Mary Medley

Mary married Thomas Greenwell before 1724 in St. Mary's County, Maryland. Thomas (son of James Greenwell and Grace Taylor) was born about 1702 in St. Mary's County, Maryland; died between 11 Mar 1749 and 4 Sep 1750 in St. Mary's County, Maryland. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Family/Spouse: Mary Ann Wheatley. Mary died before 1755. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Ann married Robert Cole before 1743. Robert (son of Robert Cole and Elizabeth Tant) was born about 1710 in St. Mary's County, Maryland; died before 2 Dec 1771 in St. Mary's County, Maryland. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Family/Spouse: Bernard Newton. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Family/Spouse: Robert Mattingly. Robert (son of James Mattingly) died between 22 Jun 1776 and 14 Dec 1776. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

See the notes for her son William Leo Hayden for the story of William Leo's birth and of Henrietta Cole's complicated relationship with Charles Ewing.

From Abstract of Early Kentucky Wills and Inventories: Copied from Original and Recorded Wills and Inventories by Junie Estelle Stewart King (Baltimore: Genealogical Publishing Company, 2010):

HAYDEN, HENRIETTA. "To worshipful Court of Washington County, I, Henrietta Hayden of said county do hereby declare that I will not take or accept the provision made for me by Will of my late husband, Basil Hayden, dec'd., or any part thereof and I do hereby renounce all Benefit which I might claim by said Will, and I hereby claim Dower as the law directs. As witness my hand and seal this 9 day of February, 1805. Wit: William Hayden, Lewis Hayden." Recorded April Court, 1805.

Henrietta married Basil Hayden before 1771 in St. Mary's County, Maryland. Basil (son of George Hayden and Charity) was born on 2 Jan 1744 in St. Andrew's Parish, St. Mary's County, Maryland; died between 21 Jun 1804 and 6 Aug 1804; was buried in Holy Cross Cemetery, Holy Cross, Marion, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Henrietta married Charles Ewing on 19 Feb 1805 in Springfield, Washington, Kentucky, and was divorced on 3 Feb 1808 in Kentucky. Charles (son of Charles Ewing and Martha Baker) was born between 1750 and 1753; died after 3 Feb 1808. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alternate death: Aft 1823

Notes:

The only thing known with certainty about the wife of Joseph Clayton is her given name, Eleanor. But Paul Nordberg's monograph "Eleanor Cole of St. Mary's County, Maryland" makes a strong circumstantial case that she was Eleanor Cole, a sister of Patrick's 5G-grandmother Henrietta Cole (1754-1837). More recently, in early 2021, DNA results from a living Clayton descendant of Joseph Clayton showed strong matches to Robert Cole (d. 1771), known father of Henrietta. As a result, Nordberg has concluded, and we agree, that when the circumstantial evidence is added to the genetic, it can be stated with reasonable confidence that Joseph Clayton's wife was the daughter Eleanor mentioned in the 1771 will of Robert Cole.

Family/Spouse: Joseph Clayton. Joseph (son of Francis Clayton and Elizabeth) was born about 1750 in Chesterfield County, Virginia; died between 1813 and 1824 in Nelson County, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

Sharon J. Doliante (citation details below) says that he married, first, Henrietta Hilton, then Mary Carlin, then Mary Rapier. Sister Mary Louise Donnelly (citation details below) is not frequently more right than Doliante, but in this case she appears to be correct: Mary Carlin was the wife of Stanislaus' next-younger brother Robert. She predeceased Robert, and when he made his will, he named his older brother Stanislaus his executor and the caretaker of his children. Mary Rapier was the wife of Basil Hayden, Jr., the third son of Basil Hayden and Henrietta Cole. Basil Jr. died in 1833 and his wife died in 1838. This leaves a narrow window in which Mary Rapier could have married Stanislaus (leaving aside that this would be wildly unlikely behavior in such a Catholic family), but no actual evidence suggests that this was the case. In fact Stanislaus Hayden married, first, Henrietta Hilton, the mother of his children; and second, on 14 Jan 1834, Susanna Overstreet Walker, who survived him and inherited a third of his estate.

"STANISLAUS HAYDEN was to be court martialed in Springfield, Kentucky on 8/2/1794 as a militia delinquent. BASIL HAYDEN, SR., BASIL HAYDEN, JR. and A. Brown spoke on his behalf. BASIL HAYDEN, SR. said 'his son from his infancy has been deficient in his hearing,'…and should be exempted. The other witnesses gave the same declaration. After mature deliberations the court was of the opinion he should be fined thirty seven shillings and six pence. On 6/16/1798 STANISLAUS HAYDEN appeared and requested to have his name cleared, 'whereupon the Court ordered that he be cleared.'" [John Medley (1615-1660), citation details below]

Stanislaus married Henrietta Hilton on 9 Aug 1791 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Henrietta (daughter of William Hilton and Mildred) died before 1834. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Stanislaus married Susanna Overstreet Walker on 14 Jan 1834. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alternate death: 1806, Nelson County, Kentucky

Robert married Mary Carlin on 4 Feb 1796 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Mary died before 20 Aug 1806. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alternate death: 21 Jul 1833

Notes:

He owned the first mill on the Rolling Fork. It was there, during the cholera epidemic of 1833, that he was struck down by the disease and died intestate.

Basil married Mary Rapier on 15 Jul 1795 in Washington County, Kentucky. Mary (daughter of Richard James Rapier and Margaret Thompson) was born on 21 Jul 1777 in St. Mary's County, Maryland; died on 30 Jan 1838 in Calvary, Marion, Kentucky; was buried in Holy Mary Cemetery, Calvary, Marion, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alternate birth: 30 May 1788, Washington County, Kentucky

Teresa married Henry Moore on 25 Feb 1813 in Washington County, Kentucky. Henry died before 1850. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Other Events and Attributes:

• Alternate birth: 5 Mar 1798

Edward married Catherine Queen on 26 Nov 1829. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

"On 10/14/1837 LEWIS HAYDEN purchased 1382 1/2 acres of land in Daviess County, next to his brother WILLIAM LEO HAYDEN on the south bank of the Panther Creek (Deed E:521-523). Upon his death, LEWIS HAYDEN's 13 children became heirs to this property. LEWIS and Mary apparently never lived in Daviess County. Both are buried at St. Joseph's Cemetery in Bardstown, Kentucky." [John Medley, citation details below]

Lewis married Mary "Polly" Dant on 13 Feb 1810. Mary (daughter of Joseph Dant and Elizabeth Belinder Shercliffe) was born in 1795 in Nelson County, Kentucky; died on 10 May 1879 in Bardstown, Nelson, Kentucky; was buried in St. Joseph's Cemetery, Bardstown, Nelson, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

William Leo Hayden (1785-1866) was the natural son of Henrietta (Cole) Hayden, by Charles Ewing.

When the Hayden family arrived in north-central Kentucky in 1785, they and the rest of their migrant party were confined for some months inside a rough-and-ready fort for their protection. It’s easy to imagine that this was hard on them all, and Henrietta (Cole) Hayden had further reason to be depressed; she had lost four children on the trek from southern Maryland. Whatever her reasons, she had an affair inside the fort with a sketchy land speculator named Charles Ewing, and became pregnant as a result. She subsequently confessed the liaison to her husband, who publicly denounced her but did not divorce her. Henrietta and Basil went on to have several more children. William Leo, son of Henrietta by Charles Ewing, was raised in Basil and Henrietta’s family, where his nickname was “Not Blood.” Basil’s will provided William Leo with half the amount he gave to each of his own surviving children.

After Basil’s death in 1804, Henrietta immediately married Charles Ewing. Shortly afterward, she declared in court that she "will not take or accept the provision made for me by Will of my late husband, Basil Hayden, dec'd., or any part thereof and I do hereby renounce all Benefit which I might claim by said Will, and I hereby claim Dower as the law directs." But in 1807 Charles Ewing left her and bigamously married one Mary (or perhaps Margaret) Flint. In 1808 Henrietta managed to divorce Charles, which required an act of the Kentucky legislature.

From Littel's Laws of Kentucky, Volume 3:

[Page 446] An act concerning the marriage of HENRIETTA EWING. approved Feb. 3, 1808 This act authorised her to sue CHARLES EWING, for a divorce, in the Nelson court, and to obtain it on a jury's finding that he had seperated from her and intermarried with MARY FLINT, and continued to live in adultery with said Mary.

From John Medley (1615-1660) by Mary Louise Donnelly (citation details below):

William Leo "Little Willie" Hayden was born 12/16/1785 in Washington Co Ky, the son of Henrietta Cole Hayden. The account of William Leo Hayden's birth is told in letters written by Rev Stephen Badin to Bishop Carroll.

"The widow Hayden who had disgraced herself in marriage, has renewed her past scandals and finished by marrying heterodoxum corum heterodoxo (a protestant by a protestant - in 2/4/1805 letter). Mr Rohan who is keeping school on my land has among his school-boys a subject that might become a clergyman were not the illegitimacy of his birth an obstacle to it. I thought proper to inform you of his virtue & talents, & also that the parents are willing & in some degree able to procure him a liberal education. He belongs to Mr Hayden's family, tho he be not his father: he is twelve or thirteen years of age."

William Hayden, mentioned in Basil Hayden, Sr's will as "Henrietta's son" [sic — the actual phrase is "my wife's son" —PNH], might be the illegitimate son of Charles Ewing whom Henrietta married seven months after Basil Hayden, Sr's death. In Washington Co Ky, on 2/5/1810 William Leo Hayden married first Anna Pike (d. 1/8/1811), the daughter of John Pike. In Washington Co on 1/4/1813 he married secondly Mary Hayden the daughter of Charles Hayden and Eleanor Elliott. The information on his birth and marriages was recorded in his family Bible.

William Leo Hayden was well educated and was the teacher of his own children. In 1835 he moved with his family to Daviess Co Ky. On 11/16/1841 William Hayden purchased 1523 acres of land on the south bank of Panther Creek from William R Griffith and Philip and Eliza H. Triplett (Deed F: 554-555). For a time Court was held in his home. In 5/1866 William and Mary Hayden deeded to Charles Leo Hayden, "...who supported said William and Mary last 10 years ...," 206 acres (Deed T: 306-307). Mary died 7/14/1866 and William Leo Hayden died 12/6/1867 in Owensboro, Ky.

From The Immigration of William "Little Willie" Leo Hayden, quoting a letter written in January 1886 by Richard R. Coomes to the Hon. B.J. Webb:

[A]s some of St Raphael's congregation appear to show some dissatisfaction of the short and, in truth, unjust reference to said congregation, I feel bound to give some items concerning it.

The facts concerning its settlement are these. In 1834 a man well known about Holy Cross [Catholic Church in Calvary, Marion County, Kentucky] as "Little Willie" Hayden, son of Basil Hayden, sold his farm near the church and immigrated to Daviess County, Kentucky to look for better situations for himself and his sons. With him came his brother, Lewis Hayden. The two selected land adjoining the St. Raphael farm, with "Little Willie" agreeing to purchase 1,500 acres adjoining the 200 acres that he had selected for the church. Lewis selected a like amount adjoining that of "Little Willie"'s if William R. Griffith, the owner, would donated 200 acres to the church. Griffith willingly gave the 200 acres and, by doing so, made a sale of the 3,000 acres to the two brothers. The sale of the land that he owned in that part of he county benefited himself, the Hayden brothers, and the Catholic Church. The above purchase was made in 1833 or 1834. At the time, there was not a Catholic living nearer than ten miles from Owensboro, in Daviess County, Kentucky.

"Little Willie"'s family came in 1835 as the first settlers in St. Alphonso's congregation, his house being the first and only station for church until the first log church was built in 1844. He was the principal head of Catholic affairs so long as he was able to get about. He died on December 6, 1867, aged 82 years. There was another William Hayden who settled near St Raphaels but moved within the bounds of St Alfonsus before 1840.

In 1841 when I moved within the bounds of the then St Raphael's, now St Martin's, there was living in the St Raphael's congregation Randall Blandford, William Sims, Reson Cravens, John Livers, Charles Clayton, John Hayden, John Mattingly, Sylvester Hayden, James M Hayden, Phillip Hayden's widow and family, Thadius Coomes, and others whose names I can't now recall. But this I can say, that after 1845, by marriages and imigration the county filled up very fast so that it was soon necessary to build the church of St Alfonso within seven miles of St Raphael's and a few years thereafter that of St Martin's both principally within the original boundry of St Raphael's all of which may be said to be a fairly prosperous farming country so that the Hayden purchase gave to the Catholics of Kentucky a chance for homes without having to go so far west, and as a general thing, to do better nearer home, not that I am opposed to going West by any means, some of my own brothers & a sister went and did better.

I hope this will give you a better idea of the St Raphael country.

Will of William Leo Hayden, written 21 Dec 1866, probated 6 Jan 1868:

In the name of God. Amen. I WILLIAM HAYDEN, of Daviess County, Kentucky, being of extreme old age but of sound mind and disposing memory and calling to mind that all men must die and wishing to arrange my temporal concerns before I am imposed by the call to appear before my God and Judge to determine my lot through all Eternity hereby revoking and annulling all other wills which I may have made heretofore do make and establish this as my last Will and Testament to wit.

Item 1. I bequeath my soul to God who gave it me and my Body to the Earth from which it was taken to be decently interred in an ordinary and plain manner.

Item 2. I will and bequeath unto my granddaughter, HELEN MARION PIKE, one bed and furniture, the same that she now uses, it being in the possession of my daughter-in-law (Melissa Hayden) who is entitled to use of the same until my granddaughter may find it to be her interest, or necessary to leave her Aunt Melissa in that event it is to be given up to her demand.

Item 3. I will and bequeath unto my son, CHARLES L. HAYDEN an equal share with all my other heirs not named of all money or cash notes or other estate of which I die possessed first paying or settling all just dues or demands against me out of the sd. money and before distribution is made. I further bequeath to my sd son, CHARLES L, HAYDEN trundle bed stead and bedding attached thereof. Also other articles of household and kitchen furniture and farming implements as also my large Duoay bible all of which last mentioned articles I now deliver into his possession as being his own right and I further bequeath to my son CHARLES L. HAYDEN the right of a roadway one rod wide leading from his farm along the lines of a sixty acre tract which I formerly sold to James Eubank so as to enter at the south of the land dividing between Alvin Hayden's farm and the farm which I have sold to URBAN HAYDEN which road and land shall be one rod wide thru from end to end and unobstructed by any gates or fence also on other land intersecting the land by or at the southeast corner of the orchard on the sd. farm and running through the sd. farm passing by URBAN HAYDEN's farm in the direction of the Glenn Bridge as so called this lane shall be one rod wide from end to end with gates there planted, this described road and lanes are reserved in the contract and sale of the land and premises to URBAN HAYDEN unto the afsd CHARLES L. HAYDEN and his heirs forever.

Item 4. I will and bequeath unto whichever of my children I may be living with at the time of my demise my bed and all its furniture attached, my wearing apparel, my big arm chair, and small chair also any articles of furniture which I term side board, a large demijohn or glass bottle, a few other small bottles and convenient articles unnecessary to mention.

And lastly, I hereby nominate and appoint my son WILLIAM C. HAYDEN the executor of this my last will and Testament. Given under my hand this 21 st day of Dec. 1866 in my own writing.

[Signed in the presence of James Hayden, Edwin C. Hayden and James S. Hayden; the latter presumably his grandson-in-law James S. Hayden, husband of his granddaughter Mary Drucilla Hayden.]

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The family bible of William Leo Hayden is supposedly now at St. Joseph's, Maple Mount, Daviess, Kentucky. Its transcription, "Bible records of Basil Hayden (Basil Robert Hayden, 1774-1833)", in Kentucky Genealogical Records Book, GRC Book Series 1, volume 319, pp. 84-87, lists, among the children of Basil and Henrietta (Cole) Hayden, "Milly Hayden 12/16/1785." William Leo Hayden was born 16 Dec 1785; "Milly" is very likely a mistranscription of "Willy".

William married Anastasia "Anna" Pike on 5 Feb 1810 in Washington County, Kentucky. Anastasia (daughter of John Pike) died on 8 Jan 1811 in Washington County, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

William married Mary Hayden on 4 Jan 1813 in Washington County, Kentucky. Mary (daughter of Charles Hayden and Eleanor "Molly" Elliott) was born on 4 Jun 1794; died on 14 Jul 1866 in West Louisville, Daviess, Kentucky; was buried in St. Raphael's Cemetery, West Louisville, Daviess, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

Died unmarried and without issue.

Sarah married Barnaby Carter on 26 Dec 1802 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Barnaby was born between 1777 and 1781. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Mary married John Ford on 28 Nov 1808 in Nelson County, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

John married Maria Hayden on 3 Apr 1808 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Maria (daughter of Robert Hayden and Mary Carlin) died after 1881 in Nelson County, Kentucky; was buried in Holy Cross Cemetery, Holy Cross, Marion, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

William married Eliza Nolin on 25 Jun 1821 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Eliza died after 1865. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

Died unmarried and without issue.

Joseph married Susannah Clark on 25 Oct 1819 in Washington County, Kentucky. Susannah was born about 1799 in Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Notes:

Farmer and distiller.

Charles married Barbara Hagan on 21 Apr 1830 in Bardstown, Nelson, Kentucky. Barbara (daughter of Benjamin Hagan and Nancy Ann Cissell) was born about 1805 in Nelson County, Kentucky; died on 22 Jul 1890 in Daviess County, Kentucky; was buried in St. Alphonsus Church, St. Joseph, Daviess, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

Catherine married Joseph Hayden on 26 Aug 1823 in Nelson County, Kentucky. Joseph (son of George Hayden and Mary "Polly" Elliott) was born about 1800 in Washington County, Kentucky; died before 1883 in Kentucky; was buried in St. Catherine's, New Haven, Nelson, Kentucky. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]