 PM:

A very long engagement, and a happy ending. Bravo!

#32 ::: Kip W ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 11:07 PM:

By coincidence, I glanced over at the TV last night and saw Takei on one of Sarah's programs. "It's George!" I said to Cathy. If I'd known the rest, I'd have picked up her wine glass and offered a toast to the screen. Hooray for both of them!

#33 ::: Ginger ::: (view all by) ::: September 15, 2008, 11:30 PM:


I'm frelling.

#34 ::: Xopher ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 12:01 AM:

Ginger 33: Isn't it kind of hard to type while frelling?

#35 ::: Bruce Cohen (SpeakerToManagers) ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 01:43 AM:

That is the kind of news that's well worth shouting to the world. It means not only the happiness of two people who deserve it, but also a demonstration that the world really is getting to be a better place, where someday all of us will celebrate the chance for others to be happy.

To the early days of a better nation!

#36 ::: Tlönista ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 03:09 AM:

I've never been lucky enough to meet George Takei, but by all accounts he's an absolute mensch. Hurray!

It is also wonderful that the best man and matron-of-honour, respectively, were Chekhov and Uhura.

#37 ::: Marilee ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 04:09 AM:

"May sweet equality live long and prosper."

#38 ::: Gag Halfrunt ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 05:45 AM:

'As You Know' Bob@30:

May they live long and prosper.
I'm surprised that it took so long for someone to say that. :)

Anyway, congratulations to the happy couple.

#39 ::: Melissa Singer ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 10:16 AM:

Mazel Tov.

May many others soon be able to share these rights and this joy.

#40 ::: Scott ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 11:49 AM:

Congrats to the couple. It's not often I get to look at a part of America and say, "See, some parts of the country do work." California, (following Maryland's footsteps) is have a big semi-public thing like this... I'm proud to be a Californian (even if I live a Pacific Ocean away right now).

My only regret is the increase in pitch of "That's Not Canon" in response to my George Takei/Tim Hardaway fic.

#41 ::: Ginger ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 12:19 PM:

Xopher @34: Gevalt! They took a perfectly fine Yiddish word and made it feh. They're just meshugenah, I tell you! No matter. I'm keeping my frelling definition of frelling (Farscape Schmarscape!). What's a Yiddishkeit to do these days, with all kinds of schmucks stealing our words and making them with new definitions? Nu?

#42 ::: Nenya ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 03:30 PM:

Woohoo! :D So happy for the newlyweds!

My closest link to George Takei is that he appeared on interstitial programming on the TV channel "The New VI" when I lived on Vancouver Island. Someone would be taped saying, "I'm So-and-So, out there on the New VI". Of course when he did his, he did the Vulcan salute. :-)

And it is pretty cool that the original Star Trek cast seem to have kept in touch. They all look so happy in the wedding photo!

#43 ::: Lizzy L ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 03:48 PM:

Sunday I attended a wedding: two old friends, Fran and Ellen, together 36 years, got legally married in California. Their families flew cross-country to attend. A local judge and friend performed a semi-traditional Jewish ceremony in their backyard, under a rainbow chuppah. It was wonderful.

#44 ::: Lighthill ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 07:21 PM:

For meditation by others wiser than myself:

What's the most useful way I can express my fanboyish elation at this, in a way that lets the world know that Takei's marriage, by simple virtue of its being a wonderful marriage, makes my own marriage yet more wonderful and joyous?

Also, congratulations to George and Brad!

When I was 14 or so I saw George at a rinky-dink local trek con, and ..... hang on. I was going to say something about how the polite, decent, magnanimous, good-natured, intelligent way he treated a little snotty fannish kid has made an impression on me. I was going to say something about how I felt that this adult, this celebrity was actually taking the mental energy to engage my fannishness, my love for the art he had made, rather than doing the bare minimum to make me go away happy. But on reflection, I can't turn this into an adjective in my own anecdote. I do not know an adjective good enough for George Takei. Instead, all I can give is my appreciation, my congratulations, for the happy couple.

Brad, George: I think you deserve every happiness, and may you have them all, even as-yet-unexplored strange new happinesses. Please have all the fun there is exploring them!

#45 ::: Rob Rusick ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 09:46 PM:

Nenya @42: My closest link to George Takei is...

Even more remote: My dad worked on the Metro transit system installed in DC. He told a story of one of the engineers he worked with, named Kirk.

Kirk had a small boat he named the Enterprise. On occasion of a party, he saw George Takei, and introduced himself as "Captain Kirk, of the Enterprise". Apparently, George was amused, and took the time to hang out on the boat (and visited again when he came back to DC).

#46 ::: Sandy B. ::: (view all by) ::: September 16, 2008, 11:08 PM:

My parents were married about 45 years and in love the whole time. It's a good example to have growing up. I'm glad to see that there's an example out there, live and celebrified, for the gay kids growing up today.

But mostly I'm glad to see two really nice people getting married. I don't know them personally but if you guys vouch for 'em, that's good enough for me.

#47 ::: BronxWarrior ::: (view all by) ::: September 17, 2008, 07:21 PM:

Wh! Mr. Sl ws frt? Ww, thngs y lrnn th ntrnts. wll gd lck

#48 ::: P J Evans ::: (view all by) ::: September 17, 2008, 09:41 PM:

It would be fun (for some definitions of fun) to send that wedding-party photo (with the caption, I think) back in time and watch the exploding heads.

Joy and long life to them!

#49 ::: Estara ::: (view all by) ::: September 18, 2008, 08:43 AM:

And I'm so chuffed I was part of the effort to keep this marriage legal:
LJ Live Long 'n Marry Auction Community
~ I wish all same-sex marriages that the Californian law made possible the best of luck, health and respect!

#50 ::: joann sees driveby possibly needing chastisement @ 47 ::: (view all by) ::: September 18, 2008, 01:39 PM:

Choice of language somewhat offensive?

#51 ::: Xopher agrees with joann but thinks there's less doubt; the person should be deleted and banned ::: (view all by) ::: September 18, 2008, 01:56 PM:


#52 ::: abi ::: (view all by) ::: September 18, 2008, 02:51 PM:

Well, whatever he is, he's part of a pair now.

#53 ::: ajay ::: (view all by) ::: September 28, 2008, 08:10 PM:

Never met the man, and while I'm sure he's a gentleman and 100% nice guy (as many here have said) he should have the right to marry even if he's a miserable old blighter... hurrah.

Lifting a quiet drink;
For each man drinks the thing he loves
From tankard, glass or jug
Some drink it standing by the bar
Some seated on the rug
The upper class from thin-stemmed glass
The lower from a mug!

#54 ::: Chris W. sees spam ::: (view all by) ::: February 19, 2010, 04:29 AM:

Sounds sort of like the search engine zombies in those Bing commercials.

#55 ::: Serge ::: (view all by) ::: February 19, 2010, 08:31 AM:

Why does a writer write? Because it's right, and there'd be a blight upon the world without the words.

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